What matters to you right now?

That's the question this episode is built around, because when everything feels important, nothing gets your proper attention. And when nothing gets your proper attention, you burn out trying to hold it all together.

I'm Jen Wilson, The Healing Rebel, and this episode is about how to work out where to put your energy when your list of "important things" has quietly become unmanageable. It's inspired by a task from my book 9 Rules to Sort Your Shit, which is turning 10 this December.

What I cover:

Why "where the attention goes, the energy flows" isn't just a nice phrase

Why the standard Wheel of Life headings (health, money, relationships) are too vague to help you

How to make the Wheel of Life work for you by writing your own headings

Why you can't get everything to 10 out of 10 at the same time (and why trying is a fast track to burnout)

The link between not knowing what matters and running yourself into the ground

Why knowing something intellectually and putting it into practice are two different things

Why external support (therapy, coaching, bodywork) matters even when you already know the material

The "confidence comes after competence" reminder, and why imposter syndrome often just means you haven't built the reps yet

What I'm currently working on in my own therapy sessions and why

A heads up on the 9 Rules to Sort Your Shit podcast launching this October

A few questions I answer:

How do I work out what to focus on when everything feels important?

Why do I keep feeling stuck even though I'm doing loads?

What is the Wheel of Life exercise and how do I use it properly?

Why can't I just fix everything at once? How do I know when I need external support?

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About Jen: Jen Wilson is The Healing Rebel, a holistic wellness practitioner with over 15 years in practice, supporting capable, responsible women over 40 who give to everyone and struggle to receive. Working from her private home studio in Springburn, North Glasgow, Jen offers The Reset, The Recalibration, Manual Lymphatic Drainage, Therapeutic Fascia Massage, Menopause Massage, Reiki, Reiki Drumming, and Sound Healing, plus online classes and an on-demand subscription library.

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"I don't know how I'm still alive. My burnout has burned out."

That was a message from a client of mine recently, and it hit me hard. Because I've been that client. I spent the first 10 years of self-employment working seven days a week, from 7am to 9pm most days, telling myself that because I loved what I did, it didn't count as work. I was wrong.

I'm Jen Wilson, The Healing Rebel, and this episode is about why rest needs to be part of your actual strategy, not something you do when everything else is finished. Because it never will be finished. And if you wait until you have time, you will never have time.

What I cover:

Why loving your work doesn't exempt you from needing rest The 10 years I worked without a proper break, and what it cost me Why it took years of scheduled downtime before I could switch off What rest looks like for different people How to pre-schedule social media, out-of-office replies, and downtime The dance between your sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system Why your best ideas come when you stop working How dopamine hits become addictive, and why slow satisfaction is better Why nothing you do is life or death How your values inform your rest strategy

A few questions I answer:

Why is rest important for business owners? How do you take a proper holiday when you're self-employed? What does rest look like when you love your work? How do you switch off when you've been "on" for years? How much rest does your nervous system actually need?

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About Jen:

Jen Wilson is The Healing Rebel, a holistic wellness practitioner with over 15 years in practice, supporting capable, responsible women over 40 who give to everyone and struggle to receive. Working from her private home studio in Springburn, North Glasgow, Jen offers The Reset, The Recalibration, Manual Lymphatic Drainage, Therapeutic Fascia Massage, Menopause Massage, Reiki, Reiki Drumming, and Sound Healing, plus online classes and an on-demand subscription library.

Find out more at iamjenwilson.com

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Why your feet might be the key to your whole body feeling different is what we're getting into today.I'm Jen Wilson, The Healing Rebel, and this week just about every client who's walked into my studio has ended up on the table getting foot work done. Neck pain, shoulder pain, back pain, pelvic floor issues, postural collapse. When I've looked at their feet and listened to them walk up and down the room, the story has been the same. The feet need attention first.Your foot is an architectural masterpiece: 26 bones (28 if you include the ankle), 33 joints, over 100 ligaments and tendons, 25% of your muscles and bones, five arches, and around 7,000 nerve endings in each sole. When your feet aren't working properly, the ripple effect goes all the way up.What I cover:The five arches of the foot and what each one actually doesHow your feet connect fascially and energetically to your pelvic floor, diaphragm, and thoracic systemWhy collapsed or overly stiff arches disrupt your posture, pelvic floor, and breathingThe link between your feet and your nervous system stateWhy thick-soled shoes desensitise you and cause dysfunction up the chainHow working on your feet with a tennis ball, cork ball, or resistance band changes everythingTwo client examples from this week where we only worked the feet and their posture completely changedThe connection between your feet and reflexology pointsFeet, circulation, lymph flow, and why it's never too late to startWhy silicone toe spacers help but aren't the whole answerHow to work with your feet without holding your breath and clenching everything elseA few questions I answer:Why do my feet hurt?Can foot problems cause back pain, neck pain, and posture problems?How are your feet connected to your pelvic floor?What's the best way to release tight feet at home?Why do arches matter?Do minimalist shoes really make a difference?Free download: my Lymphatic Drainage Self-Care Routine. A gentle way to build a daily body-listening practice, in as little as one minute a day. Access me FREE Lymphatic Drainage Routine here https://iamjenwilson.thrivecart.com/lymph/If you'd like to work on your feet more deeply, I've got a Foot Mobility and Strength course that includes the fascia foot spa recording. Details in the show notes.If you're in or around Glasgow and you'd like to come in for a treatment, all the booking details are in the show notes too.About Jen:Jen Wilson is The Healing Rebel, a holistic wellness practitioner with over 15 years in practice, supporting capable, responsible women over 40 who give to everyone and struggle to receive. Working from her private home studio in Springburn, North Glasgow, Jen offers The Reset, The Recalibration, Manual Lymphatic Drainage, Therapeutic Fascia Massage, Menopause Massage, Reiki, Reiki Drumming, and Sound Healing, plus online classes and an on-demand subscription library.Get my book 9 Rules to Sort Your Shit here - https://amzn.to/4eYtVnqRebel and Divine Anarchist hoodies and t-shirts here https://iamjenwilson-2.teemill.com/collection/new/Gut Friendly, Easy Recipe book here https://amzn.to/4gJsGICFor all information on working with me:www.iamjenwilson.comFollow my social channelsSubscribe to my YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/iamjenwilsonLike my Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/IamJenWilsonFollow me on Instagram https://instagram.com/iam.jenwilson