Lovers hellooo

Happy glorious Monday…and here I am finishing this month with some juice! I am so excited to share my latest podcast episode with you which was a raw, honest, and educational conversation with the one and only Mr Kevin Anthony. …Another great Sex, Love & Relationship Coach.

Kevin Anthony is a Certified Sexologist, Tantra Counselor, NLP Practitioner and a Sex, Love & Relationship coach. For over 10 years he has worked with men, women, and couples to have the relationships of their dreams, and the best sex of their lives! He is also the host of “The Love Lab Podcast”, creator of the popular YouTube channel Kevin Anthony Coaching, and creator of the popular online course series “Power and Mastery” as well as other online courses for both men and women.

We dive into one of the most taboo topics in sexuality: anal sex.

This episode was sparked by one of Kevin’s recent reels about why many women say no to anal. But I couldn’t help but ask: Why is this conversation always centered on women, when every human has an anus? Why don’t we speak about men’s pleasure, fears, or shame in the same way?

So I reached out to him and asked..would you be willing to chat with me about it?And he said …sure! So a few days ago Kevin and I explored topics such as

✨ Why anal intimacy carries so much taboo, shame, and resistance✨ The myths vs. the actual science about sensitivity, nerve endings, and circumcision✨ How both men and women experience anal pleasure (and how it differs)✨ Safety, consent, and preparation for backdoor exploration✨ How anal intimacy can become a practice of vulnerability, healing, and deeper connection

This is not just a “how-to” chat. It is a beautiful inquiry and somewhat of a reframe of anal intimacy as your ( everyones ) portal into trust, sovereignty, and even more expanded pleasure.

So if you are curious, maybe even hesitant, or you just simply want to break through outdated narratives, this episode will open your eyes a little and make you giggle i hope. Because it is all meant to be fun.

Maybe..just maybe ….it will inspire new conversations with your partner.

HERE is the link to Kevin’s product page so you can get yourself the oy he spoke of!

With pleasure,Melissa

Kevin’s links are

https://www.kevinanthonycoaching.com

Host of The Love Lab Podcast

Kevin Anthony Coaching Youtube Channel

The sexy power of play.

It may sound like an oxymoron yet childlike play gets you better adult sex. And it all to do with our primal brain.

Just imagine the pure, untamed and wild freedom of children at play. They run flapping their arms about, they laugh to just keep laughing, they tumble and fall, laugh more, get dirty, don’t care, allow snot to run down their faces…don’t care and still laugh. They can do this day in and day out because their nervous systems, know that they are safe. This comes from being loved and from belonging just as they are.

This is the essence of play. Play is not frivolous. It is not “childish.” I Child like yes, but not childish in a negative form. It is primal. It is actually wired into our nervous system. From birth, our primal brain is asking one essential question: Am I loved? Do I belong? Will I survive?

And play real, free, untethered play answers that question. “yes”

Yet as we grow older, we start to reject the play. We are told there is no time for it. That we need to grow up. So we get stiff and a little boring. We lose the freedom to be silly, to explore without agenda, which is essentially to risk without fear.

When we shut down play, we also shut ourselves off from pleasure. We cut off access to one of the most powerful gateways to turn-on, to intimacy, to erotic aliveness.

In Tantra, play is not optional, It is essential. Tantra teaches us that our erotic energy, our turn-on, comes from freedom. Freedom to move, freedom to express, freedom to be exactly who we are in each moment, without judgment or shame. And play is the bridge to that freedom.

When you laugh, when you dance, when you move spontaneously… your nervous system relaxes and your primal brain gets the message that you are safe by being loved and that you belong. And from that space of safety and freedom, erotic energy just naturally flows.

The research backs me up on this! Couples who bring humour, curiosity, and playful experimentation into their relationships report higher sexual satisfaction. Playfulness predicts openness to sexual variety, more adventurous intimacy, and deeper connection. The playful adult is often the most turned-on, the most adventurous, the most fully alive in their relationships.

BUT….

Many of us have one or more inner children holding us back. Sabotaging many areas of our lives. The repressed inner child will cause chaos in your life.

Children often feel powerless and have a lack of sense of control and we carry this through into adult hood. We carry through those aspects where we were taught it was not safe to be a certain way.

even though your adult brain will logically know that it is ok to do something, your inner child will still continue to shut down these aspects of yourself. ESPECIALLY in the bedroom. Showing up in the bedroom as a fully expressed man is SEXY... having your teenager there is not.!!!

Which is why today I am placing in the Tantric process I use with my 1:1 clients.

It is powerful as all f*ck…and doing this process has you f*cking better..

Go figure!

So if you are nto subscribed yet…be sure to do so below and get your play in action.

Good glorious Monday lovers.

What juicy video I have for you this week for those who are inside my inner circle of paid subscribers.

A few weeks ago I sent a video on different touches through out the Erotic Blueprints and inside of the Kink Blueprint I suggested the use of “Gaffa” Tape. Mainly because this is something that has me up as a turn for me recently. I do not know why and I do not need to know why.

All I need to know is how to get my needs met.

Which is exactly what I did at the sex party … I asked, I created a container and I received .

As mentioned in my video, before one even gets into a scene there is much to consider. So I have written up some guidelines to support you.

A Guide for the Tender, Curious, and Courageous

Maybe there is a part of you that longs for something more.

More sensation. More surrender. More depth More truth. More freedom to go to the wild edges of your body and your desire.

And maybe, just maybe, you are curious about stepping into a kink or BDSM scene, but you have never really named your needs out loud. Not fully. Not clearly. Not with that sexy tremble in your voice and the burning hope in your belly.

If that sounds like you my love… then this guide ( and my story ) is for you.

Let me show you how to gently, bravely, and beautifully set yourself up to have your needs met in kink and how to honour the deep exhale that follows… the aftercare.

To listen to the entire story and get my guide, you will need to be subscribed sexy one.

Enjoy the story Lover.

Always with Pleasure

M

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