欢迎报名参加2026年家庭系统排列工作坊：
📩 往期学员反馈，工作坊信息和报名链接：https://hipsy.nl/meeei

这是上一集的延续。

在第69集中，我分享了一个重要的视角：
从受孕、怀孕到出生的这段历程，如何在无形中影响我们的安全感、自我价值感，以及我们面对关系、压力和人生挑战的方式。

这一集，我想邀请你更进一步地去探索：
当我们开始意识到这些“生命最早的印记”确实在影响我们时，我们可以做些什么？

🌿 本集你将听到：

1. 作为成年人，我们如何开始自我疗愈？
   为什么真正的改变，往往发生在安静与连接之中？
   以及我们可以如何通过系统性的方式，去整合那些早期的生命经验。
2. 作为父母，我们可以做什么？
   在这一部分，我分享了一个非常个人的故事——
   关于我大女儿来到这个世界时所经历的挑战，以及多年之后，我如何重新理解这段经历，与她建立连接，并陪伴她一起面对与疗愈。
3. 如果你正准备成为父母
   孩子的旅程，并不是从怀孕开始，
   而是从你决定迎接这个生命的那一刻开始。
   孩子最早的“家”，不是房子，
   而是母亲的身体、父母之间的关系，以及家庭中的爱与连接。

如果这一集触动了你，
也欢迎你来参加我的生命整合历程工作坊，
一起回到生命最早的故事里，看见、承认与整合。

📍 时间：6月20日 / 11月21日
📍 地点：荷兰 Soest

如果你喜欢这一集，欢迎分享给一个你关心的人。
也欢迎你留言，和我分享你的感受与故事。

让我们一起，把更多理解与温柔，带回生命的起点。

This is a continuation of the previous episode.

In Episode 69, I shared an important perspective: how the journey from conception, through pregnancy, to birth may invisibly shape our sense of safety, self-worth, and the way we relate to others, stress, and life’s challenges.

In this episode, I invite you to go one step deeper.
When we begin to realize that these “earliest imprints of life” truly influence us, what can we do?

🌿 In this episode, you will hear:

1. As adults, how can we begin to heal ourselves?
   Why does real transformation often happen in stillness and connection?
   And how can we integrate early experiences through systemic approaches?
2. As parents, what can we do?
   Here, I share a deeply personal story—
   about the challenges my eldest daughter faced when she came into this world, and how, years later, I began to understand, reconnect, and support her in healing those early experiences.
3. If you are preparing to become a parent
   A child’s journey does not begin at pregnancy,
   but from the moment you decide to welcome a new life.
   A child’s first “home” is not a house,
   but the mother’s body, the parents’ relationship, and the love and connection within the family.

If this episode resonates with you,
you are warmly invited to join my Life Integration Process workshops,
where we gently return to the earliest stories of life—to see, acknowledge, and integrate.

📍 Dates: June 20 / November 21
📍 Location: Soest, The Netherlands

If you found this episode meaningful, feel free to share it with someone you care about.
You are also welcome to leave a comment or message me to share your reflections or story.

Let us bring more understanding and warmth back to the very beginning of life.

欢迎报名参加2026年家庭系统排列工作坊：
📩 往期学员反馈，工作坊信息和报名链接：https://hipsy.nl/meeei

这周，我被荷兰产前与围产期心理学专家 Anna Verwaal 的研究深深触动。她提出一个非常深刻的观点：

我们今天许多情绪模式、关系困扰、安全感与自我价值感，可能并不只是从童年开始形成的。

有些故事，也许开始得更早。

也许，从受孕、怀孕到出生的那段历程，生命最早的经验，就已经悄悄影响着今天的我们。

这一集播客里，我分享了自己从 Anna Verwaal 那里学到的重要洞见，也分享了我最近参加 LIP（生命整合历程）培训时亲眼看见的一些深刻案例与感受。

回望生命的这个过程，不是为了责怪父母，也不是把人生简单归因于过去。

而是帮助我们带着更多意识、理解、温柔与觉察，重新认识自己，理解自己为何成为今天的自己。

这一集，我分享三个核心主题：

1. 安全感与信任感，也许从孕期就开始建立了
胎儿会感受到母亲在怀孕期间的情绪状态。母亲的焦虑、压力、平静与被支持感，都可能成为孩子最早期对世界的体验。

2. 被欢迎感，会深深影响我们的自我价值感
一个生命来到这个世界时，是否被期待、被欢迎、被珍惜，可能影响一个人内心深处的价值感与归属感。

3. 出生过程，可能影响我们面对压力的方式
艰难的分娩、早产、出生后与母亲分离等经历，都可能被身体记录下来，并在成年后影响我们面对压力与改变的反应。

一个温柔的提醒

理解过去，不是为了停留在过去。

而是为了停止无意识的重复，重新把爱带回自己生命里。

下一集，我会继续分享：

在中国家庭文化背景下，这些早期印记如何被放大。
作为成年人，我们可以如何疗愈与整合。
如果你正准备成为父母，如何从生命一开始，给孩子一个不同的起点。

愿这一集，陪你回到生命最初的地方。
愿你在那里，重新温柔地遇见自己。

This week, I was deeply moved by the work of Dutch pre and perinatal psychology expert Anna Verwaal. She offers a profound perspective:

Many of the emotional patterns, relationship struggles, feelings of safety, and sense of self-worth we experience today may not begin only in childhood.

Some stories may begin much earlier.

Perhaps the journey from conception, through pregnancy, to birth already leaves early imprints that continue to influence us throughout life.

In this episode, I share key insights I learned from Anna Verwaal, along with moving experiences and real examples I witnessed during my recent LIP (Life Integration Process) training.

Looking back at this journey of life is not about blaming our parents, nor about reducing our lives to the past.

It is about helping us meet ourselves with greater awareness, understanding, tenderness, and insight — and to understand why we became who we are today.

In this episode, I explore three core themes:

1. Safety and trust may begin forming during pregnancy
A baby can sense the emotional state of the mother during pregnancy. Her stress, fear, calmness, or sense of support may become some of the child’s earliest experiences of the world.

2. Feeling welcomed can shape our sense of self-worth
Whether a life is received with joy, uncertainty, pressure, or love may deeply influence a person’s inner sense of value, belonging, and right to exist.

3. The birth process may shape how we respond to pressure
Difficult births, premature birth, separation from the mother after birth, or intense delivery experiences may be stored in the body and later affect how we handle stress, change, and emotional overwhelm.

A gentle reminder

Understanding the past is not about staying trapped in it.

It is about ending unconscious repetition and bringing love back into our lives.

In Part 2, I will continue sharing:

How these early imprints may be amplified in Chinese family culture.
What adults can do to heal and integrate these early experiences.
How future parents can offer their children a healthier beginning from the very start.

May this episode guide you back to the beginning of life.
And may you meet yourself there with greater tenderness.

在小宇宙重新分享《发光发热》播客近两个月，我投入了很多时间与心力，上传了十四集节目，却几乎没有听众，也没有任何反馈。

就在我决定继续坚持下去，也刚刚开始迎来一些新听众的时候，我收到了第一条负面评论。

那一刻，我问了自己一个问题：

我是要停下来怀疑自己，还是继续往前走？

这一集播客，我分享这段经历带给我的五个重要领悟。

第一，负面反馈不一定是打击，也可能是一份成长的礼物。我带着平静与感谢回应了这份提醒，也感谢对方后来给出了更具体的建议。真正的成长，往往来自愿意听见不同声音，也愿意继续前行。

第二，当无人问津的时候，我重新回到最初的初心。我做这个播客，并不是为了流量、数据或订阅，而是希望在家庭最挣扎的时刻，给父母带去一点温暖和光亮。当父母重新找到力量，孩子也更有机会健康成长。

第三，没有今天的不完美，就没有明天的进步。如果总要等到准备充分、表达完美才开始，也许很多梦想永远不会开始。真实的人，都是在行动中学习，在表达中修正，在持续中成长。

第四，恐惧与创造力常常同行。这是伊丽莎白·吉尔伯特在《Big Magic》里分享的智慧。当我们试图消灭恐惧时，也可能同时压抑了创造力。很多时候，害怕并不代表不能开始。

第五，我们可以邀请恐惧同行，但绝不让它掌舵。恐惧可以坐在后排安静陪伴，你甚至可以感谢它想保护你。但人生的方向盘，必须握在自己手里。

我也真心推荐《Big Magic》这本书。如果你正在创作的边缘犹豫不决，它也许会给你很多勇气。

如果你也正在犹豫要不要开始一件事，或者怀疑自己是否已经够好才配出发，也许可以轻轻问自己一句：

我在等的，到底是什么？

愿你带着恐惧，带着不完美，迈出第一步。
愿我们在一步一步的行动中，成为梦想中的自己。

For nearly two months, I have invested a great deal of time and energy into re-sharing my podcast Shining and Radiating on the Xiaoyuzhou platform. I uploaded fourteen episodes, yet there were almost no listeners and no feedback at all.

Just when I decided to keep going, and had finally begun to welcome a few new listeners, I received my very first comment.

In that moment, I asked myself an important question:

Do I stop and doubt myself, or do I keep moving forward?

In this episode, I share five reflections that grew from this experience.

First, critical feedback is not always a defeat. Sometimes it can be a gift for growth. I responded with calmness and gratitude, and I appreciated that more specific suggestions followed. Growth often begins when we are willing to hear different voices while still continuing our path.

Second, when no one seems to notice, I return to my original intention. I did not create this podcast for numbers, subscribers, or popularity. I created it to bring a little warmth and light to parents during some of family life’s hardest moments. When parents regain strength, children are more able to flourish.

Third, without today’s imperfect steps, there is no tomorrow’s progress. If we wait until we are fully ready or perfect before we begin, many dreams may never begin at all. Real people grow through action, correction, and continued practice.

Fourth, fear and creativity often travel together. This is one of the key insights Elizabeth Gilbert shares in Big Magic. When we try to eliminate fear completely, we may also silence our creativity. Feeling afraid does not mean we cannot begin.

Fifth, we can invite fear along for the ride, but never let it drive. Fear may sit quietly in the back seat. You may even thank it for trying to protect you. But the steering wheel of your life must remain in your hands.

I sincerely recommend Big Magic. If you are standing at the edge of creating something meaningful, this book may offer you courage.

If you are hesitating to begin something, or doubting whether you are “good enough” to start, perhaps gently ask yourself:

What exactly am I waiting for?

May you take your first step with fear, with imperfection, and with courage.
May we all become the version of ourselves we dream of being, one step at a time.