It seems like there’s never enough time to do the things that need to be done…

… much less “go deep” in all of this parenting stuff and make sure the most important things happen.

(Yes, it’s easy to feel like a failure as a parent.)

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But what if we could capture significant moments each day as part of the parenting journey?

What if we created “positive triggers” that just opened up strategic times of opportunity to focus on life-changing moments— big and small?

And what if we acknowledge that we aren’t running a sprint… or even a marathon… but one of those ultra-marathon, triathlon, extreme-race things that just goes on and on… so the best approach is just to make incremental change, by capturing some of the small moments?

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In this talk, pulled from the parenting workshop, Randy discuses “the flow.” Parenting becomes easier when you tap into the every day grind and add a dose of grace to strategic moments…

🛌 Bed time

⏰ Morning routine

🚌 Car pool

🍔 Meal times

In addition, you’ll learn about the possibilities that—

🧭 Directional gatherings

🔥 Experiences

⭐️ Adventures

— can unlock for you and your family when dropped in small doses.

Here’s the takeaway, rather than depending on the BIG moments and overlooking the small, lean into the small / everyday and supplement with the “big.”

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Next steps

To learn more about Randy’s parenting resources, go to www.BeRefreshed.org/family

For specific opportunities for grandparents, visit www.BeRefreshed.org/GP

Take the assessment (for you AND your kids) at www.BeRefreshed.org/4

For the “Diapers to Dorms” audiobook, go to www.BeRefreshed.org/D2D

In episode 8 we dialogued about the three phases of parenting….

🔴 0- 5 years, discipline = building a foundation

🟠 6-12 years, training = developing soft skills

🟢 13+, coaching = equipping them to make good, “life” decisions

We discussed why it’s important to understand—

➡️ which phase you’re kid is in

➡️ the primary “role” you need to play as a parent

➡️ the importance of recognizing what’s coming next (so you can use the current phase to prepare them for the next)

WHILE ALSO

➡️ being fully present in that phase and enjoying the season you’re in (even though, admittedly, each season brings it’s unique set of challenges)

In this episode we get practical about the phases. We talk about “tools” you can use to shepherd your kids (and grandkids) into become better humans.

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Next steps

To learn more about Randy’s parenting resources, go to www.BeRefreshed.org/family

For specific opportunities for grandparents, visit www.BeRefreshed.org/GP

Take the assessment (for you AND your kids) at www.BeRefreshed.org/4

For the “Diapers to Dorms” audiobook, go to www.BeRefreshed.org/D2D

Randy and Tammy talk with their in-laws in this episode about the role of grandparents— which is, first of all, to SUPPORT their parents. This includes the in-laws.

They ask the question, “What do you need…?”

And they get answers ranging from “come babysit the kids, because we trust you more than others” to other responses like just being there to talk through concerns and questions about begin a parent and managing all the moving parts of life.

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At the conclusion of this talk we roll into the prologue from Randy’s first book on parenting, Diapers to Dorms….

… the book that helps you learn how to raise kids you actually like to be around (and others like to be around, as well)…

… and to know how to raise them and what to do at each stage of the parenting journey.

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Next steps

To learn more about Randy’s parenting resources, go to www.BeRefreshed.org/family

For specific opportunities for grandparents, visit www.BeRefreshed.org/GP

Take the assessment (for you AND your kids) at www.BeRefreshed.org/4

For the “Diapers to Dorms” audiobook, go to www.BeRefreshed.org/D2D

Legacy starts where you end. And, one way or another, we all leave a legacy. Some of us leave a legacy by design; others leave one by default.

⚜️

When it comes to parenting— and grand-parenting— legacy involves imparting wisdom and ideas to other people who will pull in influence from other places over which you have no control…

In a sense, then, you need to raise them to—

⭐️ Make the best decisions they can

⭐️ Move forward through their mistakes (which they’ll make plenty of— just as you did)

⭐️ Marry well, as their spouse has so much of that influence, companionship, and more…

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Next steps

To learn more about Randy’s parenting resources, go to www.BeRefreshed.org/family

For specific opportunities for grandparents, visit www.BeRefreshed.org/GP

Take the assessment (for you AND your kids) at www.BeRefreshed.org/4

For the “Diapers to Dorms” audiobook, go to www.BeRefreshed.org/D2D

We’ve been talking about parenting— with the bigger picture in mind— for eight episodes now.

Ultimately, parents have kids that become parents…

… and that means they become grandparents.

⭐️

In this talk, Randy & Tammy talk with their grandkids about things such as—

💙 family traditions the grandkids enjoy (they see beach trips and crafts equally)

💙 the importance of just “hanging out”

💙 the funniest parts of each of their own families (with some insight provided about the importance of dads— from many of the kids)

About halfway through the conversation, you’ll notice a shift. They begin sharing about the role of grandparents— and how—

👉 grandparents don’t replace parents

👉 grandparents have a role to support the parents AND the kids

👉 grandparents and grandkids can have unique relationships that are different than the parenting relationships (hint: it doesn’t mean to “spoil them and then send them back home”)

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Next steps

To learn more about Randy’s parenting resources, go to www.BeRefreshed.org/family

For specific opportunities for grandparents, visit www.BeRefreshed.org/GP

Take the assessment (for you AND your kids) at www.BeRefreshed.org/4

For the “Diapers to Dorms” audiobook, go to www.BeRefreshed.org/D2D

Parenting a toddler is different than parenting a teen. And that’s different than parenting a son or daughter who’s now a senior in college or just stepping into the full time workforce.

That seems obvious.

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But how do you know what each child needs at each stage of life?

And how can you not only know WHAT they need but also HOW to transfer that lesson, that bit of leadership to them?

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In this episode, pulled from the parenting workshop, Randy talks about the three phases of parenting….

🔴 0- 5 years, discipline = building a foundation

🟠 6-12 years, training = developing soft skills

🟢 13+, coaching = equipping them to make good, “life” decisions

Here’s why knowing the three phases is helpful…

🥁🥁🥁🥁🥁

1️⃣ If you know which stage you’re in, you know the “role” to play as you parent

2️⃣ If you know what you want them to look like as they enter the next step, you can reverse engineer those traits and instill them in your child, using the current stage to prep them for the next

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Next steps

To learn more about Randy’s parenting resources, go to www.BeRefreshed.org/family

For specific opportunities for grandparents, visit www.BeRefreshed.org/GP

Take the assessment (for you AND your kids) at www.BeRefreshed.org/4

For the “Diapers to Dorms” audiobook, go to www.BeRefreshed.org/D2D

Now we go back to the talk with Randy + Tammy and their adult kids…

Jared + Abby + Eric + Jackson

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This talk takes a turn. Jared gets raw about what he felt— and often feels— about parenting a child with special needs.

And the siblings all weigh in…

And Randy & Tammy talk about what they’ve learned through the experience.

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So you can keep them straight, here’s who you’ll hear (and they’ll all identify themselves as they talk)—

Jared, the oldest, married to Courtney (2 girls, one special needs)

Abby, married to Brent (4 kids)

Eric, married tor Kristen, now the middle son but has over a decade on the youngest son (3 boys)

Jackson, the youngest, married to Rachel (1 boy)

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Next steps

To learn more about Randy’s parenting resources, go to www.BeRefreshed.org/family

For specific opportunities for grandparents, visit www.BeRefreshed.org/GP

Take the assessment (for you AND your kids) at www.BeRefreshed.org/4

For the “Diapers to Dorms” audiobook, go to www.BeRefreshed.org/D2D

We continue the conversation with Randy & Tammy’s son-in-law and daughters-in-law…

Here, Randy and Tammy affirm each of them, making the observation that—

‼️ in the future, we— as parents— step back and someone else steps in as their primary confidant, companion, and everything else

‼️they create a new household— and continue our legacy while adding from their background… and making something new

Again, for easy reference— most of the speakers identify themselves in real time as they talk, but for reference here’s the overview:

Courtney is married to Jared, the oldest (2 girls, one special needs)

Brent is married to Abby, Randy & Tammy’s only daughter (4 kids)

Kristen is married to Eric (3 boys)

Rachel is married to Jackson (1 boy)

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Next steps

To learn more about Randy’s parenting resources, go to www.BeRefreshed.org/family

For specific opportunities for grandparents, visit www.BeRefreshed.org/GP

Take the assessment (for you AND your kids) at www.BeRefreshed.org/4

For the “Diapers to Dorms” audiobook, go to www.BeRefreshed.org/D2D