欢迎参加2026年的家庭系统排列工作坊：
📩 报名链接：https://hipsy.nl/meeei

在这一集中，我迎来了一个值得庆祝的时刻：
我的第55集播客。

55，不只是一个数字。
它代表的是——
55 次敞开心扉的勇气，
55 次与生命对话的深刻时刻，
55 步朝向梦想中的自己迈出的脚步。

在这一路的创作中，我收获了四个最珍贵的领悟：

1. 找到你的“为什么”——那盏永不熄灭的内心之灯

播客没有即时回报，完全靠内心的召唤。
我的“为什么”来自走过家庭黑夜、走向光明后的愿望：
愿我的声音，能陪伴哪怕一个正在经历黑暗的人。

2. 享受过程——找到滋养你的创作方式

从“不写稿直接录”到重新拥抱写作，我发现：
愉悦感，是坚持的秘密。
写作不仅帮助我表达，也成为未来书稿和社交媒体的宝贵素材。

3. 记录，而不是创造（Document, don’t create）

我从 Gary Vaynerchuk 那里学到：
生活本身，就是最好的素材。
每周的“活出梦想中的自己”反思播客，
让我和听众一起透过日常的起伏，看见生命的意义。

4. 播客，是最强大的学习方式之一

要分享得清晰，我必须先理解得深入。
写脚本、查资料、举例子…
这个过程让我的成长扎扎实实地扎根。

🎧 这一集，送给你、也送给你心里那个小小的声音：
“我也想讲我的故事…”

你不需要完全准备好。
你不需要完美。
你只需要迈出第一小步。

因为你的声音，一定会触动某一个正在等待你的人。

愿你，
用属于你的方式发光。
愿你的故事，在世界某个角落生根发芽。
愿我们，一起活出梦想中的自己。

In this episode, I celebrate a meaningful milestone:
Episode 55.

55 is not just a number.
It represents—
55 moments of opening my heart,
55 honest reflections,
55 steps toward becoming the dream version of myself.

Along this journey, I learned four precious lessons that changed me:

1. Find Your WHY — the inner flame that keeps burning

Podcasting takes time and brings no instant rewards.
My WHY comes from walking through darkness with my family
and discovering that sharing my voice may bring light to someone going through their own long night.

2. Enjoy the process — in your own unique way

I returned to writing because it nourishes me deeply.
Many podcast notes became book chapters or social posts.
Joy is what sustains long-term creation.

3. Document, don’t create

A teaching from Gary Vaynerchuk that transformed my approach.
Life itself carries all the stories we need —
our struggles, breakthroughs, human moments.
Since May, my weekly reflection episodes have become
a meaningful ritual of grounding, connection, and inner clarity.

4. Podcasting is one of the most powerful ways to learn

To teach clearly, I must understand deeply.
Scripting, researching, and connecting concepts to life
has become one of my greatest sources of growth.

🎧 This episode is a gentle invitation to anyone who dreams of sharing their voice:
You don’t need to be perfect.
You don’t need the full plan.
You only need the courage to begin.

Because somewhere out there,
someone is waiting for your story —
a story only you can tell.

May you shine in your own way.
May your stories take root in the world.
May we continue walking this journey together —
living as the dream versions of ourselves.

欢迎参加2026年的家庭系统排列工作坊：
📩 报名链接：https://hipsy.nl/meeei

在这期播客中，我分享了上周五和周日带领的两场非常特别的工作坊：
一场是为第一代华人老移民的沟通工作坊，
另一场是为在荷兰出生长大的二代华人的家排（家族系统排列）工作坊。

这两群人，两个时代，两种沉默中的情绪，却被同一个主题连接着：
童年时期情感的缺席。

第一代移民以辛劳与牺牲，为孩子打下物质基础，
却在语言障碍与生存压力下，失去了陪伴孩子的机会。
第二代看似成功、优秀，却常常在内心深处感到孤独、焦虑与不安全感。

这一集，我分享：
• 代际创伤是如何在沉默中被悄悄传递的
• 为什么物质无法填补情感缺席的空洞
• 如何让“理解与陪伴”成为疗愈的第一步
• 父母和子女可以从哪里开始重新连结
• 为什么疗愈自己，就是在疗愈上一代和下一代

如果你愿意，也邀请你停下来问问自己：
你是否也在无意识地承载着上一代的痛？
你是否愿意成为那个打破循环、让爱重新流动的人？

欢迎收听本期节目，让我们一起探索——
如何不把沉默中的创伤继续传给下一代。

📅播出频率：

每周两集播客：周一、周四

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In this episode, I share reflections from two workshops I facilitated last week:
one with first-generation Chinese immigrants who came to the Netherlands in the 1970s–1990s,
and another with second-generation Chinese youth who grew up here and do not speak Chinese.

Two groups. Two generations.
Yet both touched the same core wound:
emotional absence in childhood.

The first generation built their families through hard work and survival,
often losing the chance to emotionally accompany their children.
The second generation grew up independent and “successful,”
yet many carry deep feelings of loneliness, insecurity, and not belonging.

In this episode, I explore:
• How intergenerational trauma is quietly transmitted through silence
• Why material support cannot replace emotional presence
• How genuine listening and compassion can reopen connection
• How parents and children can begin to talk again
• Why healing ourselves heals both the generations before and after us

I invite you to reflect:
Are you carrying emotional pain that did not start with you?
And are you ready to stop the cycle so your children don’t inherit it?

Tune in to this episode as we explore how to gently interrupt the unconscious transmission of family pain
and allow love to flow again.

📅 New episodes every week: Monday and Thursdays

If you enjoyed this episode, please:
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在这期播客中，我分享了自己十二年前和两年前许下的两个心愿：
从四十到五十每年回家一次，全心全意地陪伴父母；
在五十到六十岁的十年间，每年至少回去两次。

我讲述了我过去这12年陪伴父母的收获也深刻的连接。 以及父母回到乡村后简单而丰盛的生活和他们的人生态度如何深深影响着我。
这期播客，是一封写给远方父母的信，也是一封写给所有身在异乡的我们自己的信。

愿我们都能活出梦想中的自己。 既有飞翔的翅膀，也有温暖的根。

📅播出频率：

每周两集播客：周一、周四

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In this episode, I share the two vows I made twelve and two years ago:
from age forty to fifty, to return home once every year and be fully present with my parents;
and from fifty to sixty, to visit them at least twice a year.

I talk about the deep connection and precious experiences I’ve gained over the past twelve years of accompanying my parents,
their simple yet abundant life after returning to the countryside,
and how their way of living continues to profoundly shape me.

This episode is a letter to my parents far away,
and also to all of us living abroad, longing for home.

May we all live as the dream versions of ourselves —
with wings to fly, and roots that keep us warm.

📅 New episodes every week: Mondays and Thursdays

If you enjoyed this episode, please:
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在这一集中，我分享：
🌿 我在 IFS 练习中的体悟和洞见
🌿 “生命的马车”如何映照我们内在的多重部分
🌿 三种不同的生命状态：盲目奔跑、疲惫赛跑、有意识的同行
🌿 如何在忙碌与疲惫中重新连接内在的“马”，找回平静与力量

💭 我想邀请你一起思考：

1. 此刻，是你在驾驭你的马车，还是某匹“马”在拉着你？
2. 哪一匹马此刻最需要你的倾听？是那匹批判的马、拼命奔跑的马，还是那匹渴望休息的小马？
3. 当你轻轻地停下来，对它说：“谢谢你，我看见你了”，会发生什么？

🌱 我渐渐明白：
生命的旅程，不是去控制所有的“马”，
而是学会倾听、理解、与它们同行。

愿你在这一周，
带着觉知与温柔，重新握住你生命的缰绳，
让每一匹马都能在爱与理解中, 与你一起朝向灵魂真正想去的方向，轻盈地前行。

📅播出频率：

每周两集播客：周一、周四

如果你喜欢这集内容

请在 Spotify / Apple Podcasts / 小宇宙 / Himalaya 订阅、点赞或留言，
你的每一次支持都在帮助更多人听见内在的声音💛

In this episode, I share:
🌿 My insights and realizations from IFS practice
🌿 How the Life Carriage reveals our inner dynamics
🌿 Three ways we live — blindly running, constantly racing, or moving consciously
🌿 How we can reconnect with our inner horses and bring harmony back to our journey

💭 Reflection questions for you:

1. Who’s driving your life carriage right now — you, or one of your horses?
2. What does that horse need from you — rest, compassion, or gratitude?
3. What happens when you slow down, breathe, and gently say:
   “Thank you. I see you.”

🌱 What I’ve learned is this:
Life isn’t about controlling all our horses,
but about walking alongside them with awareness and love.

May this episode remind you to slow down, reconnect,
and guide your life with gentleness and clarity —
so every part of you can run in harmony,
toward the direction your soul truly longs to go.

📅 New episodes every week: Monday and Thursdays

If you enjoyed this episode, please:
❤️ Please like, rate, or leave a comment on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or YouTube.
Your support helps more people discover this path of healing.

💭 在本集里，你将听到：

• 我如何觉察自己拖延与抗拒的心理
• 为什么《艺术之战》带给我新的勇气
• 怎样用“小步前行”的方式，让创作重新流动
• 关于外界噪音与内在平静的思考

🌱 给你的几个反思问题：

1. 你最近有没有在拖延一件对你很重要的事？
2. 当你想到它时，身体出现什么感觉？焦虑、紧张、还是愧疚？
3. 你的“抗拒”通常以什么样的方式出现？
4. 你能不能给自己一个温柔的小约定——今天迈出最小的一步？

💗 愿这期节目，陪你一起走过那段充满噪音的路，回到你内心的宁静与力量之中。

📅播出频率：

每周两集播客：周一、周四

如果你喜欢这集内容

请在 Spotify / Apple Podcasts / 小宇宙 / Himalaya 订阅、点赞或留言，
你的每一次支持都在帮助更多人听见内在的声音💛

💭 In this episode, I share:

• My personal reflections on procrastination and inner resistance
• How The War of Art and The Artist’s Way inspired me
• Why small daily steps can dissolve creative fear
• How to find inner peace amidst the noise of the outside world

🌱 Reflection prompts for you:

1. What’s one thing you’ve been putting off that truly matters to you?
2. When you think of it, what sensations arise in your body — tension, guilt, or restlessness?
3. How does your resistance usually show up?
4. What’s one tiny action you can take today — just one gentle step toward your dream?

💗 May this episode remind you to slow down, to breathe, and to return to the quiet strength within you.

📅 New episodes every week: Monday and Thursdays

If you enjoyed this episode, please:
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Your support helps more people discover this path of healing.

在本期第50集特别播客中，我邀请你一起很多华人家长都会遇到的挑战：当孩子进入青春期后，我们之间的沟通为何变得越来越少，越来越难？

我们会一起走进这个阶段背后的心理与系统动力，理解为什么孩子会把我们“推开”，以及他们真正渴望的，其实是理解、倾听与被深深看见。

在这期播客中你将听到：

• 青春期的孩子为何讨厌建议，却渴望被理解
• 什么是“冰山上的情绪”与“冰山下的需求”
• 为什么“深度倾听”胜过千言万语的建议
• 如何通过身体感知，陪伴孩子的情绪流动
• 给孩子空间与边界，是尊重也是爱的方式
• 家长如何先倾听自己，才更能接纳孩子的不完美

最后，我邀请你闭上眼睛，与你青春期的孩子坐在一起，只是陪伴、无须言语。

这是我特别想送给每一位为家庭努力的你的一集——愿你感受到，你并不孤单，我在这里，陪伴你。

🔑 精彩段落 Highlights

• “真正的连结，不是语言的多少，而是心灵的距离。”
• “每一个孩子关起门的瞬间，都是在练习未来如何给出边界。”
• “我们最大的礼物，不是建议，而是无条件的爱与接纳。”
• “当我们自己都无法看见和接纳自己时，也很难真正看见和接纳孩子。”

🎧 收听建议 | Listening Tips

• 推荐和你的伴侣一起聆听这集，一起探索对孩子的陪伴方式
• 播客中会有一段静心引导，建议在安静、放松的时刻聆听
• 如果你有朋友也正面对类似的挑战，欢迎转发这集给他们

💬 分享你的心声 | Share Your Thoughts

这集播客有没有触动你内心的一部分？
你愿意练习以全然的临在陪伴你的青春期孩子吗？
欢迎留言、订阅、并在你的平台分享这集节目，让更多家庭受益！

In this special 50th episode of MEEEI: 心光集 · HeartLight, I invite you to reflect on one of the most universal challenges Chinese parents face — why does communication with our teens become so difficult and distant?

We’ll explore the inner world of adolescents, the systemic dynamics behind resistance, and why what our children truly long for is not advice, but deep understanding and emotional presence.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Why teens often hate advice but crave being truly understood
• The difference between surface emotions and deeper unmet needs
• How deep listening is more powerful than problem-solving
• How your own body can become a tool to empathize and attune
• Why respecting your teen’s space and boundaries is a gift of love
• How to first listen to yourself, so you can better accept your imperfect child

Toward the end, I guide you into a short visualization to simply sit beside your teen — not to fix, not to teach, but to lovingly be present.

This episode is a heartfelt offering to every parent walking this path — may you feel seen, supported, and reminded that you are not alone. I’m here, with you.

欢迎你参加我未来的几场家庭系统排列工作坊：
📩 报名链接：https://hipsy.nl/shop/meeei

在这一集，我邀请你一起走进一个真实而温暖的疗愈之旅。过去几周，我陪伴了几个小组的成长，也带领了几场系统排列工作坊，目睹了深刻的转化。这些过程中我再次体会到：真正的疗愈，始于一个安全、被看见、被接住的空间。

💗 本集亮点内容包括：

• 安全感与全然接纳，是疗愈发生的前提
• 如何觉察并面对我们内在的创伤
• 什么是“大爱”？如何打开内在爱的闸门
• 正念的力量：日常生活中如何用正念为自己“微充电”
• 父母与照护者如何在陪伴他人时，也陪伴自己

🌱 希望你在这一集中感受到陪伴的力量，也愿你带着这份温柔去拥抱自己与身边的人。

📅播出频率：

每周两集播客：周一、周四

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请在 Spotify / Apple Podcasts / 小宇宙 / Himalaya 订阅、点赞或留言，
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📩 Register for my upcoming Family Constellation Workshops:
https://hipsy.nl/shop/meeei

In this deeply personal episode, I share what I’ve been witnessing in the past few weeks as I hold space for groups, family constellation workshops, and one-on-one healing journeys. I speak about how true transformation happens—slowly, gently—when we feel seen, safe, and held.

💗 In this episode:

• Why safety and unconditional acceptance are prerequisites for healing
• How to recognize hidden or unspoken trauma
• What is “big love,” and how to unlock our inner reservoir of love
• The power of mindfulness as a daily source of inner nourishment
• How to accompany others without losing ourselves

🌿 May this episode remind you: every time we choose to slow down and be present, we plant a seed of love. One that can root, grow, and bloom—in you and through you.

Follow me on Xiaohongshu, Bilibili, and Xiaoyuzhou Podcast for more content and insights on healing, parenting, and systemic wisdom.

📅 New episodes every week: Monday and Thursdays

If you enjoyed this episode, please:
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Your support helps more people discover this path of healing.

在过去几年里，我陪伴了近几百位青春期孩子的家长，帮助他们在亲子关系中建立更深的连接。在这个过程中，我发现：很多沟通的问题，并不是技巧问题，而是对情绪理解的缺失。

在今天的第48集播客中，我将与你分享：

🔹 什么是原始情绪（primary emotions）？
🔹 什么是次级情绪（secondary emotions）？
🔹 我们为什么要学会分辨这两种情绪？
🔹 什么是“滴水创伤”？为什么它在华人家庭中如此常见？
🔹 为什么我们常常会对伴侣、孩子、父母反应过度？
🔹 父母该如何打破“情绪屏蔽”的代际循环？
🔹 如何让孩子在家庭中感受到真正的理解与陪伴？

本集特别适合：

✨ 想要更了解自己内心情绪的父母
✨ 渴望疗愈与成长、改善与孩子关系的人
✨ 希望打破代际创伤模式的家庭成员

愿这期播客能帮助你更温柔地面对自己，也更深地理解孩子与家人。愿我们都成为彼此生命中的温暖灯塔。

⏱️ Timestamps 时间轴

时间点内容摘要

00:00 | 开场 & 介绍今天的主题：原始情绪 vs 刺激情绪
02:28 | 什么是原始情绪？为何它重要？
04:51 | 什么是刺激情绪？它如何掩盖了原始需求？
07:14 | 冰山模型：我们看到的情绪只是表象
09:39 | 什么是“滴水创伤”？它如何在童年中悄然累积？
12:05 | 被忽视的情绪如何在成年后转化为控制、冷漠、自我怀疑等模式？
16:57 | 拒绝父母 = 断开与生命源泉的连接？系统性视角的洞见
19:20 | 如何陪伴孩子表达原始情绪？沟通中的实际语言建议
21:49 | 自我书写练习：连接你的原始情绪与内在小孩
23:00 | 温柔结束：看见自己，就是疗愈的开始

📅播出频率：

每周两集播客：周一、周四

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你的每一次支持都在帮助更多人听见内在的声音💛

In this episode, I share what I have learned from supporting many Chinese parents of teenagers over the past few years.

We explore:

🔹 What are primary emotions?
🔹 What are secondary emotions?
🔹 How do unprocessed childhood feelings lead to “low-intensity trauma”?
🔹 What is “drip trauma” and how does it silently shape Chinese family dynamics?
🔹 Why do we often overreact to our loved ones?
🔹 How can we as parents truly see and accompany our children?
🔹 How do we become the emotional lighthouse in our children’s lives?

This episode is for parents, caregivers, and anyone on the journey of healing family relationships.

Follow me on Xiaohongshu, Bilibili, and Xiaoyuzhou Podcast for more content and insights on healing, parenting, and systemic wisdom.

📅 New episodes every week: Monday and Thursdays

If you enjoyed this episode, please:
❤️ Please like, rate, or leave a comment on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or YouTube.
Your support helps more people discover this path of healing.