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  • Do I Want This, or Am I Afraid of Missing Out?

    Do I Want This, or Am I Afraid of Missing Out?
    2026/09/22
    Fear of missing out doesn’t always mean wanting something you’ve never considered. Sometimes, someone else’s decision makes what you’re already doing feel like it isn’t enough. When a friend started studying psychology, I immediately began looking for a degree program myself. I was already learning about psychology through reading and training, but suddenly I wanted the qualification too. A closed enrollment window gave me time to remember something I had wanted for much longer. In this episode of Lead Well! Yourself and Others, I explore FOMO, social comparison, and the pressure to keep achieving, even when part of you is content with where you are. I draw on Deci and Ryan’s self-determination theory to look at how genuine interest and internal pressure can influence the same decision. We’ll also look at what social media adds to that pressure, how to notice what your inner voice is saying, and what you can do when something matters to you but time or money is limited. A personal reflection on choosing what matters to you when there will always be more you could do.
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    14 分
  • Ep 139. Your Inner Voice Is a Recording, Not the Truth

    Ep 139. Your Inner Voice Is a Recording, Not the Truth
    2026/09/15
    What if the voice telling you that you are not good enough is not the truth, but an old recording? Nasheer Mohammad grew up with epilepsy and gradually came to believe that he was broken and would always be limited. Years later, during his first corporate presentation, his mind went blank and the familiar message returned: “You are not good enough.” That moment helped him recognize how strongly his inner dialogue was shaping his choices. Today, Nasheer is an author, speaker and coach, as well as the author of The Silent Saboteur. In this conversation, we explore where the inner critic comes from, what it may be trying to protect us from, and how to distinguish destructive self-criticism from useful reflection. Nasheer also shares a simple three-step practice: stop, breathe and choose your response. Because the inner critic may never disappear completely, but we do not have to believe or obey everything it says.
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    20 分
  • Ep 138. What Are You Chasing, and Why?

    Ep 138. What Are You Chasing, and Why?
    2026/09/08
    What are you chasing, and why? For years, Sonny Garg had an impressive answer to the first part of that question. Harvard, a White House Fellowship, executive leadership and ever greater professional success. But eventually he realized that achievement had become closely tied to his sense of self-worth. Sonny is the author of *Desi 2.0: My Family’s American Dream and the Cost of Never Being Enough*. In this conversation, we talk about achievement addiction, inherited expectations and what happens when external success no longer feels like success. We explore the difference between ambition and the need to prove yourself, how our identity shapes the way we lead, résumé virtues versus eulogy virtues, and Sonny’s concept of the “Minimally Viable Me.” Perhaps the most important idea is that Sonny did not become less ambitious. He changed what his ambition was for. A conversation about success, agency, leadership and learning to define your worth from the inside rather than waiting for the world to define it for you.
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    29 分
  • Ep 137. The Comfort Of Blame

    Ep 137. The Comfort Of Blame
    2026/09/01
    Why do we so quickly look for someone to blame when something goes wrong? I started thinking about this after the devastating glacier collapse in Nepal. While scientists were still trying to understand exactly what had happened, explanations and accusations were already spreading online. And it made me wonder: Why is “we don’t know yet” so difficult for us? In this episode, I explore the psychology behind blame and why having a culprit can sometimes feel more comfortable than living with uncertainty. We look at the difference between fear and anger, what happens when we lose our sense of control, and why our minds are so quick to create a story that explains what happened. I also bring this back to everyday life and leadership. When a project fails, a colleague disappoints us or something simply does not go as expected, are we really looking for understanding? Or are we looking for someone who can carry the blame? And, as so often, working with animals has taught me something important here too: to come back to what is actually happening before adding my interpretation. A reflection on blame, accountability, uncertainty and what it means to stay curious long enough to see clearly.
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    16 分
  • Ep 136. Before You Judge the Behaviour, Get Curious

    Ep 136. Before You Judge the Behaviour, Get Curious
    2026/08/25
    We see behaviour and almost instantly create a story around it. The aggressive horse. The difficult employee. The defensive manager. The uncooperative teenager. But what if the behavior is real, while the story we tell ourselves about it is not? In this episode of Lead Well!, I share what struck me while watching Trust Technique creator James French work with horses in Mongolia and, more recently, with elephants in Nepal. Animals considered difficult or even dangerous began responding very differently when the interaction itself changed. That raises a much bigger question, one that applies far beyond animals: What happens when we slow down, observe before interpreting, and become curious about what might be underneath the behavior? Because behavior is not identity. And giving another being a voice also means being willing to hear the answer.
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    11 分
  • Ep 135. The Truth Only Hurts Once: Leadership Without Self-Abandonment

    Ep 135. The Truth Only Hurts Once: Leadership Without Self-Abandonment
    2026/08/18
    When does professional adaptation become self-abandonment? Self-leadership coach Ruth E. Andermatt joins Christine to explore what it takes to preserve your integrity when expectations are high and your position may be at risk. Ruth recounts a defining leadership decision. She refused an order to dismiss an employee unfairly, choosing instead to tell him the truth and give him the opportunity to step up. Within 90 days, his store was performing at the top of the country. The conversation also examines quiet leadership, honest feedback, conflict avoidance and the responsibility leaders have to connect with people who think and communicate differently from them. Ruth argues that avoiding the truth creates “death by a million paper cuts.” Difficult honesty may hurt, but it also creates clarity, movement and the possibility of genuine connection. An episode about leading with conviction without hardening, adapting without disappearing, and knowing what you are no longer willing to sacrifice for success.
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    29 分
  • Ep 134. Train the Pause

    Ep 134. Train the Pause
    2026/08/11
    What happens when criticism reaches your nervous system before your thinking mind has time to catch up? A critical comment can trigger an immediate urge to explain, defend yourself or push back. The response may take only seconds, but it can leave both people feeling uncomfortable and create tension that later needs to be repaired. In this episode, I share an insight from a recent coaching conversation and connect it with a principle used in dog training: impulse control is first practiced under manageable conditions, before the level of distraction is gradually increased. You’ll learn: • why criticism can activate an automatic stress response • how to recognize your personal warning signs • how a deliberate breath can create more choice • what to say when you are not ready to respond • how to practice the pause before the pressure is high The goal is not to stop feeling defensive. It is to notice the impulse early enough that you no longer have to follow it automatically. Sometimes, one breath is enough to change what happens next.
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    17 分
  • Ep 133. Shared Feelings

    Ep 133. Shared Feelings
    2026/08/04
    Can a feeling become part of a relationship? Looking back at my life with three horses, I can now see a different emotional theme in each relationship: freedom with Chio, not belonging with Serena, and resignation and rejection with Maggie. In this solo episode, I explore the Trust Technique concept of Shared Feelings and why I only understood its real significance much later. This is not about claiming that an animal simply mirrors our emotions. Animals have their own bodies, histories, needs and experiences. But our feelings, expectations and habitual responses also enter the relationship. What becomes visible when we stop asking only what is happening within the animal and begin exploring what may be happening between us? An episode about animals, emotional patterns and the third story that every relationship creates.
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    13 分