Here are compelling show notes for episode 058 of The Influence Every Day Show:

When we strip away context, we strip away meaning - and often, we misjudge what’s in front of us.

In this powerful episode, Dr. Ed Tori shares a deeply personal story: his mother’s recent hospitalization. On paper, her condition might seem dire. But a single sentence changed the room every time: “Just seven days ago, she was on my deck writing her fifth book.” That one line reframed the entire situation for nurses, doctors, and therapists alike - and it lit a fire of urgency, hope, and action.

This episode isn’t just about a medical scare - it’s a masterclass in influence. You’ll learn:

• Why context is the gateway to compassion and accurate decision-making

• How repeating a key narrative can ripple through systems and shift outcomes

• The subtle power of anchoring people in a story - not just a snapshot

• Why your words can either lower the bar or raise the standard

If you lead, teach, care for others, or solve problems for a living - this is essential listening. Influence starts not with advice, but with understanding.

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Episode 057 - Stop Trying to Change Your Emotions With Other Emotions

The Influence Every Day Show with Dr. Tori

When you’re stuck in a spiral of self-judgment, regret, or overwhelm, the typical advice is to feel something different - to force your way into gratitude, joy, or peace. But here’s the truth: emotions don’t change emotions.

Actions do. (Frames and contexts can too, but let's focus on action...)

In this episode, Dr. Ed Tori dismantles the myth that emotional states can be shifted by sheer force of will. You’ll discover:

• Why saying “I should” or “I need to” or "I should just be" only deepens emotional ruts

• The reason “Don’t worry, be happy” is terrible advice

• What to do instead when you’re stuck, spiraling, or snapping at others

• How to leverage behaviors, not feelings, to shift into more resourceful states

• A powerful real-world coaching story about emotional spirals, calendar design, and strategic behavior change

You’ll also get an introduction to a practical framework for influence that includes States, Frames, Patterns, and Contexts - and why you don’t fix a state problem in the state bucket.

Free Resource: DrTori.com/101

Download 101 practical actions to manage your state - no email required.

Ready to change your day, your impact, or your relationship?

Stop wrestling with your emotions. Take action instead.

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Ever notice how two people can hear the exact same thing - and walk away with totally different interpretations?

It’s not just about who you’re listening to.

It’s about where you’re listening from.

Are you listening from stress or stillness?

From judgment or curiosity?

From ego or compassion?

That preposition shift - from “listening to” to “listening from” - changes everything.

It sheds light on your filters.

It reframes your reality.

And it gives you the power to control how things land - even when the message stays the same.

In this episode, you’ll explore:

• How your internal state frames what you hear

• Why ego, fear, and blame distort conversations

• How to shift into more powerful frames - like service, love, or gratitude

• A simple phrase that reveals the truth: “It hits different because you showed up different.”

Whether it’s a high-stakes meeting, a tough email, or walking through your front door—you shape the experience by how you listen.

Mentioned:

• HypnoticGiftsBook.com - Free book: How to Transform Someone’s Life in a Single Conversation

• Apply for 1-on-1 Coaching

Episode 055 – That Moment the Light Comes On

The Influence Every Day Show with Dr. Ed Tori

There’s a reason people run back to their comfort zone. The darkness is familiar. Safe. Predictable.

But what if the pain you feel when the light comes on isn’t a signal to retreat—but an invitation to awaken?

This episode is about that precise moment: when you get a glimpse of a better version of your life, your work, your relationships… and you flinch.

You’ll be challenged to examine the things you keep running back to:

• A toxic relationship.

• An outdated self-image.

• The excuse that keeps you stuck.

• The “almost ready” project collecting dust.

And you’ll be asked to do one brave thing: sit with the discomfort just long enough to see the world clearly.

This is your sign.

The light is already on.

Will you look?

If this spoke to you, send it to someone who needs to hear it.

And if you’re finally ready to turn your influence into action, explore the free resources and coaching opportunities linked below.

HypnoticGiftsBook.com – Learn how to transform someone’s life in a single conversation

Apply for 1:1 Coaching – Influence immersion with Dr. Tori

Certainly. Here’s a set of compelling show notes for your episode:

Episode 054 - Influence Every Day with Dr. Ed Tori

“No amount of guilt can change the past. No amount of worry can change the future.” So why do we keep living in both?

In this episode, Dr. Ed Tori unpacks a 1400-year-old quote from Umar ibn al-Khattab - a timeless framework for navigating regret, anxiety, self-compassion, and trust in the midst of responsibility.

You’ll explore:

• Why guilt is powerless to rewrite what’s already been written.

• How worry masquerades as preparation while robbing you of peace.

• What it actually means to “go easy on yourself” - and why it’s not about giving up.

• The difference between outcomes and obligations - and how that distinction fuels purposeful action.

• What to do when you feel like something should have been yours… but wasn’t.

This episode is more than reflection - it’s a reset.

For your thoughts.

For your effort.

For your peace of mind.

Whether you’re haunted by a past moment or bracing yourself for a future one, this conversation brings you back to the only place you have any power: right now.

Resources Mentioned:

• Hypnotic Gifts - Free Book: Learn how to transform someone’s life in a single conversation.

• 1-on-1 Influence Immersion with Dr. Tori: Apply to work directly with Dr. Tori and elevate your influence and communication.

If this episode resonated with you:

• Share it with someone who’s carrying guilt or worry.

• Leave a review so others can discover the show.

• And remember: You’re responsible for your effort - not the outcome.

Go forth. And influence for good. Every day.

There’s a massive difference between the people you spend time with and the time you spend with people.

One shapes who you’re becoming.

The other shapes how others become after encountering you.

In this episode, Dr. Ed Tori breaks down two deceptively similar phrases that hold the keys to your influence, your relationships, and your legacy. You’ll learn why being intentional about your proximity—and your presence—is one of the most powerful things you can do.

• Why “ambient influence” is silently shaping you every day

• The Jim Rohn quote you’ve heard—but redefined

• How to stop being the echo of your environment and start becoming the architect of your impact

• Why 10 seconds of intentional presence can outweigh an hour of surface-level interaction

• The single question to ask before every conversation: Who walks into the room when I walk into the room?

“It’s not about the duration of time—it’s about the depth of presence.”

• Get the Hypnotic Gifts framework – Learn how to transform someone’s life in a single conversation

• Join the Influence Book Club – Get the best insights from the best books on influence, curated by Dr. Tori

• Share it with someone who needs to hear it

• Leave a quick review—it helps others find the show

• Influence for good. Every day.

What shows up when you show up?

In today’s reflective and practical episode, Dr. Ed Tori breaks down a principle that quietly governs every great interaction, relationship, and result:

👉 It starts before it begins.

Whether you’re leading a meeting, pitching a client, parenting your kids, or changing your life—success hinges on what happens long before the moment itself. From managing your state… to prepping your message… to building skills… to shaping your character… influence begins long before you speak a single word.

• Why managing your state is not the deepest layer of preparation

• The four layers that influence outcomes—before you even enter the room

• How character isn’t just what you have, it’s what shows up

• A practical reframe that connects emotional regulation, preparation, skill, and identity

• What makes a powerful first impression in a world full of authenticity detectors

If you’ve ever wondered why some people seem to radiate influence the moment they arrive… this episode gives you the roadmap.

• 💡 HypnoticGiftsBook.com — Transform someone’s life in a single conversation.

• 📚 InfluenceBookClub.com — Master the best books on influence, one month at a time.

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The Influence Every Day Show with Dr. Ed Tori

In this unscripted, heartfelt episode, Dr. Ed Tori reflects on how we experience time—not just in fleeting moments, but in beads, strings, chapters, and eras. Inspired by a wedding anniversary, the coloring of a weekly life box, and meaningful family conversations, Ed invites you to pause… and see time differently.

Through the lens of influence and gratitude, this short episode will challenge you to:

• Rethink how your life is unfolding

• Reconnect with people who matter

• Reframe your past—not to rewrite it, but to reclaim it

• Reach out before the moment slips away

This is more than a reflection. It’s a quiet call to action.

• Why moments can pivot an entire life

• How beads of time create meaningful experiences

• The concept of strings—the threads that quietly weave our story

• Defining chapters and seasons of life with deeper clarity

• A gratitude practice that bridges past, present, and possibility

• Hypnotic Gifts – How to change someone’s life in a single conversation

• Influence Book Club – Join the club, build the skill, live the impact

Before your next meeting, message, or moment—pause and reflect:

• What thread are you in right now?

• Who from your past made a mark on you?

• What chapter are you grateful for—even if it hurt?

Then, go create a moment worth remembering.