Life is going to hit you with a never-ending barrage of highs and lows. One minute, you read an email that makes you feel like you're on top of the world. The next minute, you get slapped in the face with bad news that pisses you off and stresses you out.
This is the emotional roller coaster of life. And if you allow your emotions to yank you back and forth based on fleeting external events, it will slowly kill your productivity, drive and mental toughness. You'll end up drained, distracted and unable to focus on what truly matters - your goals.
The solution is simple but hard: You must detach yourself emotionally from outcomes, news, surprises, challenges, drama and other people's behavior. Stop needing certain results or responses to make you feel happy and motivated. Realize that you have zero control over what happens externally. The only control you have is over your own thoughts, attitude and actions.
Hoping for the best but truly expecting the worst insulates you mentally and prevents you from being blindsided. Needing deals to close or people to behave a certain way gives them influence and power over you. That power needs to be in your hands only.
When you get knocked down by challenges or negative news, react like Neo in The Matrix, slowing everything down in your mind as you carefully assess the situation. Step back as an outsider looking in before deciding how to respond. Getting swept up in emotional knee-jerk reactions makes you weak. Staying mentally centered no matter what makes you strong.
The key is maintaining composure independent of conditions or circumstances. Don't let momentary highs overly inflate your confidence and ego. But also don't allow temporary lows to crush your spirit and motivation. Emotionally detach from the chaos rather than getting tangled up in it.
Rise above the constant up and down drama by controlling the only thing you actually can control - your mental state. Train yourself to stay cool, calm and laser focused on your goals regardless of whatever madness is swirling around you. Tune out the noise and resist getting sucked into emotional reaction mode.
This ability to indifferently shrug off both good news and bad news without losing composure is what separates the great from the weak minded. It filters out all the unnecessary distractions and friction. This frees up mental bandwidth to channel towards what truly drives results - creative problem solving, innovation and relentless action towards your targets.
You might be wondering...is this mindset of detachment pessimistic? Shouldn't I be optimistic, positive and enthusiastic instead? Understand this crucial truth: Long term optimism must be rooted in short term realism. Hoping for the best alone is a recipe for disappointment. By confronting the daily reality that plans will fail, deals will fall through, and challenges will mount, you inoculate yourself emotionally. This prevents you from quitting when things get tough.
Be like Neo in the movie “The Matrix”. As both good news and bad news are hurled towards you see them in slow motion. Yes, you know they are coming towards you, and like Neo’s ability to dodge bullets, what’s being cast your way doesn’t actually hit you or cause you any physical pain. A compliment whizzes by. A rejection grazes you but doesn’t pierce your skin. I may be using metaphors, but the truth is I’m 100% accurate. None of what you hear or see actually affects you physically. Dwell on them too much, and the stress you self impose does more damage than whats being thrown at you. Be like Neo. See what happens to you whix by in slow motion. Evaluate it. But don’t let it kick you in the gut or to inflate your ego temporarily.