What happens when a wife feels invisible for 23 years?

In this episode, Adam uncovers the truth behind their broken marriage. From gambling addiction and emotional neglect to the deep longing for intimacy and trust, this raw coaching session reveals what it really takes to heal wounds that have been buried for decades.

Topics Covered: 👉 How gambling addiction led to separation and divorce 👉 Emotional neglect and the feeling of being “not enough” 👉 Why emotional intimacy is essential—especially for women 👉 The avoidant brain and fear of emotional sharing 👉 Modeling accountability and apologizing to children 👉 The difference between promises and true transformation 👉 Building trust through transparency and accountability 👉 Gratitude, humility, and support systems in healing 👉 Requirements for reconnection: safety, intimacy, trust, no secrets 👉 A five-month roadmap toward rebuilding connection and peace

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#marriagerecovery #relationshipadvice #attachmentstyles

In this episode, Dr. Caroline Leaf joins to discuss how the mind, not the brain, holds the power to reshape thoughts, relationships, and mental health. She shares groundbreaking insights on neuroplasticity, attachment styles, and her proven 63-day cycle for rewiring toxic patterns into healthier ones.

✨ Topics Covered ✨ 👉 Why the brain doesn’t think and how the mind drives change 👉 The truth about neuroplasticity and breaking free from outdated mental health myths 👉 How trauma and attachment wounds are first processed in the mind, then stored in the brain 👉 Understanding the nonscious, subconscious, and conscious mind 👉 The process of deconstruction and reconstruction for healing relationships 👉 Why the 21-day myth is false and why real transformation takes 63 days 👉 Daily practices to stop people pleasing, reset patterns, and reframe responses

Check out Dr. Caroline Leaf’s new book: Help In A Hurry: Simple Tips for Finding Peace When You're Overwhelmed, Anxious, or Stressed 👉 https://store.drleaf.com/collections/all/products/help-in-a-hurry-simple-tips-for-finding-peace-when-youre-overwhelmed-anxious-or-stressed

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What does it really feel like to live with disorganized attachment? In this episode, Adam welcomes Amy Moore, who shares her story of navigating survival mode, struggling with both avoidance and anxiety, and learning how to begin her healing journey.

Topics Covered: 👉 Amy’s experience with disorganized attachment and “survival mode” 👉 How attachment styles shift between avoidance (single) and anxiety (in relationships) 👉 The role of parenting and how her daughter perceives her healing journey 👉 Why emotional safety and oxytocin bonding are critical in relationships 👉 How trauma from infancy and childhood affects adult attachment patterns 👉 The freeze response and how it’s often misinterpreted as indifference 👉 Practical steps for repair: asking questions, sharing context, and creating safe communication 👉 The importance of forgiveness, self-awareness, and building trust with 2–3 close connections

If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'Dr. Orion Taraban: Why Modern Men Are Failing at Intimacy'. Watch here: https://youtu.be/rYdzdGReDqg

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Can men really find freedom from emotional numbness and disconnection? This episode takes a deep look at the roots of emotional intimacy struggles and the path toward genuine healing and connection.

Topics Covered: 👉 The hidden pain men carry across generations 👉 Why men need purpose to step up and grow 👉 Emotional intimacy gaps in relationships 👉 Emotions as a language: mirroring, validation, empathy 👉 The CEO & COO model for leading family life 👉 How resentment and contempt destroy connection 👉 The role of women in sparking masculine growth 👉 Feminine energy as healing and grounding 👉 The hero’s journey and proving manhood 👉 Building vision, culture, and leadership at home

By facing emotional numbness head-on, men can build stronger connections and live more fulfilling lives. This episode offers tools and insight for anyone ready to take the first step toward emotional freedom.

If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love '5 Harsh Truths About Marriage I Would Tell My Daughter. Watch here: https://youtu.be/lnZweecoi6k

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#emotionalintimacy #mensgrowth #relationshipgrowth

Not everyone, especially modern men, should be in a relationship and Dr. Orion Taraban returns to explore exactly why.

In this video, Dr. Orion Taraban and Adam dive deep into the emotional wounds, subconscious needs, and hidden motivations that shape modern relationships.

Topics Covered 👉 Why healing must come before entering a relationship 👉 The evolving nature of needs and desires in long-term relationships 👉 How relationships mirror addiction and recovery cycles 👉 The psychology behind trauma bonding and emotional dependency 👉 Why many people stay in bad relationships out of fear or familiarity 👉 Transactional intimacy and the negotiation of emotional needs 👉 The "crisis of disillusionment" after initial attraction fades 👉 Relationship value and the sexual marketplace 👉 Why people struggle to assess their own worth in relationships

If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love '5 Harsh Truths About Marriage I Would Tell My Daughter. Watch here: https://youtu.be/lnZweecoi6k

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#modernmen #relationships #selfawareness

This episode explores why some men struggle to say “I love you” even when they truly feel it. It is not always about a lack of love.

It is often about emotional wiring, past experiences, and how they process vulnerability. By understanding these deeper reasons, you can navigate the silence with more clarity and compassion.

Topics Covered: 👉 Emotional barriers that block verbal expressions of love 👉 How upbringing and past relationships shape communication patterns 👉 The role of attachment styles in expressing affection 👉 Why actions sometimes speak louder than words for certain men 👉 Healthy ways to navigate and respond when “I love you” is hard to say

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Quiet disorganized attachment can make modern women feel invisible—shutting down out of fear of being “too much,” even when all they want is to be seen and loved.

In this episode, Dawn Dubelbeis opens up about the impact of childhood trauma and how her attachment style shaped her adult relationships. Alongside Adam, they unpack the path of how to build connection from a place of safety, not survival.

Topics Covered 👉 How quiet disorganized attachment shows up in adult relationships 👉 Why women with this attachment style often feel invisible or “too much” 👉 The biological role of vasopressin and oxytocin in bonding 👉 The shutdown response: why emotions go numb and conflict feels unsafe 👉 The cost of not asking for help—and how to start 👉 Using emotional check-ins and clarity to build connection 👉 What secure men actually need from women (and why silence confuses them) 👉 How to create an emotionally safe, sustainable relationship 👉 Turning your nervous system from shutdown to connection 👉 Making your life inhospitable to avoidant partners—and safe for the right ones

If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love '5 Harsh Truths About Marriage I Would Tell My Daughter. Watch here: https://youtu.be/lnZweecoi6k

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Attachment style plays a bigger role in your relationships than you think, especially when it’s the one no one talks about.

In this episode, Adam explore the long-ignored freeze attachment style, rooted in fearful-avoidant patterns. After surviving childhood trauma, narcissistic abuse, and three failed marriages, Corina shares how this attachment style shaped her life and how she’s learning to heal.

Topics Covered: 👉 What the freeze attachment style looks like in real life 👉 How fearful-avoidant attachment develops through trauma 👉 Why some attachment styles cause emotional shutdown or mutism 👉 How attachment style impacts communication and intimacy 👉 Rebuilding relationships after narcissistic abuse 👉 Parenting teens with different attachment needs 👉 Tools for communicating with partners who shut down emotionally 👉 Reframing your identity and rebuilding self-worth

If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'Why She Doesn’t Want You (Even If She Loves You) '. Watch here: https://youtu.be/aUMUEbwcVuo

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