• What to say when someone is grieving, and why saying their name matters more than you think
• How to let go of old identities and goals without shame
• Why growth often requires redefining success instead of chasing permanence
• This week’s micro-moment, Rewire a Fail: how to review setbacks with compassion and turn them into learning

00:00 Intro

00:51 Meet Kelly Cervantes

06:32 What to Say to Someone Grieving

11:09 The Luckiest

25:00 Your Dreams and Goals Can Change

29:00 Joy and Grief

36:00 Micro-Moment #10: Rewire a Fail

39:02 Outro

40:40 Disclaimer

Welcome to Season 3, the Last Quarter Challenge. Think of it as a training plan for your confidence with weekly micro-moments that ladder up so you enter 2026 stronger than ever.

Our final micro-moment is Rewire a Fail. Setbacks are inevitable. What determines your confidence is not whether you fail, but how your brain processes the failure afterward. When something does not go as planned, your mind can default to shame and rumination. Rewiring a fail means separating who you are from what happened and turning disappointment into learning and forward motion.

Try it today. Rewind the moment without judgment. Name what happened using only the facts, identify what you learned, and notice the strengths that showed up along the way. This simple reframe quiets fear, restores perspective, and helps you recover faster.

00:00 Intro

00:27 Micro-Moment #10: Rewire a Fail

01:53 The Science of Rewiring a Fail

07:38 How to Practice This Challenge

10:39 Why It's Helpful

11:41 Outro

12:52 Disclaimer

What if success wasn’t a scorecard, but a sense of connection? What if the most powerful thing you could do this week was to stop treating life like a zero-sum game?

Ruchika T. Malhotra, author of Uncompete and Inclusion on Purpose, joins us for a conversation about redefining success, rejecting scarcity thinking, and building a life rooted in community.

In this episode of In Confidence, Ruchika and Lisa unpack how to reject competition and the five principles of Uncompete that make confidence feel steadier and more sustainable.

What you'll learn in this episode:

• Why “success” keeps moving, and how to define it in a way that actually feels like you
• The five principles of Uncompete and how to apply them to your life
• This week’s micro-moment, Worst Case, Best Case, Most Likely: a simple tool to stop catastrophizing and choose your own metrics

If you’re tired of measuring, comparing, and chasing someone else’s definition of winning, this is your permission slip to choose a different path.

Get Your Copy of ⁠Uncompete⁠

00:00 Intro

01:36 Meet Ruchika T. Malhotra

10:12 Uncompete and Rejecting Competition

18:30 The 5 Principles of Uncompete

37:12 Micro-Moment #9 Worst, Best, Most Likely

41:51 Give Someone Else Their Flowers Today

44:41 Outro

46:20 Disclaimer