Episode Overview
In this raw, unscripted conversation, Melissa LeAira reconnects with Jaya Marr, a Subconscious Belief Coach and NLP Practitioner who played a pivotal role in Melissa's personal transformation years ago. This isn't your typical polished interview - it's an authentic exploration of how one coaching session can plant seeds that blossom into life-changing realizations years later.

Melissa shares the powerful metaphor that emerged from their work together: feeling like everyone had bought tickets to her show while she stayed backstage, paralyzed by perfectionism and fear. Through Jaya's guidance, she discovered how to step onto her own stage and perform authentically, imperfections and all. This candid conversation reveals how the right insight at the right moment can catalyze profound shifts in how we show up in the world.

If you've ever felt like you're hiding your authentic self while others wait for you to shine, or if you're curious about how subconscious belief work creates lasting transformation, this organic conversation will show you the beauty of stepping into your own spotlight.

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About the Guest:
Jaya Marr is a Subconscious Belief Coach and NLP Practitioner who specializes in helping people identify and transform the hidden beliefs that keep them stuck. After experiencing the complete collapse of her 15-year marriage and 10-year business, Jaya discovered the power of belief work through her own healing journey.

What began as personal survival became a passionate calling to help others break free from the unconscious patterns that sabotage their happiness and success. Through her unique blend of insight, grace, and practical tools, Jaya guides clients to uncover their authentic selves and live lives filled with delight and potential.

Her approach focuses on rapid, sustainable transformation that addresses the root causes of limitation rather than just surface symptoms. She believes that when we align our subconscious beliefs with our conscious desires, we can create profound change "in a breath."

Website: https://www.jayamarr.com/


About the Host:
Melissa LeAira is the founder of Journey Out of the Bottle, guiding individuals through the intersection of alcohol freedom and spiritual awakening. Through her own journey of transformation, she's discovered that breaking free from alcohol opens the door to multidimensional living, authentic self-expression, and cosmic mission alignment. Her work includes helping people navigate conscious relationships and communication practices that support their highest growth.

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In this candid and educational episode, Melissa LeAira and Seth demonstrate a live RBDSMT conversation - a powerful communication framework for creating conscious, transparent connections.

They walk through each element of this relationship tool in real-time, showing how honest dialogue about relationship styles, boundaries, desires, sexual health, meaning-making, and trauma can prevent misunderstandings and create deeper intimacy.

If you've ever wondered how to have "the talk" before things get physical, or want to learn how to navigate modern relationships with more clarity and consent, this organic conversation will give you a roadmap for your own connections.

Key Topics Covered:

• Understanding the RBDSMT framework: Relationships, Boundaries, Desires, Sexual Health, Meaning-Making, and Trauma
• Different relationship styles: polyamory, relationship anarchy, monogamy, and everything in between
• The importance of transparency about current relationship agreements and restrictions
• How to navigate secrets, disclosure, and partner consent in open relationships
• The difference between intentional and unintentional harm in intimate connections
• Why having these conversations BEFORE physical intimacy prevents pain and misunderstandings
• How to communicate desires without shame while respecting boundaries
• Creating space for human imperfection while maintaining accountability

Resources & Links:

• Begin your own Journey Out of the Bottle (https://journeyoutofthebottle.com)
• Follow Melissa on Instagram @journeyoutofthebottle
• Learn more about conscious relationship practices and communication tools
• Explore different relationship styles and what might work for you

About the Host:

Melissa LeAira is the founder of Journey Out of the Bottle, guiding individuals through the intersection of alcohol freedom and spiritual awakening. Through her own journey of transformation, she's discovered that breaking free from alcohol opens the door to multidimensional living, authentic self-expression, and cosmic mission alignment. Her work includes helping people navigate conscious relationships and communication practices that support their highest growth.

About the Guest:

Seth Gregg is a certified coach who works with individuals and couples to explore relationship, intimacy, and releasing old patterns. To learn more, contact him through his coffee ritual website at www.ritualbeans.com.

Seth works closely with erotic artist and educator Leela DeLietto who offers explorations of intimacy through Japanese bondage, ritual, and BDSM. You can find her upcoming offerings through the following links:

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• https://t.me/+sXccHfCiEVs3MDBh

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Have you tried having RBDSMT conversations in your own relationships? How has conscious communication changed your connections? Share your experiences with us on Instagram @journeyoutofthebottle or connect with our supportive community.

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Episode Overview:

In this intimate and unfiltered episode, Melissa LeAira returns to the mic with special guest Anastacia Dadashpour to explore the sacred unraveling that often follows spiritual growth, loss, and conscious transformation. Together, they reflect on the messiness of becoming—when the tools stop working, the energy fades, and surrender becomes the only way through.
This is a conversation for anyone sitting in the void between who they once were and who they are becoming. Raw, real, and deeply human, it reminds us that healing isn't a straight line—and that sometimes falling apart is the beginning of coming home.

Key Topics Covered:

• Letting go of the performer self and trusting the fall
  
  
• Psychedelic integration and emotional recovery
  
  
• The discomfort of silence and the power of stillness
  
  
• Reframing grief, resistance, and fatigue as sacred cues
  
  
• Conscious leadership and the vulnerability of holding space
  
  
• Creating from devotion rather than urgency
  
  
• How nature, spirit, and presence recalibrate the soul
  
  
• Podcasting as a ritual of truth, not production
  
  

Notable Quotes:

• "I thought I could come back and just jump in again, but something in me knew I wasn’t ready. The performer wanted to get to work. The soul needed rest." – Melissa
  
  
• "There’s something sacred in not knowing. The breakdown is part of the initiation." – Melissa
  
  
• "We all reach a point when the tools no longer work—not because we’re broken, but because we’re evolving." – Anastacia
  
  
• "Surrender isn’t passive. It’s one of the most active, courageous choices you can make." – Anastacia
  
  
• "The silence holds so much wisdom, if we’re willing to stop performing and just listen." – Anastacia
  
  

Hard Truth Bombs:

• You don’t need to be ready to return. You need to be honest about where you are.
  
  
• The collapse after growth is part of the growth.
  
  
• Your value doesn’t disappear when your output slows down.
  
  
• Healing requires space, stillness, and grace—not more pushing.
  
  
• Integration is not a performance—it’s a sacred pause.
  
  
• Leadership begins with being real, not being perfect.
  
  

About Our Guest:

• Anastacia Dadashpour -
  
  

Anastacia has been devoted to improving the human condition since childhood. Raised in a multicultural and politically active family, she developed a deep curiosity for systems, people, and the soul of society. She’s traveled to 44 countries, worked in diplomacy, journalism, and the nonprofit world, and continues to be guided by the powerful resilience of the human spirit.

She is the mother of two daughters—Azaria, who is in spirit, and Izabela, who is her greatest joy. Anastacia is the author of The Love Manual for Humanity and the owner of Sunshine Sanctuary, a boutique jungle lodge in Montezuma, Costa Rica, where she holds space for rest, reconnection, and healing.

Order her book: The Love Manual for Humanity on Amazon
Connect on Instagram: @anastaciadadashpour
Explore the Sanctuary: sunshinesanctuarycostarica.com

Resources & Links:
Start your own Journey Out of the Bottle at journeyoutofthebottle.com
Follow Melissa on Instagram: @journeyoutofthebottle
Explore Human Design, conscious recovery, and emotional integration
Apply for private mentorship or upcoming retreats



About the Host:

Melissa LeAira is the founder of Journey Out of the Bottle, a post-alcohol renaissance for souls ready to awaken. Through storytelling, sacred support, and honest conversations, she guides others through the nonlinear terrain of transformation,

Episode Overview:

In this authentic and uplifting Sunday morning episode, recorded live from an outdoor nature studio, the host shares the profound joy and clarity that comes from living hangover-free.
With spontaneous wildlife appearances (including frolicking bunnies!), this raw and honest conversation explores the stark contrast between life with and without alcohol, while diving deep into how assumptions block our ability to truly perceive and connect with others.
If you've ever wondered what life feels like on the other side of alcohol dependence, or struggle with making assumptions about others, this episode will inspire you to embrace curiosity over judgment.

Key Topics Covered:

• The euphoria of hangover-free Sunday mornings and how your body stops fighting poison
  
  
• Why you don't notice alcohol's impact when you're constantly consuming it
  
  
• The metaphor of cinder blocks, foggy goggles, and earmuffs how alcohol dims your experience
  
  
• Food awareness and mindful consumption - the peach in a jar revelation
  
  
• From brain fog to mental clarity - technology, learning, and cognitive improvement
  
  
• How assumptions are "the enemy of perception" - inspired by Dr. Teresa Bullard's Mystery School teachings
  
  
• The difference between assumptions and curiosity in human interactions
  
  

Social drinking culture and planning life around alcohol consumption

• Using nature as amplification instead of artificial substances
  
  

Notable Quotes:

• "I mean I wanna talk about how fucking great I feel almost all the time because I don't have... my body isn't trying to rid itself of you know like some poison"
  
  
• "I now feel so light and free and clear to just like fuck skip around, skip about and my brain works"
  
  
• "I thought it would amplify it... oh it actually just would create more of a mask, more of a veil to to not amplify it but to kind of dim it down a little bit"
  
  
• "Assumption is the enemy of perception"
  
  
• "When you assume, you're making an ass out of you and me"
  
  

The Hard Truth Bombs:
*Your body knows alcohol is poison - hangovers are your system's desperate attempt to detox and survive
*The "sophisticated" drinking culture is a lie - alcohol doesn't enhance experiences, it masks and dims them
*Mental fog isn't just aging - it's often the cumulative effect of regular alcohol consumption
*Most social planning revolves around drinking - and you don't realize how much until you stop
*Assumptions destroy relationships - they prevent real connection and understanding
*Your brain creates stories instantly - becoming aware of this pattern is a superpower
*Curiosity beats judgment every time - asking questions instead of making assumptions changes everything

Resources & Links:
Follow on Instagram @Journey_Out_Of_The_Bottle and @journey_out_ofthe_bottle
@journey.couture @repurposed.soul

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Returning to Winter Park: A Journey of Sobriety and Self-Discovery
Two years later, everything has changed.

After selling my condo in Winter Park to fund my sabbatical and journey of self-discovery, I'm finally back to the place that holds so many memories—the good, the painful, and everything in between. This isn't just a visit; it's a full-circle moment that reveals how profoundly my relationship with life has transformed.

What This Video Explores:
✨ Revisiting the past without rose-colored glasses - How returning to familiar places can reveal our growth
🍷 The hidden cost of "liquid courage" - My honest reflection on how alcohol shaped my experiences
🌟 The surprising joy of sobriety - Why food tastes better, nature feels more vibrant, and life feels more authentic
🎭 Breaking free from social masks - Recognizing the conversations and environments we tolerate vs. truly enjoy
💎 Finding genuine sparkle in life - The difference between numbing and truly living

Key Moments:

The stark contrast between my old happy hour experiences and my new clarity
Why the same restaurant felt completely different without alcohol
The realization about what I was actually seeking in those dark, social spaces
How sobriety revealed the trap I didn't know I was in

If you've ever wondered whether alcohol might be creating a veil between you and your fullest life, this video is for you. No judgment, no preaching—just an honest share from someone who's discovered there's so much more sparkle available than we realize.
This isn't about perfection; it's about awakening to what's possible.

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💬 Share your own experiences in the comments—what "veils" have you removed from your life?

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🌟 Explore Human Design and discover your unique energetic blueprint for authentic living


"I feel drunk on life. I promise you—if there's any question that alcohol might be blocking you from something, you will be delighted by what's on the other side."

About Melissa LeAira:

Founder of Journey Out of the Bottle, guiding individuals through the intersection of alcohol freedom and spiritual awakening. Through her own journey of transformation, she's discovered that breaking free from alcohol opens the door to multidimensional living, authentic self-expression, and cosmic mission alignment.

Join the Conversation:

Are you navigating your own awakening journey or questioning your relationship with alcohol? Connect with our supportive community on Instagram @journeyoutofthebottle - you're not alone in this beautiful, messy, non-linear path of transformation.

💫 Leave a comment sharing how this resonated with you - your words might be exactly what another soul needs to hear.

#awakening Journey #PersonalGrowth #Authenticity #SelfDiscovery

Episode Overview:

In this deeply vulnerable and raw episode, Melissa LeAira opens up about experiencing what she calls a "3D hangover" - the unexpected crash that can follow periods of spiritual awakening and transformation. She shares her journey through regression, self-criticism, and the challenging process of honoring her authentic design while recovering from alcohol's grip on her life. If you've ever felt like you've "lost your mojo" after a breakthrough, or wondered why the spiritual path isn't linear, this honest conversation will remind you that you're not alone and you're not broken.

Key Topics Covered:

• Understanding the "3D hangover" phenomenon and why regression after breakthroughs is normal
  
  
• How the inner drill sergeant sabotages recovery and spiritual growth
  
  
• The power of spontaneous emotional releases and what they really mean
  
  
• Human Design principles: honoring your manifesting generator nature
  
  
• Learning to respond rather than initiate in your spiritual and life journey
  
  
• The challenge of isolation versus connection during transformation
  
  
• Moving between dimensions (3D to 4D to 5D) and why it's not a linear process
  
  
• Practical strategies for grounding and recovery in nature
  
  

Notable Quotes:

• "I am experiencing what I believe to be a 3D hangover... I was really thinking that I got off and escaped it resiliently, and that I was gonna come back and just get right back to it."
  
  
• "I have broken out into spontaneous combustions of tears multiple times over the last few days, and every time... I get this overwhelming sense of relief and I just start crying. "Maybe I just need to allow myself to recover and take advantage of the nature that is around me right now... it's quiet and it's beautiful."
  
  
• "You get pulled back in either by energetic cords, by auric fields intermingling, just by human nature of thought processes that come flying through."
  
  
• "I'll call you back when I need you [drill sergeant voice] but right now please just let me recover."
  
  

The Hard Truth Bombs:

• Spiritual awakening isn't a straight line - you will wobble between dimensions and that's completely normal
  
  
• The voice telling you to "do more" and pushing you relentlessly isn't wisdom it's trauma programming
  
  
• Your body's need for rest and recovery after transformation isn't weakness it's intelligence
  
  
• Saying "no" to opportunities that don't align isn't isolation - it's discernment
  
  
• The tears and emotional releases aren't breakdowns - they're breakthroughs clearing old energy
  
  
• You don't graduate from 3D and never look back - integration requires patience and self-compassion
  
  

Resources & Links:
Begin your own Journey Out of the Bottle (https://journeyoutofthebottle.com)

Follow Melissa on Instagram @journeyoutofthebottle

Explore Human Design and your unique energetic blueprint
Connect with the Journey Out community for support

About the Host:

Melissa LeAira is the founder of Journey Out of the Bottle, guiding individuals through the intersection of alcohol freedom and spiritual awakening. Through her own journey of transformation, she's discovered that breaking free from alcohol opens the door to multidimensional living, authentic self-expression,

Episode Overview:

In this raw and unapologetic episode, Melissa LeAira shatters the comfortable lies we've been told about alcohol. Drawing from her own journey, she exposes how our "harmless social drinking" is actually a slow-drip poison that robs us of our potential, dulls our spiritual connection, and keeps us trapped in a cycle of mediocrity that society sells as "normal." If you've ever questioned whether your "manageable" drinking is actually managing you, this episode will rock your world.

Key Topics Covered:

• The dangerous "gray area" between alcoholic and social drinker that keeps millions trapped
  
  
• How the alcohol industry weaponizes FOMO to keep you dependent and disconnected
  
  
• Why willpower has NOTHING to do with quitting drinking
  
  
• The physiological truth about how alcohol hijacks your brain chemistry regardless of how much you consume
  
  
• How morning anxiety, sleep disruption, and "racing thoughts" are actually withdrawal symptoms society normalizes
  
  
• The shocking improvements in mental clarity, spiritual connection, and life satisfaction that await on the other side
  
  
• Why AA and the "disease model" aren't the only paths to freedom from alcohol
  
  

Notable Quotes:

• "I truly believed my life would be miserable without alcohol. That is what is pervasively communicated to us in the most subtle, destructive ways."
  
  
• "When I tried to blame my hormones, when I tried to blame a relationship... the suffering that I was ensuing and ignoring that alcohol was the cause of it went on for years and it was daily."
  
  
• "I've realized my drinking really was to almost dumb myself down, to ease the pain of not living my best life."
  
  
• "Every single day since I have stopped drinking has gotten better and better. This is the one decision in your life that you will never regret."
  
  
• "There are actions that are 1,000% out of your control in how alcohol impacts your body. You have zero control over it."
  
  
• "Willpower has nothing to do with it. It is a mindset shift."
  
  

The Hard Truth Bombs:

• Society has conditioned you to believe you need alcohol to have fun, be social, and cope with stress - it's a devastating lie
• Your "moderate drinking" is still dramatically altering your brain chemistry and limiting your potential
• The choice isn't between "normal drinker" and "rock-bottom alcoholic" - the entire framework is flawed
• You'll never look back and think "I wish I had kept drinking" - NOT ONCE
  
  

The "voice" telling you that you need to drink is not your authentic self - it's the chemically-altered neural pathways alcohol has created

Resources & Links:

Begin your own Journey Out of the Bottle (https://linktr.ee/journeyoutofthebottle)
Join Melissa's 30-Day Alcohol Freedom Challenge
Follow Melissa LeAira on Instagram | Website

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Is alcohol secretly robbing you of your best life?

Share your honest thoughts and questions with us on Instagram @journeyoutofthebottle or join our judgment-free community at the Journey Out Facebook Group (

Episode Overview

In this thought-provoking episode, Melissa LeAira explores the transformative power of trusting one's intuition, breaking free from fear-based decision-making, and embracing authenticity. She introduces the practice of Latihan—a movement-based meditation that quiets the mind, liberates the body, and deepens self-awareness. Melissa shares how this practice has allowed her to reconnect with her own inner knowing and how it can help others do the same.

Key Topics Covered:
The importance of self-trust and personal agency
How societal conditioning fosters fear-based decision-making
The role of Latihan in quieting the mind and awakening the body’s wisdom
Releasing judgment and embracing authentic movement
Cultivating intuition as a guiding force in daily life
The connection between movement, energy, and emotional healing

Notable Quotes:
“Getting to know oneself is the greatest gift.”
“We so often outsource our agency, seeking validation from others instead of trusting our own knowing.”
“The more we add our authenticity to the collective, the more we all rise.”
“Latihan allows the body to move in its own wisdom, beyond fear, beyond judgment.”

Resources & Links:
Learn more about Latihan (https://linktr.ee/journeycouture?utm_...)
Follow Melissa LeAira on Instagram | Website
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About the Host:
Melissa LeAira is a passionate advocate for self-discovery, embodiment practices, and intuitive attunement. Through her work, she helps individuals break free from societal conditioning and reconnect with their inner wisdom.

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