Growing up in a toxic family system wires you to live in shame and codependency—and often leads you to attract narcissists or relationships that repeat the cycle. In this episode, Lisa A. Romano explains how childhood trauma programs your brain and nervous system for survival, and how you can begin breaking free from people-pleasing, guilt, and self-abandonment. If you're ready to reclaim your self-worth and step out of survival mode, this is your wake-up call.

✨ This episode is a must-listen if you:

• Grew up with alcoholism, narcissism, or neglect in your family system

• Feel stuck in codependent patterns and toxic relationships

• Struggle with guilt, shame, or saying "no"

• Long to reclaim your self-worth and live authentically

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In this powerful episode, Lisa A. Romano, trauma-informed life coach and codependency recovery expert, dives deep into the often-overlooked role that anger plays in the healing journey from parental narcissism and complex trauma. Growing up in a dysfunctional family can leave emotional scars that are not easily seen, but they shape how we experience relationships and view ourselves as adults.

• How denial serves as a survival strategy in dysfunctional family systems and how it can keep us stuck in toxic patterns

• The hidden anger that emerges from growing up with one narcissistic parent and another who was passive or emotionally absent

• Why it's common to feel guilt or confusion when recognizing anger toward a passive parent, even when they weren't overtly harmful

• How anger toward both parents can fuel the codependent behaviors and emotional dysregulation that often follow complex trauma

• The critical step of recognizing your anger as a valid emotion in the recovery process, and how it leads to clarity and healing

When we grow up in a home where one parent's instability wreaks havoc, and the other's passivity leaves us emotionally unprotected, we internalize survival mechanisms like hyper-independence or helplessness. These patterns affect our ability to set healthy boundaries, build trust, and create meaningful connections later in life.

Recognizing anger as part of the healing process is key. It isn't about blaming anyone, but rather about understanding how these dynamics shaped your sense of worth, your self-protection mechanisms, and your relationships today.

Lisa's 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program helps you break free from codependency, complex trauma, and the long-lasting effects of narcissistic abuse. Through transformational lessons, journaling exercises, and neuroscience-based tools, this program will guide you toward emotional autonomy and inner peace.

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It is estimated that there are at least 28 million adult children of alcoholics in the United States alone. The statistics are staggering. Combine those numbers with a deep understanding of the impact of growing up in an alcoholic home, and it becomes easy to understand why so many adult children struggle with emotional regulation, telling the truth, setting boundaries and with emotional dependencies that result in seeking approval and validation in order to feel somewhat 'normal'.

Many adult children of alcoholics do not even know their parents or grandparents were alcoholics. Toxic family systems are enmeshed and shrouded in denial. When the adults in the family are not addressing their trauma, they inadvertently pass that trauma down to their children. Listen in as Lisa A. Romano offers adult children across the globe an opportunity to better understand themselves, how they process their emotions and perceive themselves and the world through a trauma lens, offering all those who are willing and ready an opportunity to live above the veil of consciousness, the only place where true transformation can occur.

This episode is a must-listen if you:

• Grew up with a parent who struggle with addiction.

• You are the grandchild of an alcoholic.

• Recognize that you struggle to know what you want or need.

• Identify as a cyclebreaker, who is ready to speak the truth and end generational trauma with you!

✨ Pro tip: Understanding your parent's trauma is often a key in recovering from subconscious faulty, negative childhood survival patterns.

Begin Your Healing Journey:

Lisa introduces her signature 12 Week Breakthrough Method—a trauma-informed, neuroscience-based coaching program designed for adult children of narcissistic, neglectful, or emotionally immature parents.

Inside the program, you'll discover:

• Brain retraining techniques rooted in neuroscience.

• Inner child healing and self-concept reorganization.

• Journaling prompts and assessments to increase self-awareness.

• Tools to stop subconscious self-abandonment and live authentically.

• How to integrate shadow work and break toxic generational patterns.

Thousands have transformed their lives with this method—learning to step out of survival mode and into authentic, empowered living.

👉 Learn more: https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp

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When Innocence Feels Like Rejection: How Codependent Mothers Misread Their Children

What happens when a child's innocent comment gets filtered through the lens of an unhealthy, codependent mom versus a healthy, emotionally attuned mom? The difference can shape not only the child's self-worth but also the generational cycle of codependency.

In this episode, Lisa A. Romano, Breakthrough Life Coach and bestselling author, unpacks how unhealed wounds distort a mother's perception of her child's needs and words. An emotionally unhealthy mother, trapped in her own unresolved pain, may perceive an innocent statement like "I wish I could play with you more" as a personal attack—triggering shame, defensiveness, or withdrawal. A healthy mother, however, sees the same comment for what it is: a child's bid for love and connection.

This powerful contrast reveals why addressing codependency is not just self-work—it's generational work. If left unchecked, codependency programs children to feel responsible for others' feelings, abandon their own needs, and repeat the same painful patterns in adulthood.

Lisa shows you how to break the cycle by teaching:

• Why codependent programming distorts reality and causes misinterpretation of innocent words.

• The neuroscience behind why trauma survivors often personalize others' emotions.

• How healthy mothers validate their child's truth without collapsing into shame or defensiveness.

• Why breaking free from codependency is the single most important gift you can pass to your children.

This episode is a must-listen if you:

• Grew up with a parent who made you feel guilty for your feelings.

• Struggle with people-pleasing or fearing rejection.

• Want to stop codependency from spilling into your parenting or relationships.

• Are ready to see how your healing ripples into future generations.

✨ Pro tip: Awareness is the first step. When you learn to recognize these patterns, you reclaim your ability to create healthy connections and stop carrying wounds that were never yours to bear.

Begin Your Healing Journey:

Lisa introduces her signature 12 Week Breakthrough Method—a trauma-informed, neuroscience-based coaching program designed for adult children of narcissistic, neglectful, or emotionally immature parents.

Inside the program, you'll discover:

• Brain retraining techniques rooted in neuroscience.

• Inner child healing and self-concept reorganization.

• Journaling prompts and assessments to increase self-awareness.

• Tools to stop subconscious self-abandonment and live authentically.

• How to integrate shadow work and break toxic generational patterns.

Thousands have transformed their lives with this method—learning to step out of survival mode and into authentic, empowered living.

👉 Learn more: https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp

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The Truth About Empaths, Childhood Trauma, and Shadow Work

Are empaths born—or made?

In this eye-opening episode, Lisa A. Romano, Breakthrough Life Coach and bestselling author, explores the origin of empathic sensitivity and its powerful connection to childhood trauma, emotional wounding, and spiritual purpose.

Some empaths are created through painful early experiences—rejection, abandonment, emotional neglect, and feeling unseen. These wounds condition the developing brain into hypervigilance, keeping the child's psyche locked in "scanning mode." When a child is forced to tune into the emotions and behavior of others to feel safe, they become disconnected from their true self—and this is the breeding ground for codependency.

Other empaths are born, arriving with a spiritual assignment. Their nervous systems and emotional bodies are designed to feel what others suppress. Often, these empathic souls absorb the denied pain of their caregivers—especially unhealed maternal figures. Over time, these empaths become sensitive not just to individual pain, but to the collective suffering that society ignores.

But without proper tools, empaths can become emotionally capsized, overwhelmed by the very gift they were meant to use consciously. That's why Lisa teaches empaths how to use symbols, metaphors, and boundaries to reframe their experience, and to reclaim the connection to self that trauma stole.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone who:

• Feels deeply affected by other people's moods and energies

• Grew up walking on emotional eggshells

• Struggles with codependency, people-pleasing, or emotional burnout

• Wants to understand the true purpose behind their empathic gifts

You'll also learn why many empaths feel called to "fix" or "rescue" others—and why this often stems from unresolved inner child wounds, not divine purpose. Healing begins when we stop absorbing and start integrating.

Lisa shares why true transformation for empaths lies in shadow work, conscious integration, and elevating the nervous system. Those brave enough to face their own shadows don't just heal themselves—they become vessels for generational healing.

✨ Pro tip: You may want to listen to this episode more than once. It's packed with golden nuggets that could change your life.

Begin Your Healing Journey:

Lisa introduces her signature 12 Week Breakthrough Method—a trauma-informed, neuroscience-based coaching program created specifically for adult children of narcissistic, neglectful, or emotionally immature caregivers.

Inside the program, you'll be guided through:

• Brain retraining techniques rooted in neuroscience
• Inner child healing and self-concept reorganization
• Neuroscience Backed Journaling prompts and assessments to increase self-awareness
• Tools to stop subconscious self-abandonment and start living from your true self
• Embrace shadow work from a higher state of consciousness to experience integration

This method has helped thousands heal from complex trauma and break toxic generational patterns, with tools to rewire limiting beliefs and build authentic self-worth.

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What happens when the very people who were supposed to love us, protect us, and cherish us turn out to be the source of our deepest pain?

In this revealing episode, Lisa A. Romano, trauma-informed life coach and codependency recovery expert, explores the heartbreaking reality behind why so many children grow up loving the very people who harmed them—and how this sets the stage for adult codependency.

From narcissistic parents to emotionally neglectful caregivers, this episode dives into the psychology behind trauma bonding, betrayal blindness, and why our subconscious minds cling to toxic dynamics. Lisa unpacks the emotional and neurological imprinting that causes children—and later, adults—to overlook red flags and remain loyal to harmful people.

In this episode, you'll discover:
🔍 Why the most dangerous people are often the ones closest to us
🧠 How childhood trauma wires the brain for survival, not clarity
💔 The tragic link between emotional betrayal and codependency
🪞 Why children internalize the abuse and blame themselves
🔁 How unresolved childhood wounds manifest as self-abandonment, people-pleasing, and unhealthy adult relationships

This episode is for you if:
✔️ You struggle to set boundaries with family or romantic partners
✔️ You feel guilt or shame for distancing yourself from toxic loved ones
✔️ You often feel drawn to fix, rescue, or gain approval from others
✔️ You suspect your past is still impacting your relationships today

Resources Mentioned:
🌱 Start your healing journey with Lisa's groundbreaking 12 Week Breakthrough Program
👉 https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp

📘 Watch Lisa's related video: Why You Still Love the Person Who Hurt You
👉 YouTube Channel – Lisa A. Romano

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Why do we cling to people who hurt us? Why does the fear of abandonment feel so unbearable? In this episode, Lisa A. Romano, expert in trauma recovery and codependency healing, unpacks the powerful link between attachment theory and codependency.

From early childhood dynamics to the subconscious fears that drive our adult relationships, Lisa breaks down how insecure attachment styles—like anxious or avoidant—set the stage for emotional dependency, people-pleasing, and self-abandonment.

If you've ever felt like you're addicted to love, overly responsible for others, or terrified of being alone, this episode will help you trace those patterns back to their origin—so you can begin to heal them.

In this episode, you'll learn:
What attachment theory is—and how it relates to codependency
How unmet childhood needs create fear-based attachment styles
Why codependents often attract emotionally unavailable partners
How anxious attachment leads to over-functioning in relationships
Steps to begin forming healthier, more secure connections

This episode is for you if you:
✔️ Fear abandonment or rejection in relationships
✔️ Struggle to speak your truth or set healthy boundaries
✔️ Feel responsible for other people's emotions
✔️ Tend to give more than you receive in friendships or love

Resources Mentioned:
🌱 Begin healing your attachment wounds with the 12 Week Breakthrough Program
👉 https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp

🎓 Learn more about attachment theory and recovery on Lisa's YouTube channel
👉 YouTube – Lisa A. Romano

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Does your life feel out of control? Do you find yourself feeling stuck, angry, and resentful, and no matter how hard you try to be nice, or kind, or considerate, you only end up feeling worse? Dear One, that is no accident, as you will learn in this incredible breakthrough episode podcast.

Before Lisa A. Romano was diagnosed with codependency, she lived her life prioritizing others' needs, unaware that her lack of self-awareness, her inability to put herself first, or even to have her needs recognized, was rooted in trauma and missing information. Once Lisa was diagnosed with codependency and learned from an intuitive therapist that she was the adult child of unrecovered adult children of alcoholics, and possibly even dry alcoholics, the wheels in her mind started to turn.

From there, Lisa hit the books and the ground running, consuming every book and mentor she could to help her unwind her mind from self-loathing, hypervigilance, negative self-talk, insecurity, and deep feelings of shame and inadequacy. By adding new data into her data bank of self-understanding, through a ferocious and tenacious will, slowly Lisa's entire inner self-perception began to shift, and like a Rubik's cube, her life started reorganizing itself.

Lisa A. Romano is the first to tell you that healing is ugly, terrifying, and lonesome, and she will also ask that you accept the quest despite this, because it is the only way to break through the thick matrix caused by generational trauma. If you are the adult child of an alcoholic, or if you were raised by toxic, narcissistic, wounded, immature, or codependent parents, or if you grew up in what seemed like a normal family but felt emotionally neglected, this podcast episode will resonate with you.

This episode is a must-listen if you:

• Grew up with a parent who struggle with alcoholic parents.

• You are the grandchild of an alcoholic.

• You feel stuck, angry and like your life is out of control.

• Ache to understand yourself, and how your subconsicous mind controls your emotions, reactions, thinking, and your expectation all outside of conscious awareness.

✨ Pro tip: Understanding how your childhood has impacted how you 'think' today, how you 'react', and what you expect to occur in your life is you activating metacognition. Childhood trauma resides at the subconscious. Lisa's methods help you breakthrough!

Begin Your Healing Journey:

Lisa introduces her signature 12 Week Breakthrough Method—a trauma-informed, psychologist approaved, neuroscience-based coaching program designed for adult children of narcissistic, neglectful, or emotionally immature parents.

Inside the program, you'll discover:

• Brain retraining techniques rooted in neuroscience.

• Inner child healing and self-concept reorganization.

• Journaling prompts and assessments to increase self-awareness.

• Tools to stop subconscious self-abandonment and live authentically.

• How to integrate shadow work and break toxic generational patterns.

Thousands have transformed their lives with this method—learning to step out of survival mode and into authentic, empowered living.

👉 Learn more: https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp

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