There’s a massive difference between the people you spend time with and the time you spend with people.

One shapes who you’re becoming.

The other shapes how others become after encountering you.

In this episode, Dr. Ed Tori breaks down two deceptively similar phrases that hold the keys to your influence, your relationships, and your legacy. You’ll learn why being intentional about your proximity—and your presence—is one of the most powerful things you can do.

• Why “ambient influence” is silently shaping you every day

• The Jim Rohn quote you’ve heard—but redefined

• How to stop being the echo of your environment and start becoming the architect of your impact

• Why 10 seconds of intentional presence can outweigh an hour of surface-level interaction

• The single question to ask before every conversation: Who walks into the room when I walk into the room?

“It’s not about the duration of time—it’s about the depth of presence.”

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• Influence for good. Every day.

What shows up when you show up?

In today’s reflective and practical episode, Dr. Ed Tori breaks down a principle that quietly governs every great interaction, relationship, and result:

👉 It starts before it begins.

Whether you’re leading a meeting, pitching a client, parenting your kids, or changing your life—success hinges on what happens long before the moment itself. From managing your state… to prepping your message… to building skills… to shaping your character… influence begins long before you speak a single word.

• Why managing your state is not the deepest layer of preparation

• The four layers that influence outcomes—before you even enter the room

• How character isn’t just what you have, it’s what shows up

• A practical reframe that connects emotional regulation, preparation, skill, and identity

• What makes a powerful first impression in a world full of authenticity detectors

If you’ve ever wondered why some people seem to radiate influence the moment they arrive… this episode gives you the roadmap.

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The Influence Every Day Show with Dr. Ed Tori

In this unscripted, heartfelt episode, Dr. Ed Tori reflects on how we experience time—not just in fleeting moments, but in beads, strings, chapters, and eras. Inspired by a wedding anniversary, the coloring of a weekly life box, and meaningful family conversations, Ed invites you to pause… and see time differently.

Through the lens of influence and gratitude, this short episode will challenge you to:

• Rethink how your life is unfolding

• Reconnect with people who matter

• Reframe your past—not to rewrite it, but to reclaim it

• Reach out before the moment slips away

This is more than a reflection. It’s a quiet call to action.

• Why moments can pivot an entire life

• How beads of time create meaningful experiences

• The concept of strings—the threads that quietly weave our story

• Defining chapters and seasons of life with deeper clarity

• A gratitude practice that bridges past, present, and possibility

• Hypnotic Gifts – How to change someone’s life in a single conversation

• Influence Book Club – Join the club, build the skill, live the impact

Before your next meeting, message, or moment—pause and reflect:

• What thread are you in right now?

• Who from your past made a mark on you?

• What chapter are you grateful for—even if it hurt?

Then, go create a moment worth remembering.