Hello beautiful lovers,

I recently taught a 90 min masterclass on the biology of women and to be completley honest, I was not prepared for the depth of the responses that came back.

Men wrote to me saying things like:

“Holy scissors! I’ve been hit by a tsunami of information and experience.”“If only I had known this years ago…”“It will take me two years to fully absorb and practice what I learned.”

Whilst other men cried as they pondered if they would have actually separated from their partners if they had known this.

What moved me most was not just their enthusiasm, but more so it was the shift in understanding. Men began to see that women are not a problem to fix.That our hormones, nervous systems, and emotional processing are fundamentally different and oh so exquisitely designed.That a woman does not open through solutions, logic, or pressure… she opens through emotional safety, presence, and rhythm.

One man shared that for the first time he truly understood why safety is paramount for women and that from now on, he would encourage his wife to take her time instead of rushing her.Another said he finally grasped that women are not fragile or weak, but beautifully complex and immense.Many realized that what women need most is not fixing but listening, presence, and attunement instead.

One man even said, “This should be taught in big businesses.”

This masterclass is not about blame.It is about biology, compassion, and understanding and what becomes possible in relationships when men and women finally speak the same language.

If you are a man who wants deeper connection…a woman who wants to feel seen and understood…or a couple tired of misunderstanding each other….

this class will change the way you relate.

To have access to the entire class simply subscribe by pushing the button below.

I am also including the audio so you can listen on your long drives over this Xmas season.

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M

Hello lovers…..

This email is and podcast episode is for the women here and I feel like I am wrapped in pink silk just writing to you about it.

Last week I sat down with Teal Elisabeth, the powerhouse behind Relax Into Love Coaching, and our conversation went straight to the heart of what so many women struggle with. How to be strong, powerful, unapologetic AND deeply loved.

with my raw, brutally honest and scorpio drenched way of crawling through the world I have not ever really been intrigued by “Love coaching”, but let me tell you, when I met Teal a little over a month ago, I was like “Oh Hello”. I want to know more about this women and have her in my field.

What I love about what Teal embodies is that she is not teaching women to “lean in” harder or to chase love. And she is definitely not teaching you to dim your light or play small to keep a man interested.

Nah babe..Teal teaches something she calls “soft fierceness” the art of having non-negotiable requirements for how you show up AND how your partner shows up, without apology, without hoping he will eventually come around, and without sacrificing your power.

In this really sweet and powerful episode, we chat giggle and even have a few tears about,

* Why “hoping he will like you” or “waiting for him to come back” is energetically repelling the love you want

* How to set clear requirements for partnership without feeling demanding or pushy

* What it really means to “Relax Into Love” when you have spent years proving your worth

* How to stop over giving, overthinking, and carrying the mental load in relationships

Teal has helped hundreds of women around the world transform from anxious, burned out daters into women who attract deeply committed, soul-nourishing partnerships. And it is not by doing more lovers, I promise.

Her message is that you do not have to go get the love. When you know your requirements and lean back into your feminine power, the right partnership is magnetized to you.

If you are one of so many women who feel torn between your ambition and your desire for partnership, or if you are tired of being the one who does all the work in relationships, this conversation will hit home. Make a cup of tea, snuggle on the couch with a fluffy blanket and enjoy our convo.

And just fo credit who she is… Teal is a Spiritual Love & Relationship Coach trained in Feminine Energy, NLP, and subconscious reprogramming. She’s happily married for 10 years, a new mama, and has built her entire business while traveling the world as a digital nomad. She walks her talk…..and it damn well shows.

The great thing is she has a (free) 5 day event coming up called MANifest starting Dec1st. She does not start letting the world know until next week…but you can get your cheeky bum in now if you like because you are here Inside of The Pleasure Studio.

Sign up HERE

Ok lovers… be well, be juicy and be unapologetically YOU.

Always with pleasure

M

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Lovers hello

You know I adore conversations that crack open our conditioning and invite us into questioning the world we live in. The convo’s that are raw, a little humorous and of course a little uncomfortable in all the best ways.

Recently I sat down with Luna, the creator of the Polytales Podcast, to talk about her messy, human, and oh-so-relatable road into polyamory.

We talk into jealousy, liberation, cultural conditioning, and what it actually looks like to love more than one person without losing yourself (or your mind).

Luna shares what it’s been like to navigate love and freedom as a Mexican woman in a culture where traditional values, religion, and romantic ideals run deep.It is juicy and honest and shows that life is messy as f*ck at times.

And I am curious…what does love without ownership mean to you?I would love to hear your thoughts after you listen.

Always with Pleasure and a wink 😜 Melissa LouiseHost of Inside of The Pleasure Studio💋

Hey lovers

I am a bit excited to share this week’s episode with you because I am, we are.. dismantling one of the most pervasive myths used to justify “male promiscuity…” and that is the idea that “men are naturally wired to spread their seed.”

We have heard it all before. It has been used to excuse everything from infidelity ( even though the stats are pretty even on that one between women and men ) to commitment phobia. But here is what that narrative conveniently leaves out

The egg chooses the sperm. Not the other way around.

The biological reality is that fertilization is not some conquering mission where sperm “penetrates” a passive egg. The egg actively selects which sperm it will allow entry. She is the one in charge. She is the gatekeeper, the decision maker and the chooser.

If we look at ancestral communal and polyamorous living structures, men ( via their sperm ) were not guaranteed anything. They ( the sperm ) were essentially in a lineup, hoping to be chosen. A man could ejaculate inside many wombs and still not father children, because ultimately, the woman’s body (and the egg itself) held all the power. SHE chose the fittest…. this is the first line of defense for survival of the fittest. ( How monogamy relationships have bred a weaker and more disease prone society…. needs to be truly looked at… )

Even the research in books like Sperm Wars reveals that the majority of sperm in any ejaculation are not there to fertilize. They are “warrior sperm” designed to block or kill competing sperm. In other words, male biology evolved not for indiscriminate spreading, but for sperm competition. A response to the reality that women have always had multiple partners……………

So this whole “men need to spread their seed” story? It’s not biology. It is patriarchy wearing a lab coat.

The truth is far more interesting and fun.

Our bodies evolved in contexts of female choice, communal intimacy, and yes—women’s sexual autonomy.

In this episode, I break down:

* The science of egg selection and what actually happens during fertilization

* What sperm competition really tells us about ancestral mating patterns

* How the “spread their seed” narrative serves patriarchal control, not biological truth

* What happens when we recenter female agency in our understanding of sexuality

This is about reframing the narrative and telling the whole story. About recognizing that even our biology has been filtered through a patriarchal lens.

Ready to hear it differently?

Take a listen to the episode above.

With love, pleasure and a little rebellion ( of course )

M

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P.S. If this resonates, please share it. These conversations matter, and the more we question these “natural” narratives, the more freedom we all have to live authentically.

mmhhh happy glorious Friday lovers.I wrote a poem about its origin….

Recently I have had many people send me reels with twangy Australian voices using the word cunt not unlike the consistent word of “um”……

Australia as a nation has single handedly used, abused and totally tainted the beauty of cunt and made it become so common in its degrading. This does her no justice what so ever.

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I thought I would do homage to who she truly is…and bring her back out of the gutter. Because that is no place for her at all.

So I wrote a poem about her and thought I would share a little history to you all for your reading pleasure.

The word cunt is one of the oldest known terms for the female genitalia actually predating patriarchal language systems. IN fact her earliest linguistic ancestors appear in Sanskrit: yoni (meaning “sacred source” or “womb of creation.”), in Proto-Germanic & Old Norse.. kunta or kunte, which denotes “woman” or “female power.” and the good ole Old English…..cunte, a neutral and descriptive word simply meaning vulva.

Before the word was shamed and weaponized, it was a god damn title of reverence, associated with the goddess, creation, and the life-giving portal from which all beings are born.

And the pure poetic essence of “Cunt” once meant the holy doorway, the temple gate through which life emerges.It was a word of worship, a name for the divine feminine, for the dark, wet, fertile mystery that births stars, souls and god damn rock stars! ( and the weavers, potters, farmers and pilots)..all of them truth be told 1

It is the cave of creation,the sanctum of pleasure and power,the seat of intuition,the portal between worlds…death, birth, ecstasy, and rebirth.

To speak it in its original vibration was to invoke the Goddess herself Kundalini, Kali, Isis, Inanna, the Great Mother.

So…for this Friday morning I am just doing my own bit of reclaiming and i hope you like it.

This is not about shock value ( although… maybe just a little ) but it is more about remembering.It is about returning the word to her rightful throne god damn it.from slur to spell,from shame to sovereignty.

When spoken with awareness, cunt becomes a prayer, a dripping pulse and a reclamation of our erotic, creative divinity.

Happy Friday lovers

Always with Pleasure

M

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Lovers hellooo

Happy glorious Monday…and here I am finishing this month with some juice! I am so excited to share my latest podcast episode with you which was a raw, honest, and educational conversation with the one and only Mr Kevin Anthony. …Another great Sex, Love & Relationship Coach.

Kevin Anthony is a Certified Sexologist, Tantra Counselor, NLP Practitioner and a Sex, Love & Relationship coach. For over 10 years he has worked with men, women, and couples to have the relationships of their dreams, and the best sex of their lives! He is also the host of “The Love Lab Podcast”, creator of the popular YouTube channel Kevin Anthony Coaching, and creator of the popular online course series “Power and Mastery” as well as other online courses for both men and women.

We dive into one of the most taboo topics in sexuality: anal sex.

This episode was sparked by one of Kevin’s recent reels about why many women say no to anal. But I couldn’t help but ask: Why is this conversation always centered on women, when every human has an anus? Why don’t we speak about men’s pleasure, fears, or shame in the same way?

So I reached out to him and asked..would you be willing to chat with me about it?And he said …sure! So a few days ago Kevin and I explored topics such as

✨ Why anal intimacy carries so much taboo, shame, and resistance✨ The myths vs. the actual science about sensitivity, nerve endings, and circumcision✨ How both men and women experience anal pleasure (and how it differs)✨ Safety, consent, and preparation for backdoor exploration✨ How anal intimacy can become a practice of vulnerability, healing, and deeper connection

This is not just a “how-to” chat. It is a beautiful inquiry and somewhat of a reframe of anal intimacy as your ( everyones ) portal into trust, sovereignty, and even more expanded pleasure.

So if you are curious, maybe even hesitant, or you just simply want to break through outdated narratives, this episode will open your eyes a little and make you giggle i hope. Because it is all meant to be fun.

Maybe..just maybe ….it will inspire new conversations with your partner.

HERE is the link to Kevin’s product page so you can get yourself the oy he spoke of!

With pleasure,Melissa

Kevin’s links are

https://www.kevinanthonycoaching.com

Host of The Love Lab Podcast

Kevin Anthony Coaching Youtube Channel

The sexy power of play.

It may sound like an oxymoron yet childlike play gets you better adult sex. And it all to do with our primal brain.

Just imagine the pure, untamed and wild freedom of children at play. They run flapping their arms about, they laugh to just keep laughing, they tumble and fall, laugh more, get dirty, don’t care, allow snot to run down their faces…don’t care and still laugh. They can do this day in and day out because their nervous systems, know that they are safe. This comes from being loved and from belonging just as they are.

This is the essence of play. Play is not frivolous. It is not “childish.” I Child like yes, but not childish in a negative form. It is primal. It is actually wired into our nervous system. From birth, our primal brain is asking one essential question: Am I loved? Do I belong? Will I survive?

And play real, free, untethered play answers that question. “yes”

Yet as we grow older, we start to reject the play. We are told there is no time for it. That we need to grow up. So we get stiff and a little boring. We lose the freedom to be silly, to explore without agenda, which is essentially to risk without fear.

When we shut down play, we also shut ourselves off from pleasure. We cut off access to one of the most powerful gateways to turn-on, to intimacy, to erotic aliveness.

In Tantra, play is not optional, It is essential. Tantra teaches us that our erotic energy, our turn-on, comes from freedom. Freedom to move, freedom to express, freedom to be exactly who we are in each moment, without judgment or shame. And play is the bridge to that freedom.

When you laugh, when you dance, when you move spontaneously… your nervous system relaxes and your primal brain gets the message that you are safe by being loved and that you belong. And from that space of safety and freedom, erotic energy just naturally flows.

The research backs me up on this! Couples who bring humour, curiosity, and playful experimentation into their relationships report higher sexual satisfaction. Playfulness predicts openness to sexual variety, more adventurous intimacy, and deeper connection. The playful adult is often the most turned-on, the most adventurous, the most fully alive in their relationships.

BUT….

Many of us have one or more inner children holding us back. Sabotaging many areas of our lives. The repressed inner child will cause chaos in your life.

Children often feel powerless and have a lack of sense of control and we carry this through into adult hood. We carry through those aspects where we were taught it was not safe to be a certain way.

even though your adult brain will logically know that it is ok to do something, your inner child will still continue to shut down these aspects of yourself. ESPECIALLY in the bedroom. Showing up in the bedroom as a fully expressed man is SEXY... having your teenager there is not.!!!

Which is why today I am placing in the Tantric process I use with my 1:1 clients.

It is powerful as all f*ck…and doing this process has you f*cking better..

Go figure!

So if you are nto subscribed yet…be sure to do so below and get your play in action.

Good glorious Monday lovers.

What juicy video I have for you this week for those who are inside my inner circle of paid subscribers.

A few weeks ago I sent a video on different touches through out the Erotic Blueprints and inside of the Kink Blueprint I suggested the use of “Gaffa” Tape. Mainly because this is something that has me up as a turn for me recently. I do not know why and I do not need to know why.

All I need to know is how to get my needs met.

Which is exactly what I did at the sex party … I asked, I created a container and I received .

As mentioned in my video, before one even gets into a scene there is much to consider. So I have written up some guidelines to support you.

A Guide for the Tender, Curious, and Courageous

Maybe there is a part of you that longs for something more.

More sensation. More surrender. More depth More truth. More freedom to go to the wild edges of your body and your desire.

And maybe, just maybe, you are curious about stepping into a kink or BDSM scene, but you have never really named your needs out loud. Not fully. Not clearly. Not with that sexy tremble in your voice and the burning hope in your belly.

If that sounds like you my love… then this guide ( and my story ) is for you.

Let me show you how to gently, bravely, and beautifully set yourself up to have your needs met in kink and how to honour the deep exhale that follows… the aftercare.

To listen to the entire story and get my guide, you will need to be subscribed sexy one.

Enjoy the story Lover.

Always with Pleasure

M

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