Are you stuck in “have to” mode—handing away your power with every excuse? In this episode of InsideThe Outhouse, Todd and Travis unpack the victim mentality and reveal how small shifts in language can flip your perspective from powerless to purposeful. You’ll learn how to spot the subtle traps of self-sabotage and discover tools to reclaim authorship of your life.

This isn’t about blame. It’s about freedom. And it starts with a single word.

Scannable Highlights / Timestamps

• [00:03:00] Why words like “should” and “have to” quietly keep you trapped in victim mode.
• [00:07:00] The powerful reframe: shifting from “he did this to me” → “I did this to me” or “he did this to himself.”
• [00:12:00] The high cost of staying a victim: your peace, your health, and your future.
• [00:16:00] A cancer story that shows how perspective can literally change outcomes.
• [00:22:00] Why walking into a gym—and taking ownership—became the turning point in Todd’s journey.
• [00:27:00] The one-word shift that flips you from victim to creator and changes your life’s story.

What's next?

• 💡 Reflect: This week, notice every time you say “I have to.” Flip it into “I get to” and see how it changes your energy.
• 🎧 Subscribe: Don’t miss the next episode of The Outhouse—where humor, honesty, and healing come together.
• 📩 Share: If this episode made you laugh, think, or squirm a little—send it to a friend who needs to hear it.

Links / Resources

• Related Episode: Why Language Shapes Your Life (Episode 2)
• Connect with Todd → https://www.instagram.com/toddsquires_/
• Scripture mentioned: 1 Peter 4:10 and James 1:22