There’s a massive difference between the people you spend time with and the time you spend with people.

One shapes who you’re becoming.

The other shapes how others become after encountering you.

In this episode, Dr. Ed Tori breaks down two deceptively similar phrases that hold the keys to your influence, your relationships, and your legacy. You’ll learn why being intentional about your proximity—and your presence—is one of the most powerful things you can do.

• Why “ambient influence” is silently shaping you every day

• The Jim Rohn quote you’ve heard—but redefined

• How to stop being the echo of your environment and start becoming the architect of your impact

• Why 10 seconds of intentional presence can outweigh an hour of surface-level interaction

• The single question to ask before every conversation: Who walks into the room when I walk into the room?

“It’s not about the duration of time—it’s about the depth of presence.”

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What shows up when you show up?

In today’s reflective and practical episode, Dr. Ed Tori breaks down a principle that quietly governs every great interaction, relationship, and result:

👉 It starts before it begins.

Whether you’re leading a meeting, pitching a client, parenting your kids, or changing your life—success hinges on what happens long before the moment itself. From managing your state… to prepping your message… to building skills… to shaping your character… influence begins long before you speak a single word.

• Why managing your state is not the deepest layer of preparation

• The four layers that influence outcomes—before you even enter the room

• How character isn’t just what you have, it’s what shows up

• A practical reframe that connects emotional regulation, preparation, skill, and identity

• What makes a powerful first impression in a world full of authenticity detectors

If you’ve ever wondered why some people seem to radiate influence the moment they arrive… this episode gives you the roadmap.

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The Influence Every Day Show with Dr. Ed Tori

In this unscripted, heartfelt episode, Dr. Ed Tori reflects on how we experience time—not just in fleeting moments, but in beads, strings, chapters, and eras. Inspired by a wedding anniversary, the coloring of a weekly life box, and meaningful family conversations, Ed invites you to pause… and see time differently.

Through the lens of influence and gratitude, this short episode will challenge you to:

• Rethink how your life is unfolding

• Reconnect with people who matter

• Reframe your past—not to rewrite it, but to reclaim it

• Reach out before the moment slips away

This is more than a reflection. It’s a quiet call to action.

• Why moments can pivot an entire life

• How beads of time create meaningful experiences

• The concept of strings—the threads that quietly weave our story

• Defining chapters and seasons of life with deeper clarity

• A gratitude practice that bridges past, present, and possibility

• Hypnotic Gifts – How to change someone’s life in a single conversation

• Influence Book Club – Join the club, build the skill, live the impact

Before your next meeting, message, or moment—pause and reflect:

• What thread are you in right now?

• Who from your past made a mark on you?

• What chapter are you grateful for—even if it hurt?

Then, go create a moment worth remembering.

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“When we change the way we see things, the things we see change.” — Max Planck

In this episode, Dr. Ed Tori explores a surprising truth: there are moments when we actually see better without directly focusing on what’s in front of us. From stargazing and puzzle-solving to elite-level sports and high-stakes conversations, the way we use our eyes says a lot about how we move through the world—and how we influence others in it.

You’ll learn:

• 🌓 Why looking slightly off to the side can help you see in the dark.
• 👀 How squinting can sharpen your perception by blurring the details.
• 🌐 What “soft eyes” are—and why they’re a secret weapon for leaders, athletes, artists, and everyday communicators.
• 🔄 How shifting your perception (literally and metaphorically) can transform your relationships and your influence.

This isn’t just about vision—it’s about vision. Seeing others differently. Seeing challenges differently. Seeing yourself differently.

• 🔗 Hypnotic Gifts Book – Pivot someone’s life in a single conversation.
• 📅 Book a Strategy Call – Get help with your toughest communication challenge.
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If today’s episode helped you see something differently, share it with someone who needs that shift.

You never know who you might influence—just by passing it on.

What if the treasure you’ve been searching for… is already under your feet?

In this episode, Dr. Ed Tori shares one of the most enduring—and surprisingly unknown—stories in personal development: Acres of Diamonds, made famous by Russell Conwell. But this isn’t just a history lesson. It’s a powerful metaphor for modern life, influence, leadership, and connection.

You’ll discover:

• The surprising origin of Temple University—and how a single story helped build it.
• Why we often miss the diamonds in our own lives, careers, and relationships.
• How “scroll culture” and comparison trap us in the illusion of greener grass.
• What conversational hypnosis and hypnotic gifts have to do with uncovering buried potential—in yourself and others.
• How to help others mine the diamonds within their own story, team, or skillset—one conversation at a time.

This episode isn’t just insight. It’s a call to mine what’s already yours—and to help others do the same.

🔑 Featured Book

Hypnotic Gifts: How to Change Someone’s Life in a Single Conversation

Learn how to uncover diamonds in everyday dialogue—visit: HypnoticGiftsBook.com

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Share it with a leader, parent, coach, or friend you know is sitting on acres of diamonds that they, for some reason, do not see.

🎙️ Episode 048 – The Influence Every Day Show with Dr. Ed Tori

Have you ever wondered why some ideas stick while others fade? Or why a simple phrase or object can instantly bring a thought to mind? In this episode, Dr. Ed Tori explores the science of triggers—powerful cues that influence our thoughts, behaviors, and decisions.

Drawing insights from Jonah Berger’s Contagious: Why Things Catch On, Dr. Tori reveals how everyday items can be used to shape perception, drive conversations, and even influence behavior on a subconscious level.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

✅ Why top of mind equals tip of tongue—and how you can use this to your advantage

✅ How a simple book title and a face mask helped Dr. Tori secure an empty seat on a packed flight

✅ The surprising connection between a NASA Pathfinder mission and a surge in Mars Bar sales

✅ How Dr. Tori tried to get the hospital marketing department to use triggers from sports and everyday signs

✅ Why Kit Kat’s “Give Me a Break” jingle is a masterclass in branding and influence

This episode is packed with real-world examples of how triggers shape human behavior—whether in marketing, communication, or daily interactions. If you want to make your message more memorable, this is an episode you won’t want to miss!

Resources & Links Mentioned:

• 📖 Contagious: Why Things Catch On by Jonah Berger
• 📖 Made to Stick by Chip Heath & Dan Heath

Continue the Conversation & Level Up Your Influence:

• Join the Influence Book Club: InfluenceBookClub.com
• Get early access to Dr. Tori’s upcoming book Hypnotic Gifts: HypnoticGiftsBook.com
• Need leadership coaching on persuasion and impact? Book a strategy call: InfluenceConsult.com

If you enjoyed this episode, share it with someone who could benefit and leave a review to help more people influence for good—every day.

Show Notes for Episode 047: “When Doubt Becomes Drive”

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Episode Overview:

Have you ever been told you can’t do something? That you won’t succeed? Maybe it was a teacher, a boss, a family member—someone who, intentionally or not, planted a seed of doubt in your mind.

In this episode of The Influence Every Day Show, Dr. Ed Tori unpacks what he calls “Rocky Syndrome”—the deep, defiant motivation that kicks in when someone doubts you. Drawing from his own experiences—being told in elementary school that he’d “never get out” of his neighborhood and later being advised not to apply to medical school—Dr. Tori explores how external doubt can fuel internal drive.

But is proving people wrong always the right motivation? And how do we channel doubt into something truly meaningful?

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

✅ The Psychology of Doubt & Motivation – Why some people shut down when doubted while others rise to the challenge.

✅ Reactance Motivation & The Underdog Effect – How being underestimated can become an advantage.

✅ Real-World Examples – From Michael Jordan to Oprah Winfrey to Sylvester Stallone, how history’s greats turned rejection into rocket fuel.

✅ A 4-Step Framework for Turning Doubt into Drive:

1. Assess the Doubt – Is there truth in their words? What do you need to overcome?
2. Fuel, Don’t Fester – Use doubt as motivation, but don’t let it consume you.
3. Shift the Focus – Instead of proving them wrong, prove yourself right—and serve others.
4. Find the Right Support – Surround yourself with people who elevate you.

🚀 “You don’t need someone to doubt you to take action. But if they do? Use it. Let their doubt become your drive.”

Episode Links & Resources:

• Need coaching on influence, persuasion, or a tough challenge? Book a strategy call
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Now go forth and influence for good—every day.

What does it mean to have someone advocate for you when you’re not in the room? In this episode, Dr. Ed Tori shares a personal story from high school when he worked at Chick-fil-A—a moment when an unexpected ally stood up for him in a place he didn’t even know existed. This experience shaped his understanding of influence, leadership, and the power of advocating for others.

Whether you’re a leader, an entrepreneur, or someone striving to make an impact, this episode challenges you to become the kind of person who speaks up for others when it matters most.

• The power of standing up for others, even when they don’t know it
• Why great leaders advocate for their people behind closed doors
• How small moments of influence can have lasting effects
• The kind of workplace culture that fosters trust and loyalty
• A challenge to reflect: Who are you advocating for?

• The influence of unseen advocacy in career and personal growth
• A real-life example of leadership in action
• The responsibility of leaders to champion their teams

Whether in your workplace, community, or relationships, look for ways to lift others up in spaces they may never even know exist.

If this story resonated with you, share it with someone who needs to hear it.

Schedule a strategy call with Dr. Tori at InfluenceConsult.com.

Now go forth and influence for good—every day.