Here are compelling show notes for episode 058 of The Influence Every Day Show:

When we strip away context, we strip away meaning - and often, we misjudge what’s in front of us.

In this powerful episode, Dr. Ed Tori shares a deeply personal story: his mother’s recent hospitalization. On paper, her condition might seem dire. But a single sentence changed the room every time: “Just seven days ago, she was on my deck writing her fifth book.” That one line reframed the entire situation for nurses, doctors, and therapists alike - and it lit a fire of urgency, hope, and action.

This episode isn’t just about a medical scare - it’s a masterclass in influence. You’ll learn:

• Why context is the gateway to compassion and accurate decision-making

• How repeating a key narrative can ripple through systems and shift outcomes

• The subtle power of anchoring people in a story - not just a snapshot

• Why your words can either lower the bar or raise the standard

If you lead, teach, care for others, or solve problems for a living - this is essential listening. Influence starts not with advice, but with understanding.

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Episode 057 - Stop Trying to Change Your Emotions With Other Emotions

The Influence Every Day Show with Dr. Tori

When you’re stuck in a spiral of self-judgment, regret, or overwhelm, the typical advice is to feel something different - to force your way into gratitude, joy, or peace. But here’s the truth: emotions don’t change emotions.

Actions do. (Frames and contexts can too, but let's focus on action...)

In this episode, Dr. Ed Tori dismantles the myth that emotional states can be shifted by sheer force of will. You’ll discover:

• Why saying “I should” or “I need to” or "I should just be" only deepens emotional ruts

• The reason “Don’t worry, be happy” is terrible advice

• What to do instead when you’re stuck, spiraling, or snapping at others

• How to leverage behaviors, not feelings, to shift into more resourceful states

• A powerful real-world coaching story about emotional spirals, calendar design, and strategic behavior change

You’ll also get an introduction to a practical framework for influence that includes States, Frames, Patterns, and Contexts - and why you don’t fix a state problem in the state bucket.

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Ever notice how two people can hear the exact same thing - and walk away with totally different interpretations?

It’s not just about who you’re listening to.

It’s about where you’re listening from.

Are you listening from stress or stillness?

From judgment or curiosity?

From ego or compassion?

That preposition shift - from “listening to” to “listening from” - changes everything.

It sheds light on your filters.

It reframes your reality.

And it gives you the power to control how things land - even when the message stays the same.

In this episode, you’ll explore:

• How your internal state frames what you hear

• Why ego, fear, and blame distort conversations

• How to shift into more powerful frames - like service, love, or gratitude

• A simple phrase that reveals the truth: “It hits different because you showed up different.”

Whether it’s a high-stakes meeting, a tough email, or walking through your front door—you shape the experience by how you listen.

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