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Emotional intelligence is more than understanding your feelings. It is the ability to recognize, manage, and respond to your emotions in ways that strengthen your relationships, increase your confidence, and bring greater peace into your everyday life. But what happens when you've spent years suppressing your emotions or reacting from unresolved pain?

In this empowering conversation, Coach Tammy Nicole sits down with Steph Jones (Lilac Calandra), a minister, therapist, and mindfulness life coach, to explore how emotional intelligence transforms the way we think, communicate, heal, and connect with others. Steph shares practical tools for becoming more emotionally aware, creating space for honest conversations, embracing the full expression of your emotions, and using mindfulness practices, breathing exercises, and meditation to regulate your emotional responses.

If you've ever found yourself reacting before thinking, struggling to communicate your feelings, or wondering why certain situations trigger you so deeply, this episode will help you understand that emotional intelligence is a skill that can be developed. Healing begins when awareness meets intentional action.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• What emotional intelligence really is and why it matters.
• How unresolved emotions shape your daily decisions and relationships.
• Practical techniques to regulate emotions before reacting.
• The role mindfulness, breathing, and meditation play in emotional wellness.
• How emotional awareness leads to greater peace, wholeness, and healthier connections.

About Steph Jones (Lilac Calandra)

Steph Jones (Lilac Calandra) is a minister, therapist, and mindfulness life coach whose life's mission is to guide people back to the road of peace, wholeness, and wellness. She encourages the full expression of emotions, honest conversations, and intentional healing through mindfulness, breathing exercises, and meditation, empowering others to discover the healthiest version of themselves.

Connect with Steph Jones (Lilac Calandra):
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SelahMindset
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/selahmindsetcc

About Your Host

Hi, my name is Coach Tammy Nicole. I help women reclaim their voice, their worth, and their power so they can stand in clarity, confidence, and courage. Through coaching, speaking, and transformational conversations, I help women identify the emotional patterns that have been shaping their lives so they can heal, break unhealthy cycles, and become emotionally available for the life and relationships they deserve.

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Have you ever found yourself reacting in ways that didn't make sense, then wondered, "Why did that affect me so deeply?" The answer may not be the moment itself. It may be the unresolved trauma beneath it.

In this powerful episode, Coach Tammy Nicole sits down with Darsha D. Clark, Licensed Professional Counselor, relationship expert, speaker, and author of Adventures in Love, to unpack the connection between trauma and emotional triggers. Together, they explore how past experiences silently shape our present reactions, influence our relationships, and impact the way we see ourselves.

With nearly three decades of experience in the mental health field, Darsha shares practical insights on recognizing emotional triggers, developing greater self-awareness, setting healthy boundaries, and choosing healing over survival patterns. She reminds us that while hurt people often hurt people, healing people change generations.

If you've ever felt like your emotions take over before you can think, or you've struggled to understand why certain situations leave you feeling overwhelmed, rejected, or defensive, this conversation will help you connect the dots and begin responding with intention instead of reacting from old wounds.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• What emotional triggers really are and where they come from.
• How unresolved trauma influences everyday reactions.
• Why self-awareness is the foundation of healing.
• Practical strategies for managing emotional triggers in relationships.
• How healing your past creates healthier connections with yourself and others.

About Our Guest

Darsha D. Clark is a Licensed Professional Counselor who has served in the mental health field since 1997. She specializes in helping individuals and couples strengthen their emotional well-being and relationships through vulnerability, empathy, healthy boundaries, and intentional self-awareness.

Drawing from both her professional expertise and her personal experience as a wife of over 18 years, Darsha helps people create healthier, more fulfilling relationships while breaking cycles of pain. She is also the author of Adventures in Love and a sought-after speaker known for creating engaging, honest, and transformative conversations that inspire lasting change.

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YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@DarshaDClarktherapist

Website - www.darshadclarkauthor.com

About Your Host

Hi, my name is Coach Tammy Nicole. I help women reclaim their voice, their worth, and their power so they can stand in clarity, confidence, and courage.

As an Identity Reclamation Coach, speaker, and founder of the ICU Framework, Tammy helps women uncover the hidden emotional patterns that keep them stuck, break free from cycles of self-abandonment, and build lives rooted in authenticity rather than survival.

Ready to stop asking, "Why am I like this?" and start becoming the woman you were created to be?

Join Coach Tammy Nicole for her weekly "Why Am I Like This?" webinar and begin your journey toward lasting transformation.

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What do you do with the emotions you've been taught to hide?

Too often, we judge ourselves for feeling angry, anxious, hurt, or overwhelmed. We label our emotions as weakness instead of seeing them as invitations to heal. But what if your emotions aren't the problem? What if they are pointing you toward the healing you've been praying for?

In this powerful conversation, Coach Tammy Nicole, Self Love and Identity Coach, sits down with ordained minister, Licensed Professional Counselor, life coach, transformational speaker, and founder of Revive Generational Counseling and The Unshakable Kingdom, Lizette Garcia, to unpack how we can process difficult emotions without carrying shame. Together, they explore the connection between emotional health, trauma, faith, and identity, offering practical and biblical wisdom for navigating life's hardest moments.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• Why difficult emotions are not something to fear or suppress.
• How shame keeps you trapped in unhealthy emotional cycles.
• The difference between feeling your emotions and allowing them to control your life.
• How unresolved trauma can influence your emotional responses.
• Practical, faith-centered tools for emotional healing and restoration.
• How embracing your emotions can strengthen your relationship with God and yourself.

Whether you've spent years pretending you're "fine" or you're just beginning your healing journey, this conversation will remind you that healing doesn't begin by avoiding your emotions. It begins by acknowledging them with honesty, grace, and courage.

Connect with Lizette Garcia

Websites
• Revive Generational Counseling: https://revivegenerationalcounseling.com/
• The Unshakable Kingdom: https://theunshakablekingdom.com/

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The Unshakable Kingdom
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100091367806962
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunshakablekingdom/

Revive Generational Counseling
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/revivegenerationalcounseling/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588125972608

Contact
Phone: (214) 444-3391
Email: info@revivegenerationalcounseling.com

Connect with Coach Tammy Nicole

Coach Tammy Nicole helps women reclaim their voice, their worth, and their power so they can stand in clarity, confidence, and courage. Through coaching, speaking, and transformational conversations, she helps women identify the patterns that have shaped them, heal from emotional wounds, and become the woman they were created to be.

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