Welcome to our mini.chat. Today Tara shares about a psychic experience when she was pregnant over fifteen years ago with her first child.

Jess and Tara talk about psychic matters and ghostie experiences.

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Have you experienced questions or comments on your life-choices from family, friends, or even strangers? External pressures have likely impacted all of us at some point.

Our letter writer is 37, a homeowner, single, and childfree. She is happy with where her life is, and has faith that her life will go the way it’s meant to. She shares her feelings about getting repeatedly questioned on her choices, dating life, and future.

How do we decide which experiences we want to have in life? What do you consider to be truly living a fulfilled life for yourself?

Remember: Just because you're not living the way people expect you to, doesn't mean you're not living a meaningful life.

Jess & Tara share some of the unsolicited questions they have received throughout their adult lives.

How do you know when to ask certain questions? How can we practice not answering questions that make us feel uncomfortable?

Jess recommends considering how well you know someone when asking questions about life & future plans.

Tara considers the difference between a question, and a judgement.

Is it okay to ask specific questions if someone has already opened up the dialogue about their plans?

Topics touched on:

-The movie "The Invention of Lying" with Ricky Gervais

-Being a stay-at-home mom

-Feeling like we have to justify our choices and circumstances, and expecting pressure and certain questions, because it has become the social norm

-If someone asks you a question that you don't want to answer, or makes you uncomfortable, you do not have to answer. Have tools and responses in your back pocket to respond to questions that you don't like. (Check out @dannah_eve to learn about “lie to survive”)

-Online dating, and dating in general. What do we look for when we first meet someone? Attraction? Connection? Laughter? (https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10481040/)

-Social anxiety & making meaningful connections

-Is laser-focusing on something you want, causing you to miss out on some great opportunities?

-How can we be more open to joy? Try naming the things that you like in your immediate space, or look for hearts around you (Mel Robbins - https://www.instagram.com/reel/CZ-ibdmAXVp/?hl=en)

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Have you ever felt like being an adult that has it all together is an illusion?

You'd be right.

Our letter writer shares how when she was a kid she thought she'd have life all figured out as an adult, but now as an adult she definitely doesn't. And neither do Jess and Tara.

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-Being an adult and having responsibilities and obligations every day is a challenge.

-Jess shares her childhood fantasy of her family being whisked away to be royals. She would gladly accepted the role of princess.

-Tara shares her current adult fantasy is that when her kids grow up and move out of the house that they want to come around!

Other topics touches on:

-Having a social circle is important for your mental health

-Meal planning

-Using google and Pinterest for recipes

-Looking at chores and household tasks as an on-going to-do list that is never complete (known as the cycle theory)

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/_uyqd2hViGE

https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-99/#10:14

- Tara mentions @beautys.library (Selena's bookish/reader account on Instagram) she started calling her TBR list her hopefuls to take off the pressure of getting to every book on her list every month.

-Jess is working on being more present, taking time for more rest and leaving her phone in a different space.

-Malteesers on popcorn

Tell us your favourite toppings to put on popcorn in the comments!

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