Are you stuck in “have to” mode—handing away your power with every excuse? In this episode of InsideThe Outhouse, Todd and Travis unpack the victim mentality and reveal how small shifts in language can flip your perspective from powerless to purposeful. You’ll learn how to spot the subtle traps of self-sabotage and discover tools to reclaim authorship of your life.

This isn’t about blame. It’s about freedom. And it starts with a single word.

Scannable Highlights / Timestamps

• [00:03:00] Why words like “should” and “have to” quietly keep you trapped in victim mode.
• [00:07:00] The powerful reframe: shifting from “he did this to me” → “I did this to me” or “he did this to himself.”
• [00:12:00] The high cost of staying a victim: your peace, your health, and your future.
• [00:16:00] A cancer story that shows how perspective can literally change outcomes.
• [00:22:00] Why walking into a gym—and taking ownership—became the turning point in Todd’s journey.
• [00:27:00] The one-word shift that flips you from victim to creator and changes your life’s story.

What's next?

• 💡 Reflect: This week, notice every time you say “I have to.” Flip it into “I get to” and see how it changes your energy.
• 🎧 Subscribe: Don’t miss the next episode of The Outhouse—where humor, honesty, and healing come together.
• 📩 Share: If this episode made you laugh, think, or squirm a little—send it to a friend who needs to hear it.

Links / Resources

• Related Episode: Why Language Shapes Your Life (Episode 2)
• Connect with Todd → https://www.instagram.com/toddsquires_/
• Scripture mentioned: 1 Peter 4:10 and James 1:22

Most of us hide our struggles and pretend everything’s fine—but keeping your story bottled up can weigh you down. In this episode, Todd & Travis show how embracing grace for yourself and your past can unlock peace, strengthen your faith, and help you live authentically. Discover practical ways to stop hiding and start influencing the people around you positively—your story matters more than you think.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• 00:00 – The hidden cost of polishing the surface of your life.
• 05:00 – How grace can replace anger and transform daily interactions.
• 12:00 – Small, consistent acts of faith that have big ripple effects.
• 20:00 – Giving yourself grace for your past unlocks freedom today.
• 28:00 – Why sharing your story can inspire others and grow your influence.

What's next?

• Hit subscribe to get weekly episodes packed with practical strategies for living authentically.
• Reflect on one story you’ve been hiding and share it with someone you trust.

Ever have your perfectly planned day thrown off in the first hour? Todd and Travis share how choosing grace instead of frustration can completely change your mindset—and your day. Learn how letting go, focusing on what you can control, and embracing small wins helps you stay grounded, present, and effective, even when life throws curveballs.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• 00:00 – When plans go sideways: why your first reaction matters more than the problem.
• 03:00 – Choosing grace over anger can prevent frustration from piling up all day.
• 05:00 – How gratitude and perspective turn obstacles into opportunities.
• 08:00 – Outgrowing friendships and leaving dead weight behind—why it’s necessary.
• 17:00 – The crab bucket effect: why some people pull you down and how to rise anyway.
• 23:00 – Comfort zones are a slow death—why stepping outside them is essential.

What's next?

• Subscribe for weekly episodes with practical strategies to reclaim your day.
• Reflect on one area in your life where comfort is holding you back and take one small step to move forward.