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  • 61. Introvert vs Extrovert: The Difference Most People Get Wrong

    61. Introvert vs Extrovert: The Difference Most People Get Wrong
    2026/06/09

    In this solo episode of It Starts With YOU, Vic O'Farrell explores one of the most misunderstood aspects of personality: the difference between introverts and extroverts. Drawing on the work of Carl Jung, Vic explains that being introverted or extroverted isn't about confidence, shyness or how much you enjoy people. It's about where you get your energy from and how you process your thoughts.

    Using simple, relatable examples, Vic unpacks why extroverts often think out loud while introverts prefer to reflect before they respond, and how misunderstanding these differences can create frustration in conversations, meetings and everyday life. Whether you're an introvert, an extrovert or somewhere in between, this episode will help you better understand yourself and the people around you. Because when we understand behaviour, we communicate better, build stronger relationships and create more positive outcomes for everyone.

    . "It Starts with You" podcast is available everywhere on Wednesdays every fortnight.

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    Thank you, Vic.

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    8 分
  • 60. Becoming a Trusted Authority: Influence Without Drama with Julie Masters

    60. Becoming a Trusted Authority: Influence Without Drama with Julie Masters
    2026/05/26
    In Episode 60 of It Starts With YOU, Vic O'Farrell is joined by Julie Masters for a powerful conversation on what it really means to have influence in today's world. With social media blurring the lines between popularity and authority, this episode cuts through the noise and brings the focus back to what actually drives behaviour. From fear-based influence to trusted authority, Julie shares the difference between getting attention and creating real impact. They explore the rise of the human brand, the power of intention, and how easily our behaviour is shaped by where we place our attention. This episode is a reminder that influence doesn't start with others; it starts with you, how you show up, the state you're in, and the intention you bring into every interaction. "It Starts with You" podcast is available everywhere on Wednesdays every fortnight. If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a rating and review! Thank you, Vic. Let's Connect! Follow Vic O'Farrell via the Queen of Behaviours Instagram - @vicofarrell LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriaofarrell/ Email – hello@queenofbehaviours.com Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com Work with Vicky Showreel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTWViLzyLkU Programmes: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Programmes-2024-new-copy.pdf Speaker Pack: https://queenofbehaviours.com/speaker/ FREE RESOURCES Newsletter: https://mymailers.biz/qob/?fbclid=IwAR3CWpPKNLH0Qy7_9fDBYrCK0o6PdDXfHD08phcq8_okFfJM9UT6cAvIFOo Understand Different Personalities: https://form.jotform.com/250735619744363 Quick Guide to Disc: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Quick-Guide-to-DISC.pdf DISC for Team Success: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Using-DISC-.pdf For updates on new episodes and everything podcast related Watch the podcast on YouTube: www.youtube.com/@queenofbehaviours Instagram - @itstartswithyoupodcastqob Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/queenofbehaviours TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itstartswithyoupodcast LinkedIn Page - https://www.linkedin.com/company/queenofbehaviours/ Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com/podcast About the Guest Julie Masters has spent a career decoding influence. As a leading authority in the speaking world she has earned a reputation for launching and advising some of the worlds most respected speakers and thought leaders. Co-founder of ODE Management, the world's largest dedicated speaker management agency across the USA and Australia, she is now the Founder and CEO of Influence Nation, working with business leaders and organisations to become the voice of authority in their space. Clients include industry leading CEO's, entrepreneurs, speakers, best-selling authors and media personalities – the voices of which have reached millions of people globally through speaking, publishing and digital channels. Julie also hosts the iTunes Top 50 podcast Inside Influence, interviewing global thought leaders on the tools and mindsets to own your voice and then use it to drive an industry, a conversation, a movement or a nation. Having won numerous communications industry awards across the USA, Australia and Europe, as well as guest lecturing at universities including Oxford Brookes. Julie now regularly advises CEO's, entrepreneurs and executive teams on how to stand out in their marketplace by turning their expertise into influence. https://juliemasters.com/ https://www.instagram.com/jules.masters/ https://www.youtube.com/@juliemasterstv https://www.linkedin.com/in/julesmasters/ https://www.facebook.com/juliemastersofficial/
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    32 分
  • 59. What's Really Driving You with Vic O'Farrell

    59. What's Really Driving You with Vic O'Farrell
    2026/05/12

    In this solo episode of It Starts With YOU, Vic O'Farrell builds on the "layers of the onion" and gets to the heart of what really drives your behaviour, your core values. Vic breaks down how what you think matters, like money or success, is often just the surface, and how digging deeper reveals the real drivers like freedom, security, or safety.

    She also explores boundaries, the ones you know you have and the ones you don't, and how rigid boundaries around your values can be the real reason you feel triggered in certain situations. This episode is a simple but powerful invitation to pause, reflect, and build self awareness, because when you understand what's really driving you, you can respond differently, and that changes everything.

    . "It Starts with You" podcast is available everywhere on Wednesdays every fortnight.

    If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a rating and review!

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    10 分
  • 58. Breaking the Wine O'Clock Habit with Rebecca Thompson

    58. Breaking the Wine O'Clock Habit with Rebecca Thompson
    2026/04/28
    In this episode of It Starts With YOU, Vic O'Farrell is joined by Rebecca Thompson, also known as the "One O'clock Woman," for a refreshingly honest conversation about our relationship with alcohol and the behaviours that sit behind it. Together, they explore the cultural norms around drinking, the pressure to "fit in," and why choosing not to drink can feel so uncomfortable in social situations. From wine o'clock habits to the deeper emotional drivers behind drinking, Rebecca shares powerful insights into how alcohol becomes a coping mechanism, a reward, and even a bridge between our busy lives and downtime. This episode invites you to pause, reflect, and start noticing your own patterns, because real change begins with awareness. "It Starts with You" podcast is available everywhere on Wednesdays every fortnight. If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a rating and review! Thank you, Vic. Let's Connect! Follow Vic O'Farrell via the Queen of Behaviours Instagram - @vicofarrell LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriaofarrell/ Email – hello@queenofbehaviours.com Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com Work with Vicky Showreel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTWViLzyLkU Programmes: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Programmes-2024-new-copy.pdf Speaker Pack: https://queenofbehaviours.com/speaker/ FREE RESOURCES Newsletter: https://mymailers.biz/qob/?fbclid=IwAR3CWpPKNLH0Qy7_9fDBYrCK0o6PdDXfHD08phcq8_okFfJM9UT6cAvIFOo Understand Different Personalities: https://form.jotform.com/250735619744363 Quick Guide to Disc: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Quick-Guide-to-DISC.pdf DISC for Team Success: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Using-DISC-.pdf For updates on new episodes and everything podcast related Watch the podcast on YouTube: www.youtube.com/@queenofbehaviours Instagram - @itstartswithyoupodcastqob Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/queenofbehaviours TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itstartswithyoupodcast LinkedIn Page - https://www.linkedin.com/company/queenofbehaviours/ Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com/podcast About the Guest Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapist | Speaker | Host of The Wine O'clock Woman Podcast Rebecca Thomson is a Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapist who works with women in midlife and beyond who feel stuck in a drinking cycle. A former teacher who once used alcohol to cope with work stress, she now helps women understand why the wine-o'clock cycle develops and how to interrupt it. Rebecca supports women to take a 90-day break from alcohol so they can make a clear decision about the role it will play in their lives. She is also the host of The Wine O'clock Woman podcast, where she explores the pressures and habits that quietly lead many capable women to drink more than they intend. Rebecca's philosophy is that alcohol, like many coping habits, is often a signal rather than the real problem. Speaking & Media Rebecca is a regular guest on BBC Radio Gloucestershire and has also appeared on Forest of Dean Radio, Teacher Talk Radio, and the It Starts With YOU podcast, sharing practical insight into patterns many women recognise but rarely speak about openly. She has spoken at Lakefest Festival and Thrive Women's Festival, bringing straight-talking, evidence-based insight to conversations many women are ready to have. Credentials Level 5 Diploma in Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapy (BPS-accredited) PGCE – Qualified Teacher (QTS) CPD in CBT for addiction, insomnia & counselling Enhanced DBS Contact 🌐 rebeccathomson.co.uk✉️ info@rebeccathomson.co.uk📷 Instagram: @thewineoclockwoman
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    33 分
  • 57. How Self-Awareness Shapes Your Behaviour and Your Impact with Simone Fenton-Jarvis

    57. How Self-Awareness Shapes Your Behaviour and Your Impact with Simone Fenton-Jarvis
    2026/04/14
    In this episode of It Starts With YOU, Vic O'Farrell is joined by Simone Fenton Jarvis for a straight-talking conversation about what it really means to be a "good human" at work and in life. Together, they unpack the two things that shape how we show up every day, intent and self-awareness. Because while most of us believe we're doing the right thing, without self-awareness we often miss the true impact of our behaviour on others. From workplace frustrations to difficult conversations with colleagues and leaders, this episode dives into the real moments where behaviour shifts, emotions take over, and misunderstandings happen. Vic and Simone explore how to recognise when you're being triggered, how to handle situations where someone else's behaviour is affecting you, and how to speak up in a way that creates change rather than conflict. It's an honest look at how hard this work can be, from managing your own reactions to navigating egos and pressure in the workplace. This episode is a powerful reminder that behaviour drives behaviour, and whether you realise it or not, the way you show up creates a ripple effect in every room you walk into. So the question is, what kind of ripple are you creating? . "It Starts with You" podcast is available everywhere on Wednesdays every fortnight. If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a rating and review! Thank you, Vic. Let's Connect! Follow Vic O'Farrell via the Queen of Behaviours Instagram - @vicofarrell LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriaofarrell/ Email – hello@queenofbehaviours.com Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com Work with Vicky Showreel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTWViLzyLkU Programmes: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Programmes-2024-new-copy.pdf Speaker Pack: https://queenofbehaviours.com/speaker/ FREE RESOURCES Newsletter: https://mymailers.biz/qob/?fbclid=IwAR3CWpPKNLH0Qy7_9fDBYrCK0o6PdDXfHD08phcq8_okFfJM9UT6cAvIFOo Understand Different Personalities: https://form.jotform.com/250735619744363 Quick Guide to Disc: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Quick-Guide-to-DISC.pdf DISC for Team Success: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Using-DISC-.pdf For updates on new episodes and everything podcast related Watch the podcast on YouTube: www.youtube.com/@queenofbehaviours Instagram - @itstartswithyoupodcastqob Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/queenofbehaviours TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itstartswithyoupodcast LinkedIn Page - https://www.linkedin.com/company/queenofbehaviours/ Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com/podcast About the Guest Simone is Co-Founder of The Human-Centric Workplace Ltd, a 2x published author and multi-award-winning workplace thought leader dedicated to making work better, and more human. With 20 years' experience across Facilities Management and workplace strategy, including a decade operating at Board level, Simone works with organisations to strengthen leadership capability, design high-performing cultures, and turn people strategy into commercial performance. Her work spans workplace strategy, leadership development, change leadership and coaching. You may also come across her at industry events as a speaker or emcee - do say hello! simone@thehuman-centricworkplace.com Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/simonefj/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thehumancentricworkplace/ Substack: https://substack.com/@thcw
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    31 分
  • 56. You're Not Just Your Personality: Understanding the Layers of Behaviour

    56. You're Not Just Your Personality: Understanding the Layers of Behaviour
    2026/03/31

    In Episode 56 of It Starts With You, Vic O'Farrell returns with another solo episode and tackles one of the biggest misconceptions around personality, that it's about labelling people or putting them into boxes.

    This is a straight talking exploration of what really shapes your behaviour, moving beyond surface level personality types and into the deeper layers that influence how you show up every day. Using her Spanish onion analogy, Vic explains that while personality sits at your core, it's everything layered around it, your values, upbringing, beliefs, boundaries and life experiences, that truly drive your reactions and interactions.

    Drawing on her own experience as a high "yellow" personality, Vic shares how traits like being outgoing and energetic can easily tip into interrupting, overtalking or taking over if left unchecked, highlighting that self-awareness is key. This episode challenges the idea of "that's just how I am" and replaces it with a more powerful question, what impact am I having?

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    17 分
  • 55. From Irate to Educate: Breaking Wheelchair Assumptions and Building Accessible Spaces

    55. From Irate to Educate: Breaking Wheelchair Assumptions and Building Accessible Spaces
    2026/03/18
    In this episode of It Starts With YOU, Vic O'Farrell is joined by Fee Stevenson, an ambulant wheelchair user, for a powerful and eye-opening conversation around disability, assumptions, and what true accessibility really looks like in everyday life. Together, they unpack the subtle and not so subtle behaviours that shape how wheelchair users are treated, often without people even realising it. Fee shares honest, personal experiences, from strangers moving her wheelchair without consent to the very real challenges of navigating emergency situations, highlighting how environments and attitudes can unintentionally exclude. It's a conversation that challenges listeners to rethink what they think they know, and to recognise that no two people's needs are ever the same. Alongside these stories, Fee offers practical, real world advice for businesses, venues, and event organisers on how small changes can make a huge difference, from flooring choices to door access, and why inclusivity isn't just the right thing to do, but a smart one too. This episode is an invitation to shift from assumption to awareness, from hesitation to confidence, helping you better understand when to step in, when to ask, and how to create spaces where everyone feels considered. . "It Starts with You" podcast is available everywhere on Wednesdays every fortnight. If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a rating and review! Thank you, Vic. Let's Connect! Follow Vic O'Farrell via the Queen of Behaviours Instagram - @vicofarrell LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriaofarrell/ Email – hello@queenofbehaviours.com Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com Work with Vicky Showreel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTWViLzyLkU Programmes: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Programmes-2024-new-copy.pdf Speaker Pack: https://queenofbehaviours.com/speaker/ FREE RESOURCES Newsletter: https://mymailers.biz/qob/?fbclid=IwAR3CWpPKNLH0Qy7_9fDBYrCK0o6PdDXfHD08phcq8_okFfJM9UT6cAvIFOo Understand Different Personalities: https://form.jotform.com/250735619744363 Quick Guide to Disc: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Quick-Guide-to-DISC.pdf DISC for Team Success: https://queenofbehaviours.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/Using-DISC-.pdf For updates on new episodes and everything podcast related Watch the podcast on YouTube: www.youtube.com/@queenofbehaviours Instagram - @itstartswithyoupodcastqob Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/queenofbehaviours TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itstartswithyoupodcast LinkedIn Page - https://www.linkedin.com/company/queenofbehaviours/ Website - www.queenofbehaviours.com/podcast About the Guest I'm Fee Stevenson, a disability advocate and speaker with a mission to help businesses see inclusion not as a compliance exercise, but as a commercial superpower. With the Purple Pound — the collective spending power of disabled people and their families — valued at £274 billion in the UK, I shine a spotlight on how accessibility and inclusion drive innovation, loyalty, and profitability. Whether I'm addressing senior executives, HR teams, or entire conference halls, my goal is simple: to turn awareness into action and inclusion into advantage.💡 Inclusion isn't charity — it's strategy. Contact me fionasinspirational@gmail.com Mobile 07479 855667 https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=feefee232 https://www.youtube.com/@fionastevenson4582 https://www.linkedin.com/in/fiona-fee-stevenson-3563b029/
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    31 分
  • 54. Making Behavioural Ripples: Understanding Your Impact on Others

    54. Making Behavioural Ripples: Understanding Your Impact on Others
    2026/03/04

    In Episode 54 of It Starts With You, Vic O'Farrell steps behind the mic solo for the very first time and she doesn't hold back. This isn't a Dear Deirdre moment. It's a straight talking dive into what really drives your behaviour at work and at home. Using the metaphor of a Spanish onion, Vic unpacks personality as your steady inner core, while values like respect, autonomy and freedom form the outer layers that shift, clash and sometimes get seriously triggered.

    From messy supermarket trolleys to questionable parking habits, Vic uses everyday frustrations to reveal a deeper truth. The things that irritate you most often collide with your core values. When that happens, your behaviour changes and so does your impact. This episode challenges you to notice your triggers, understand the ripple effect of your reactions, and pause before passing that energy on. Because whether you realise it or not, behaviour drives behaviour and it always starts with you.

    "It Starts with You" podcast is available everywhere on Wednesdays every fortnight.

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    17 分