In this insightful episode, Dr. Alexandra Solomon, a renowned psychologist and expert on relationships and intimacy, joins attachment specialist Adam Lane Smith to answer one of the hardest questions couples face: Can a relationship ever truly recover after an affair? Whether you’ve experienced betrayal or fear it might happen, this episode offers honest answers and real hope.

Topics Covered 👉 The psychological impact of infidelity, including PTSD symptoms in betrayed partners 👉 Whether love and trust can truly be rebuilt after someone cheats 👉 Who cheats more—men or women? Exploring modern trends and cultural shifts 👉 What motivates infidelity, and how it’s often tied to identity and emotional disconnect 👉 How insecure attachment styles like anxious-avoidant dynamics set the stage for betrayal 👉 Why communication breakdowns lead to emotional distance and vulnerability to affairs 👉 The path to sexual healing after infidelity and why pleasure can be part of the repair 👉 Unlearning toxic sex scripts shaped by porn and cultural myths 👉 What a “bulletproof relationship” looks like, and how couples can protect against future betrayals 👉 The emotional and behavioral transformation required of the partner who cheated

Affairs can devastate—but they can also awaken. Dr. Solomon and Adam Lane Smith share how, with courage and commitment, couples can turn betrayal into breakthrough. For those navigating pain, rebuilding trust, or learning to love securely, this episode offers not just insight—but a roadmap.

Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’ https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc

Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com

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In this episode, Andrey and Adam unpack the deep connection between attachment styles and personality disorders. Together, they explore how childhood trauma, neurological stress, and emotional dysregulation contribute to avoidant, anxious, and disorganized attachment—and how these patterns can evolve into more severe conditions like borderline personality disorder, bipolar disorder, and even schizophrenia. Adam challenges the medical model, offering hopeful insights on healing, brain health, and the possibility of recovery without relying solely on medication.

✨ Topics Covered ✨ 👉 The difference between attachment styles and personality disorders 👉 How avoidant behaviors can be self-protective—or damaging 👉 The impact of early childhood trauma on long-term attachment 👉 Why the medical model often mislabels people as “broken” 👉 How avoidant attachment differs from avoidant personality disorder 👉 The trauma roots of borderline personality disorder (BPD) 👉 The connection between high-performance households and emotional suppression 👉 What’s really happening in the brain during bipolar disorder 👉 The dangers of overmedication and brain inflammation 👉 Why even schizophrenia can be helped through functional systems 👉 Finland’s powerful approach to treating schizophrenia without meds 👉 How social bonding and oxytocin lead to brain healing 👉 Why chronic stress blocks your potential—and how attachment healing unlocks it 👉 A powerful metaphor about “loving a crocodile” and staying in unsafe emotional patterns

Healing from childhood trauma—especially when it starts as early as age 6—takes courage, patience, and truth. If this conversation helped you feel seen or understood, consider sharing it with someone who’s walking a similar path. You’re not alone—and there’s real hope for healing and freedom.

Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’ https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc

Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com

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In this episode, Evan Marc Katz joins Adam Lane Smith for a fiery and thought-provoking debate on one of the most challenging questions in relationships: Can we truly change our partner—or is it all about accepting them as they are? From practical dating strategies to deeper emotional dynamics, this conversation dives into the complexities of modern love and long-term compatibility.

✨ Key Topics Covered: 👉 Can good relationships be effortless—or do they always require "hard work"? 👉 Why trying to filter a future husband through dating profiles might be sabotaging your chances 👉 The hidden danger of rushing relationships due to urgency or age 👉 Do men doing more chores really lead to higher divorce rates? 👉 Why chemistry fades—and what truly keeps couples together long-term 👉 Understanding attachment styles: anxious vs. avoidant in real-life dynamics 👉 How discomfort can be a sign of growth in a healthy relationship 👉 Can emotionally avoidant men become devoted, secure partners? 👉 The power of conflict resolution and reading emotional cues 👉 What makes two people truly compatible—beyond cliches

Whether you're single and searching or in the middle of navigating a tough dynamic, this conversation offers powerful insights into love, growth, and emotional responsibility. To dive deeper into relationship skills, check out Adam's retreat offerings at https://adamlanesmith.com/retreat/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=avoidant&utm_content=descriptionlink

Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’ https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc

Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com

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The next episode drops Thursday :) See you there.

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