Episode Overview
In this raw, unscripted conversation, Melissa LeAira reconnects with Jaya Marr, a Subconscious Belief Coach and NLP Practitioner who played a pivotal role in Melissa's personal transformation years ago. This isn't your typical polished interview - it's an authentic exploration of how one coaching session can plant seeds that blossom into life-changing realizations years later.

Melissa shares the powerful metaphor that emerged from their work together: feeling like everyone had bought tickets to her show while she stayed backstage, paralyzed by perfectionism and fear. Through Jaya's guidance, she discovered how to step onto her own stage and perform authentically, imperfections and all. This candid conversation reveals how the right insight at the right moment can catalyze profound shifts in how we show up in the world.

If you've ever felt like you're hiding your authentic self while others wait for you to shine, or if you're curious about how subconscious belief work creates lasting transformation, this organic conversation will show you the beauty of stepping into your own spotlight.

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About the Guest:
Jaya Marr is a Subconscious Belief Coach and NLP Practitioner who specializes in helping people identify and transform the hidden beliefs that keep them stuck. After experiencing the complete collapse of her 15-year marriage and 10-year business, Jaya discovered the power of belief work through her own healing journey.

What began as personal survival became a passionate calling to help others break free from the unconscious patterns that sabotage their happiness and success. Through her unique blend of insight, grace, and practical tools, Jaya guides clients to uncover their authentic selves and live lives filled with delight and potential.

Her approach focuses on rapid, sustainable transformation that addresses the root causes of limitation rather than just surface symptoms. She believes that when we align our subconscious beliefs with our conscious desires, we can create profound change "in a breath."

Website: https://www.jayamarr.com/


About the Host:
Melissa LeAira is the founder of Journey Out of the Bottle, guiding individuals through the intersection of alcohol freedom and spiritual awakening. Through her own journey of transformation, she's discovered that breaking free from alcohol opens the door to multidimensional living, authentic self-expression, and cosmic mission alignment. Her work includes helping people navigate conscious relationships and communication practices that support their highest growth.

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Have you discovered subconscious beliefs that were secretly running your life? How has belief work transformed your relationships and personal growth? Share your experiences with us on Instagram @journeyoutofthebottle or connect with our supportive community.

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In this candid and educational episode, Melissa LeAira and Seth demonstrate a live RBDSMT conversation - a powerful communication framework for creating conscious, transparent connections.

They walk through each element of this relationship tool in real-time, showing how honest dialogue about relationship styles, boundaries, desires, sexual health, meaning-making, and trauma can prevent misunderstandings and create deeper intimacy.

If you've ever wondered how to have "the talk" before things get physical, or want to learn how to navigate modern relationships with more clarity and consent, this organic conversation will give you a roadmap for your own connections.

Key Topics Covered:

• Understanding the RBDSMT framework: Relationships, Boundaries, Desires, Sexual Health, Meaning-Making, and Trauma
• Different relationship styles: polyamory, relationship anarchy, monogamy, and everything in between
• The importance of transparency about current relationship agreements and restrictions
• How to navigate secrets, disclosure, and partner consent in open relationships
• The difference between intentional and unintentional harm in intimate connections
• Why having these conversations BEFORE physical intimacy prevents pain and misunderstandings
• How to communicate desires without shame while respecting boundaries
• Creating space for human imperfection while maintaining accountability

Resources & Links:

• Begin your own Journey Out of the Bottle (https://journeyoutofthebottle.com)
• Follow Melissa on Instagram @journeyoutofthebottle
• Learn more about conscious relationship practices and communication tools
• Explore different relationship styles and what might work for you

About the Host:

Melissa LeAira is the founder of Journey Out of the Bottle, guiding individuals through the intersection of alcohol freedom and spiritual awakening. Through her own journey of transformation, she's discovered that breaking free from alcohol opens the door to multidimensional living, authentic self-expression, and cosmic mission alignment. Her work includes helping people navigate conscious relationships and communication practices that support their highest growth.

About the Guest:

Seth Gregg is a certified coach who works with individuals and couples to explore relationship, intimacy, and releasing old patterns. To learn more, contact him through his coffee ritual website at www.ritualbeans.com.

Seth works closely with erotic artist and educator Leela DeLietto who offers explorations of intimacy through Japanese bondage, ritual, and BDSM. You can find her upcoming offerings through the following links:

• https://bit.ly/43JB4Ec
• https://bit.ly/441RPsY
• https://bit.ly/3HE1SwO
• https://t.me/+sXccHfCiEVs3MDBh

Join the Conversation:

Have you tried having RBDSMT conversations in your own relationships? How has conscious communication changed your connections? Share your experiences with us on Instagram @journeyoutofthebottle or connect with our supportive community.

Leave a review about how this episode helped you approach relationships with more clarity and consciousness - your words might inspire someone else to have these important conversations.

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Episode Overview:

In this intimate and unfiltered episode, Melissa LeAira returns to the mic with special guest Anastacia Dadashpour to explore the sacred unraveling that often follows spiritual growth, loss, and conscious transformation. Together, they reflect on the messiness of becoming—when the tools stop working, the energy fades, and surrender becomes the only way through.
This is a conversation for anyone sitting in the void between who they once were and who they are becoming. Raw, real, and deeply human, it reminds us that healing isn't a straight line—and that sometimes falling apart is the beginning of coming home.

Key Topics Covered:

• Letting go of the performer self and trusting the fall
  
  
• Psychedelic integration and emotional recovery
  
  
• The discomfort of silence and the power of stillness
  
  
• Reframing grief, resistance, and fatigue as sacred cues
  
  
• Conscious leadership and the vulnerability of holding space
  
  
• Creating from devotion rather than urgency
  
  
• How nature, spirit, and presence recalibrate the soul
  
  
• Podcasting as a ritual of truth, not production
  
  

Notable Quotes:

• "I thought I could come back and just jump in again, but something in me knew I wasn’t ready. The performer wanted to get to work. The soul needed rest." – Melissa
  
  
• "There’s something sacred in not knowing. The breakdown is part of the initiation." – Melissa
  
  
• "We all reach a point when the tools no longer work—not because we’re broken, but because we’re evolving." – Anastacia
  
  
• "Surrender isn’t passive. It’s one of the most active, courageous choices you can make." – Anastacia
  
  
• "The silence holds so much wisdom, if we’re willing to stop performing and just listen." – Anastacia
  
  

Hard Truth Bombs:

• You don’t need to be ready to return. You need to be honest about where you are.
  
  
• The collapse after growth is part of the growth.
  
  
• Your value doesn’t disappear when your output slows down.
  
  
• Healing requires space, stillness, and grace—not more pushing.
  
  
• Integration is not a performance—it’s a sacred pause.
  
  
• Leadership begins with being real, not being perfect.
  
  

About Our Guest:

• Anastacia Dadashpour -
  
  

Anastacia has been devoted to improving the human condition since childhood. Raised in a multicultural and politically active family, she developed a deep curiosity for systems, people, and the soul of society. She’s traveled to 44 countries, worked in diplomacy, journalism, and the nonprofit world, and continues to be guided by the powerful resilience of the human spirit.

She is the mother of two daughters—Azaria, who is in spirit, and Izabela, who is her greatest joy. Anastacia is the author of The Love Manual for Humanity and the owner of Sunshine Sanctuary, a boutique jungle lodge in Montezuma, Costa Rica, where she holds space for rest, reconnection, and healing.

Order her book: The Love Manual for Humanity on Amazon
Connect on Instagram: @anastaciadadashpour
Explore the Sanctuary: sunshinesanctuarycostarica.com

Resources & Links:
Start your own Journey Out of the Bottle at journeyoutofthebottle.com
Follow Melissa on Instagram: @journeyoutofthebottle
Explore Human Design, conscious recovery, and emotional integration
Apply for private mentorship or upcoming retreats



About the Host:

Melissa LeAira is the founder of Journey Out of the Bottle, a post-alcohol renaissance for souls ready to awaken. Through storytelling, sacred support, and honest conversations, she guides others through the nonlinear terrain of transformation,