Lovers hellooo

Happy glorious Monday…and here I am finishing this month with some juice! I am so excited to share my latest podcast episode with you which was a raw, honest, and educational conversation with the one and only Mr Kevin Anthony. …Another great Sex, Love & Relationship Coach.

Kevin Anthony is a Certified Sexologist, Tantra Counselor, NLP Practitioner and a Sex, Love & Relationship coach. For over 10 years he has worked with men, women, and couples to have the relationships of their dreams, and the best sex of their lives! He is also the host of “The Love Lab Podcast”, creator of the popular YouTube channel Kevin Anthony Coaching, and creator of the popular online course series “Power and Mastery” as well as other online courses for both men and women.

We dive into one of the most taboo topics in sexuality: anal sex.

This episode was sparked by one of Kevin’s recent reels about why many women say no to anal. But I couldn’t help but ask: Why is this conversation always centered on women, when every human has an anus? Why don’t we speak about men’s pleasure, fears, or shame in the same way?

So I reached out to him and asked..would you be willing to chat with me about it?And he said …sure! So a few days ago Kevin and I explored topics such as

✨ Why anal intimacy carries so much taboo, shame, and resistance✨ The myths vs. the actual science about sensitivity, nerve endings, and circumcision✨ How both men and women experience anal pleasure (and how it differs)✨ Safety, consent, and preparation for backdoor exploration✨ How anal intimacy can become a practice of vulnerability, healing, and deeper connection

This is not just a “how-to” chat. It is a beautiful inquiry and somewhat of a reframe of anal intimacy as your ( everyones ) portal into trust, sovereignty, and even more expanded pleasure.

So if you are curious, maybe even hesitant, or you just simply want to break through outdated narratives, this episode will open your eyes a little and make you giggle i hope. Because it is all meant to be fun.

Maybe..just maybe ….it will inspire new conversations with your partner.

HERE is the link to Kevin’s product page so you can get yourself the oy he spoke of!

With pleasure,Melissa

Kevin’s links are

https://www.kevinanthonycoaching.com

Host of The Love Lab Podcast

Kevin Anthony Coaching Youtube Channel

The sexy power of play.

It may sound like an oxymoron yet childlike play gets you better adult sex. And it all to do with our primal brain.

Just imagine the pure, untamed and wild freedom of children at play. They run flapping their arms about, they laugh to just keep laughing, they tumble and fall, laugh more, get dirty, don’t care, allow snot to run down their faces…don’t care and still laugh. They can do this day in and day out because their nervous systems, know that they are safe. This comes from being loved and from belonging just as they are.

This is the essence of play. Play is not frivolous. It is not “childish.” I Child like yes, but not childish in a negative form. It is primal. It is actually wired into our nervous system. From birth, our primal brain is asking one essential question: Am I loved? Do I belong? Will I survive?

And play real, free, untethered play answers that question. “yes”

Yet as we grow older, we start to reject the play. We are told there is no time for it. That we need to grow up. So we get stiff and a little boring. We lose the freedom to be silly, to explore without agenda, which is essentially to risk without fear.

When we shut down play, we also shut ourselves off from pleasure. We cut off access to one of the most powerful gateways to turn-on, to intimacy, to erotic aliveness.

In Tantra, play is not optional, It is essential. Tantra teaches us that our erotic energy, our turn-on, comes from freedom. Freedom to move, freedom to express, freedom to be exactly who we are in each moment, without judgment or shame. And play is the bridge to that freedom.

When you laugh, when you dance, when you move spontaneously… your nervous system relaxes and your primal brain gets the message that you are safe by being loved and that you belong. And from that space of safety and freedom, erotic energy just naturally flows.

The research backs me up on this! Couples who bring humour, curiosity, and playful experimentation into their relationships report higher sexual satisfaction. Playfulness predicts openness to sexual variety, more adventurous intimacy, and deeper connection. The playful adult is often the most turned-on, the most adventurous, the most fully alive in their relationships.

BUT….

Many of us have one or more inner children holding us back. Sabotaging many areas of our lives. The repressed inner child will cause chaos in your life.

Children often feel powerless and have a lack of sense of control and we carry this through into adult hood. We carry through those aspects where we were taught it was not safe to be a certain way.

even though your adult brain will logically know that it is ok to do something, your inner child will still continue to shut down these aspects of yourself. ESPECIALLY in the bedroom. Showing up in the bedroom as a fully expressed man is SEXY... having your teenager there is not.!!!

Which is why today I am placing in the Tantric process I use with my 1:1 clients.

It is powerful as all f*ck…and doing this process has you f*cking better..

Go figure!

So if you are nto subscribed yet…be sure to do so below and get your play in action.

Good glorious Monday lovers.

What juicy video I have for you this week for those who are inside my inner circle of paid subscribers.

A few weeks ago I sent a video on different touches through out the Erotic Blueprints and inside of the Kink Blueprint I suggested the use of “Gaffa” Tape. Mainly because this is something that has me up as a turn for me recently. I do not know why and I do not need to know why.

All I need to know is how to get my needs met.

Which is exactly what I did at the sex party … I asked, I created a container and I received .

As mentioned in my video, before one even gets into a scene there is much to consider. So I have written up some guidelines to support you.

A Guide for the Tender, Curious, and Courageous

Maybe there is a part of you that longs for something more.

More sensation. More surrender. More depth More truth. More freedom to go to the wild edges of your body and your desire.

And maybe, just maybe, you are curious about stepping into a kink or BDSM scene, but you have never really named your needs out loud. Not fully. Not clearly. Not with that sexy tremble in your voice and the burning hope in your belly.

If that sounds like you my love… then this guide ( and my story ) is for you.

Let me show you how to gently, bravely, and beautifully set yourself up to have your needs met in kink and how to honour the deep exhale that follows… the aftercare.

To listen to the entire story and get my guide, you will need to be subscribed sexy one.

Enjoy the story Lover.

Always with Pleasure

M

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When two wild and free women get together to chat…incredible things happen/

I often have to pinch myself that this is my life. That these are the conversations I get to have with people.

It is Sunday evening in many parts f the world right now. Grab your glass of wine, cup of tea, or even you dinner and take a listen to this juicy convo.

Both Jennifer and I go there on much needed to discuss topics when it comes to partnered sex, masturbation and communication.

Be sure to follow Jennifer on Instagram here and let me know what you think of this episode below.

Always with Pleasure

M

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Lover… can we talk dirty for a moment?

No, seriously.Not just the moans and the filthy whispers (though, goddess yes!!! more of that please)…

Let’s talk about dirty ( pleasure ) talk. The words we crave to hear… or at times fear to speak.

For some, dirty talk is the eroticism to their ecstasy. And for others, it feels like speaking a foreign language while naked under pressure that turns things south in a second.

Is dirty talk hot... or just awkward for you? Just like any other skill it needs to be practiced.

What is great about it? The Pros:

* It can turn you and your body on with just words alone. A whisper in your ear can feel like a hand on your thigh. ( mmmhhh melt )

* It builds anticipation and tension. (Tease me with your voice before you touch me.)

* It’s a playground for desire, fantasy, and power dynamics.

* It helps you claim your desires out loud which is seriously hot AF.

* AND It builds intimacy

What is not so hot about it….

* It can feel awkward or performative if it’s not authentic.

* Some people go straight to porn language which might feel disconnected or harsh.

* It can bring up shame, self-consciousness, or fear of saying the “wrong” thing.

* If partners are not attuned, it can miss the mark (and kill the mood instead of lighting it up).

* Without consent and boundaries, dirty talk can go from hot to harmful real fast.

So… how do we make dirty talk hot?

In my video above I go through the ways to do so and I have included a great resource to get started on your sexy journey of turning your words into a sexy party all on their own.

Basically, your voice is as powerful as your body.

To get access to the entire video be sure to be a paid subscriber lover.

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With moans, magic, and a wink,Melissa LouiseSacred Sexuality Coach | Erotic Blueprint™ MentorTurning you on, one word at a time 💋

Good glorious Thursday, lovers,

I just wrapped a soul-stretching conversation with the phenomenal Jackson McGregor, a transformation coach who works with high-performing men to melt the internal ice and step into grounded, embodied leadership in a world where having more seems to be the only worth while goal.

In our time together..we went there. We pulled back the curtain on a painful Australian rite of passage: “Don’t feel, mate—just push through.” Speaking deeply to the cost of the battle grown men who look powerful on paper are left to battle.

* a chronic sense of emptiness in life

* relationships that feel like a negotiation and battle field

* erectile challenges that erode confidence and power

* and our alarming rates of male suicide

Jackson and I dove into how emotional intelligence, breath and body practices, and courageous self inquiry reconnect men to their full humanity, which is often lost on men as they grow up.

And we spoke intensely about how boys are raised is a huge part of the issue that they deal with as adults.

Why hit play on this interview?

To hear what men have to say about how they are required to exist in this world struggling along side of how we women are also required to exist.

Humanity is in quite the shit show of trauma existence when it comes to mental and physical health. With all the choices that we demand to have so many people are left lost in their own existence.

This interview was a humbling yet powerful moment to be in and one I truly hope you enjoy and get something out of.

If what you hear resonates you can find Jackson in a few places.

INSTAGRAM

YOUTUBE

SKOOL COMMUNITY

With fire & tenderness,

Melissa LouiseErotic Blueprint™ & Sacred Sexuality CoachHelping humans remember their divine, powerful selves. One courageous conversation at a time.

P.S. Forward this to a brother, partner, or friend who deserves to feel fully alive again. Let’s end the myth that numbness equals strength, together.

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LOVERS… good glorious Monday

There’s something I’ve been sitting with lately, so I made a video about it because it feels important.

We are asking so much of our relationships today.What we once received from an entire village, we are now trying to get from just one person. The industrial evolution may have changed how we ( dont ) look after ourselves anymore in community, yet the human system has not changed. We just require it to survive in our current conditions.

Our lover must be our best friend, our emotional confidant, our erotic match, our co-parent, our co-regulator, our business partner... ..and also give us space and hold us through all our healing.

That’s a lot to hold for just one person.

In monogamy especially, the container can get tight, heavy and exhausting. Not because we are doing it wrong, but because we’re expecting one person to be the village.

In the video I share how Men don’t get enough time alone inside of relationships.And women do not get enough time with other women.

There’s a disconnection happening. Not because we’re broken, but because something is missing.

What’s missing is the missing.The missing of one another and the missing of other. The community, the rituals, the shared support and the presence that once held the fabric of our love lives and relationships together.

This is not an anti monogamy article or about blame. It is about awareness.Because when we name what’s missing, we can stop placing impossible demands on our lovers. To ease of the pressure from ourselves and them and create a more inclusive way of existing. We can begin to call in the support, the space, and the connection we truly need that can be sourced from other avenues rather than “the one”.

I would love to hear what it brings up in you when you listen to the video above.

This is the kind of conversation I want am wanting more of in my world. Raw, honest, and grounded in love and curiosity.

Always with Pleasure.M

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LOVER. I so want you all to win.

I hear ( especially now that I am privvy to the flirting method with over 1000 men in a group ) often that men are confused and jaded when their woman is not initiating sex, and / or turning them down when they go to initiate sex.

So I made this video for you after I had made a similar one for the said group above.

After the responses I received of gratitude from those men I thought you guys also deserve such support.

If you have been or are in this kind of frustration around how she seems to often pull away then this video is for you.

Believe me lover. You are not alone.A lot of men feel stuck here. And I know… this kind of feeling stuck leads you to wonder if “she is just not into you anymore?” and wondering “what did I do wrong now?” and questioning “Why does she always have a reason to say no?”

It can feel defeating. ( on both sides..believe me ) And if you are like most men, you are deeply craving intimacy, closeness, touch…. not just the physical release of an ejaculation. But the actual nourishment of connection, closeness, and the return of that spark.

The truth is men and women are on opposite sides of the connection coin. Men often go to sex to feel connected yet women often need to feel connected to go towards sex.

Our sexual wiring is totally different than yours. And understanding that difference is the key to changing everything.

I truly hope you find it supportive lovers.

If you are ready to kick ass in the relationship sector of your life with your partner and ready to live a life where your relationship, intimacy and sex is in the centre of your day to day living…. then lets get on a call and discuss how I can support you actually getting this as your reality.

Book your discovery call here

Believe me…It is not about being perfect. It’s about being attuned.

Always with Pleasure

Melissa Louise

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