欢迎参加2026年的家庭系统排列工作坊：
📩 学员反馈和报名链接：https://hipsy.nl/meeei

这一集，我带你走进 Mark Wolynn 的《It Didn’t Start With You | 这不是从你开始的》这本书中。我们会一起理解：为什么有些痛、一些恐惧、一些反复出现的模式，怎么努力都摆脱不了。答案也许并不在“你不够好”，而是在你所承载的家庭记忆里。

它可能不是从你开始的，但是，疗愈可以从你开始。

你会听到什么
1.作者的真实故事：当“答案不在外面，而在回家与父母和解”
2.用表观遗传学（epigenetics）做一个容易懂的切入：创伤不仅在心理，也可能在身体里留下痕迹，并影响下一代
3.核心语言地图 Core Language Map 的四个入口：
•核心抱怨：你最常反复抱怨什么
•核心形容词：想到父母时浮现的三个词
•核心句子：你内心深处那句挥之不去的话
•核心创伤：失去、分离、贫穷、暴力、被排除、羞耻等
4.我自己的第一次家排经历
5.两个真实来访案例：
6.我参加的一场男性居多的家排工作坊：看见强者背后的脆弱与眼泪，也让我对身边的男性产生更深的理解与温柔

线下工作坊邀请（荷兰 Soest）
为第一代与第二代华人设计的系统工作坊，连接中国的根，找到飞翔的翅膀。

•2 月 14 日 14:00–17:00 中文
•4 月 11 日 10:00–16:30 荷兰语
•5 月 9 日 14:00–17:00 中文
•6 月 20 日 10:00–16:30 英文 LIP 生命整合历程

In this episode, I invite you to step into Mark Wolynn’s book It Didn’t Start With You. Together, we explore why certain pains, fears, and recurring patterns can feel impossible to shake, no matter how hard we try. The answer may not be that “you’re not good enough,” but that you are carrying family memories that live on through generations.

And please remember this: it may not have started with you, but healing can start with you.

What you’ll hear in this episode
1.The author’s real-life story: when “the answer isn’t out there, but in going home and making peace with your parents.”
2.A simple, accessible introduction to epigenetics: how trauma may leave traces not only in the mind, but also in the body, and can influence the next generation.
3.The four entry points of the Core Language Map:
oCore Complaint: what you find yourself repeatedly complaining about
oCore Descriptors: three words that arise when you think of your parents
oCore Sentence: the one sentence that keeps echoing in your inner world
oCore Trauma: themes such as loss, separation, poverty, violence, exclusion, shame, and more
4.My own first experience with family constellations
5.Two real client stories
6.A family constellations workshop I attended with mostly male participants: witnessing the vulnerability and tears behind “strength,” and how it helped me hold the men around me with deeper understanding and tenderness

In-person workshop invitation (Soest, the Netherlands)
Systemic workshops designed especially for first- and second-generation Chinese people — reconnect with your Chinese roots and find your wings.
Registration and details: https://hipsy.nl/meeei
•14 Feb 14:00–17:00 | Facilitated in Chinese
•11 Apr 10:00–16:30 | Facilitated in Dutch
•9 May 14:00–17:00 | Facilitated in Chinese
•20 Jun 10:00–16:30 | English LIP Life Integration Process Workshop