In this episode, Dr. Ed Tori poses a deceptively powerful question:

“How different would your week be if you pretended everyone you met was sent to teach you something?”

From annoying coworkers to passive-aggressive emails… from toddler tantrums to micromanagers… from Lyft drivers to your own children - this episode unpacks how adopting a “curious student” frame in everyday interactions can unlock surprising insight, emotional mastery, and even life-changing wisdom.

This isn’t just mindset work. It’s moment-by-moment training in influence, communication, and presence.

• How friction can become feedback (and feedback can become fuel)

• Why a 5-star Uber driver changed how Ed approaches every conversation

• What criticism at the dinner table might really be offering you

• The leadership lesson hiding inside micromanagement

• A profound insight Ed’s mom got from a 5-year-old version of him

• A practice you can start today that will change how people respond to you forever

For the next 7 days, pretend every person you meet - friend, stranger, critic, or child - is there to teach you something. Ask yourself:

“What’s the lesson here?”

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Ever found yourself having a vivid memory or insight for no obvious reason? In this episode, Dr. Ed Tori shares a moment at a red light that turned into a masterclass on non-conscious triggers, nostalgia, and the power of placing ideas in your line of sight.

From merch to memory to mastery, this episode explores why deliberate reminders—like card decks, sticky notes, or swag—can shape behavior, improve communication, and even transform lives.

If you’re an author, coach, speaker, or leader looking to package your ideas for real-world impact—don’t skip this one.

• How a GPS label triggered a nostalgic wave and why that matters

• The neuroscience behind “top of mind = tip of tongue”

• The two ways to create real-world behavioral triggers

• How Dr. Tori’s card decks became “theft-worthy” reminders for leaders

• Why merch, swag, and tchotchkes are more than gifts—they’re influence tools

00:00 – The red light memory: how non-conscious cues work

01:45 – The role of visual anchors and everyday nostalgia

02:30 – “Top of mind = tip of tongue” and why it matters for influence

03:20 – Why Dr. Tori makes card decks and what they’re really for

04:15 – A leader’s hidden use of his cards (and why it matters)

05:30 – The merch mindset: how to make your ideas part of someone else’s daily life

06:45 – The big takeaway: curate your cues and influence your habits

07:15 – Systematize your triggers, influence your future

Whether you’re shaping behavior in your home, your company, or your content—deliberate reminders can be game-changers. Want to turn your ideas into influence tools people keep on their desks, pin to their walls, and refer to before tough conversations?

📬 Join the InfluenceBookClub.com

Here’s a draft of compelling show notes for episode 060 based on your transcript:

Small talk is deeply misunderstood. It’s often labeled as fake, pointless, or awkward - but what if those beliefs are just assumptions holding you back from genuine connection? In this episode, Dr. Ed Tori dismantles the limiting beliefs that make small talk feel like a chore and reframes it as one of the most powerful tools for building rapport and unlocking deeper conversations.

• Identify and challenge your hidden assumptions that make small talk feel inauthentic.

• Use small talk as a “hallway of doors” to find genuine connect points.

• Shift your focus from being interesting to being interested.

• Navigate small talk to skillfully warm up conversations and avoid awkward jumps into “too deep, too soon.”

• Exit conversations gracefully when needed - without damaging rapport.

If you’ve ever felt like you “just aren’t good at small talk,” this episode will help you turn that belief on its head - and maybe change how you connect with everyone you meet.

• Hypnotic Gifts: How to Change Someone’s Life in a Single Conversation – Explore Dr. Tori’s upcoming book and framework for life-changing conversations.
• Prior Episode: 012 (Not So) Small Talk and the Gold Rush
• Connect on LinkedIn – Join the conversation and gain more daily influence insights.

Influence begins before a single word is spoken. Your presence, actions, and energy in the “nearby but not engaged” space are already shaping how others perceive you. This often-overlooked stage of interaction is where silent impressions form—and they can be more powerful than anything you say later.

In this episode, Dr. Ed Tori explores how to master this subtle yet critical phase of influence. You’ll learn:

• Why “it starts before it begins” is a game-changing principle for conversations, meetings, and networking.

• How small, authentic gestures—like holding a door, picking up trash, or simply showing patience—radiate character and draw people toward you.

• Ways to deliberately influence others nonverbally, just by how you carry yourself in public spaces.

• How the pickup artist concept of “pre-selection” (minus the sleaze) shows the power of being observed in positive interactions.

• Why being intentional in moments of waiting—at the grocery line, before a meeting, or even on public transport—sets the stage for better engagement.

The secret? Build a magnetic presence by perfecting your character. When who you are shines in those unspoken moments, you create trust and rapport before the conversation even starts.

Links and Resources:

• Get Dr. Tori’s book: HypnoticGiftsBook.com

• Apply for 1:1 Influence Immersion Coaching

• Join the Influence Book Club

Listen now and learn how to influence powerfully—without saying a word.

Here are compelling show notes for episode 058 of The Influence Every Day Show:

When we strip away context, we strip away meaning - and often, we misjudge what’s in front of us.

In this powerful episode, Dr. Ed Tori shares a deeply personal story: his mother’s recent hospitalization. On paper, her condition might seem dire. But a single sentence changed the room every time: “Just seven days ago, she was on my deck writing her fifth book.” That one line reframed the entire situation for nurses, doctors, and therapists alike - and it lit a fire of urgency, hope, and action.

This episode isn’t just about a medical scare - it’s a masterclass in influence. You’ll learn:

• Why context is the gateway to compassion and accurate decision-making

• How repeating a key narrative can ripple through systems and shift outcomes

• The subtle power of anchoring people in a story - not just a snapshot

• Why your words can either lower the bar or raise the standard

If you lead, teach, care for others, or solve problems for a living - this is essential listening. Influence starts not with advice, but with understanding.

Want to transform conversations and influence ethically every day?

Get the free book: HypnoticGiftsBook.com

Apply for 1-on-1 coaching: DrTori.com/coaching-application-1on1

Episode 057 - Stop Trying to Change Your Emotions With Other Emotions

The Influence Every Day Show with Dr. Tori

When you’re stuck in a spiral of self-judgment, regret, or overwhelm, the typical advice is to feel something different - to force your way into gratitude, joy, or peace. But here’s the truth: emotions don’t change emotions.

Actions do. (Frames and contexts can too, but let's focus on action...)

In this episode, Dr. Ed Tori dismantles the myth that emotional states can be shifted by sheer force of will. You’ll discover:

• Why saying “I should” or “I need to” or "I should just be" only deepens emotional ruts

• The reason “Don’t worry, be happy” is terrible advice

• What to do instead when you’re stuck, spiraling, or snapping at others

• How to leverage behaviors, not feelings, to shift into more resourceful states

• A powerful real-world coaching story about emotional spirals, calendar design, and strategic behavior change

You’ll also get an introduction to a practical framework for influence that includes States, Frames, Patterns, and Contexts - and why you don’t fix a state problem in the state bucket.

Free Resource: DrTori.com/101

Download 101 practical actions to manage your state - no email required.

Ready to change your day, your impact, or your relationship?

Stop wrestling with your emotions. Take action instead.

Rate & review the show, share it with someone who needs it, and explore more tools at DrTori.com

Want to go deeper? Grab the free book at HypnoticGiftsBook.com

Ever notice how two people can hear the exact same thing - and walk away with totally different interpretations?

It’s not just about who you’re listening to.

It’s about where you’re listening from.

Are you listening from stress or stillness?

From judgment or curiosity?

From ego or compassion?

That preposition shift - from “listening to” to “listening from” - changes everything.

It sheds light on your filters.

It reframes your reality.

And it gives you the power to control how things land - even when the message stays the same.

In this episode, you’ll explore:

• How your internal state frames what you hear

• Why ego, fear, and blame distort conversations

• How to shift into more powerful frames - like service, love, or gratitude

• A simple phrase that reveals the truth: “It hits different because you showed up different.”

Whether it’s a high-stakes meeting, a tough email, or walking through your front door—you shape the experience by how you listen.

Mentioned:

• HypnoticGiftsBook.com - Free book: How to Transform Someone’s Life in a Single Conversation

• Apply for 1-on-1 Coaching

Episode 055 – That Moment the Light Comes On

The Influence Every Day Show with Dr. Ed Tori

There’s a reason people run back to their comfort zone. The darkness is familiar. Safe. Predictable.

But what if the pain you feel when the light comes on isn’t a signal to retreat—but an invitation to awaken?

This episode is about that precise moment: when you get a glimpse of a better version of your life, your work, your relationships… and you flinch.

You’ll be challenged to examine the things you keep running back to:

• A toxic relationship.

• An outdated self-image.

• The excuse that keeps you stuck.

• The “almost ready” project collecting dust.

And you’ll be asked to do one brave thing: sit with the discomfort just long enough to see the world clearly.

This is your sign.

The light is already on.

Will you look?

If this spoke to you, send it to someone who needs to hear it.

And if you’re finally ready to turn your influence into action, explore the free resources and coaching opportunities linked below.

HypnoticGiftsBook.com – Learn how to transform someone’s life in a single conversation

Apply for 1:1 Coaching – Influence immersion with Dr. Tori