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  • Attention Management - Why "Do I Have Time for That?" Is the Wrong Question with Abby Medcalf

    Attention Management - Why "Do I Have Time for That?" Is the Wrong Question with Abby Medcalf
    2026/11/09
    You know that feeling. You have answered 47 emails, bounced from meeting to meeting, put out fires, and crossed a dozen things off your list. And yet, at the end of the day, you are exhausted and wondering: what did I actually accomplish? And more importantly, did I give any energy to the things and the people who matter most?My guest today, Dr. Abby Medcalf, has a reframe for burnout that stopped me in my tracks the moment I heard her keynote at the Employee Assistance Professionals Conference in San Francisco. She says we have been asking ourselves the wrong question. Instead of asking "Do I have time for that?" we need to start asking "Do I have the mind for that?" Because it is our attention -- not just our time -- that is one of our most precious resources. And when we are constantly giving it away, there is not much left for creativity, connection, or the things that give our lives meaning.Dr. Abby Medcalf is a straight-talking psychologist, number one Amazon bestselling author, speaker, and host of two top-rated podcasts -- Relationships Made Easy and Workplace Therapy with Dr. Abby Medcalf -- heard in over 190 countries. With over 35 years of experience and a background in both counseling psychology and organizational psychology, she brings the science to life in a way that is immediately useful.In this episode, Abby and I talk about the science of attention, why willpower is an exhaustible resource, the critical difference between rest and real recovery, and the specific habits that actually rebuild your mental bandwidth. This conversation is as much about reclaiming your life as it is about preventing burnout. I took so many notes. I think you will too. For more information on this episode go to https://www.sallyspencerthomas.com/hope-illuminated-podcast/174
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    42 分
  • The Wounded Healer: Why Clinician Healing Is an Ethical Imperative with Sarah Buino

    The Wounded Healer: Why Clinician Healing Is an Ethical Imperative with Sarah Buino
    2026/10/28
    There is something we do not say out loud nearly enough in the mental health field: we ask clinicians to sit beside trauma, addiction, suicide, and despair and then train them as though they should be unaffected by it. We tell ourselves we have it together. We have the knowledge, the frameworks, the coping strategies. It is, as I have come to see it, a big fat lie we tell ourselves as a field and one that has real consequences for the people we serve.Sarah Buino has built her career around naming this openly. She grew up in an alcoholic family system, experienced chronic suicidal ideation from a young age, and entered the mental health field -- as so many of us do -- partly to understand her own story. She went on to become a licensed clinical social worker, built and sold a successful group practice, won recognition for her writing on the wounded healer concept, hosts the podcast Conversations with a Wounded Healer, and is now writing a book on the topic for NASW Press.In this episode, Sarah and I go into the real conversation -- the one the training programs are not having. What does it mean to be a wounded healer versus an impaired professional? What happens when a clinician hits a personal crisis mid-career and has nowhere safe to turn? Why do we keep applying individual solutions to what are fundamentally systemic problems? And what would it look like if graduate programs treated clinicians' own healing work as foundational to the training -- not optional, not shameful, but expected?Sarah's mic drop moment at the end of this episode is one I have been thinking about ever since: "If you feel a barrier to doing your own work, that is a signal to do the work." If you work in mental health, counseling, social work, psychology, or any helping profession, this episode is for you. For more information on this episode go to https://www.sallyspencerthomas.com/hope-illuminated-podcast/173
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    40 分
  • Beyond Recovery: What Mental Health Can Learn from the Disability Rights Movement with Dr. Mark Salzer

    Beyond Recovery: What Mental Health Can Learn from the Disability Rights Movement with Dr. Mark Salzer
    2026/10/21
    I first heard about Mark Salzer from a cluster of colleagues I deeply trust. We were all at a conference in Vermont, and more than one person pulled me aside and said, "You have to go listen to him -- he's got it going on." They were absolutely right. I left that presentation with my mind buzzing, and I immediately thought: I have to bring him to Hope Illuminated.Mark is a psychologist and professor at Temple University in Philadelphia. He comes from a family steeped in mental health -- his mother was a psychiatric nurse, his brother is a psychologist, and his grandfather was actually co-credited with coining the term "antidepressant." But what drives Mark is not legacy. It is social justice. He believes that people who experience significant mental health challenges are among the most disenfranchised, stigmatized, and discriminated against people in our society -- and that much of the mental health system, despite good intentions, perpetuates that problem.In this episode, we dig into the concept of recovery and why Mark -- who calls himself a "recovery baby," shaped by the movement from its earliest days -- has grown concerned that the term has gone off the rails. We explore what the disability rights movement figured out long before mental health did: that inclusion, participation, and the opportunity to live a full life in community are not the rewards of getting better. They are the measure of getting better.This is one of those conversations that will change how you think about your work -- whether you are a provider, a researcher, an advocate, or someone navigating your own mental health journey. For more information on this episode go to https://www.sallyspencerthomas.com/hope-illuminated-podcast/172
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    46 分
  • Zero Overdose: Why Overdose Safety Planning Needs to Become the Standard of Care with Dr. Virna Little

    Zero Overdose: Why Overdose Safety Planning Needs to Become the Standard of Care with Dr. Virna Little
    2026/10/08
    When I think about the parallels between suicide prevention and overdose prevention, nobody articulates them better than my guest in this episode. I first met Dr. Virna Little at the IASP Asia Pacific conference in Tokyo -- we were both there as Zero Suicide faculty -- and her work immediately struck me as something every mental health and substance use professional needs to hear about.Virna is the co-founder and CEO of Zero Overdose, a national nonprofit bringing the same rigorous, system-wide thinking we apply to suicide prevention directly into overdose prevention. She is also co-founder of Concert Health, a behavioral health medical group delivering Collaborative Care across 21 states. Her credentials span a doctorate in psychology and a master's in social work, and she has presented on suicide prevention at the White House.In this conversation, we talk about what it actually means to build an overdose safety plan -- not just hand someone a Narcan kit and send them home, but sit with them, understand their specific risks, identify their trusted people, and create a living document they can return to. We discuss the populations at highest risk (including people leaving incarceration, new mothers, and workers in trades like construction), the critical importance of EHR integration, and what it looks like when first responders in Massachusetts started using overdose safety planning in the field.If you work in healthcare, behavioral health, public health, or policy -- this episode will change how you think about overdose prevention. For more information about this episode go to https://www.sallyspencerthomas.com/hope-illuminated-podcast/170
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    37 分
  • The Invisible Veteran: Why "Thank You for Your Service" Is Not Enough

    The Invisible Veteran: Why "Thank You for Your Service" Is Not Enough
    2026/10/01
    In this episode of Hope Illuminated, I'm joined by Alicia Scovill, Air Force veteran and founder of Scovill Consulting, whose work sits at the intersection of veteran well-being, construction industry culture, and suicide prevention. Alicia brings something rare to this conversation: not just lived experience of military service and transition, but years of intentional research into the veterans who are most at risk, and most often overlooked.The episode opens with a framing I find both urgent and underappreciated: veterans are dying by suicide at higher rates than the general population, and the ones who surprise us most are not the ones carrying visible wounds of war. They are the invisible veterans, those who served without combat deployment, without visible injury, without a story that matches the Hollywood version of military service, and who carry a quiet, corrosive belief that their struggle is not legitimate because their sacrifice was not dramatic enough.Alicia unpacks three root causes she has identified through her research and her community: veteran imposter syndrome, the belief that one's service was not significant enough to warrant recognition or support; unfulfilled mission, the grief that emerges when a veteran has lost a friend or colleague to suicide and carries a painful sense of personal responsibility; and failure to adapt, the underacknowledged brutality of learning to operate in a civilian world that makes no sense after years of structured, mission-driven military life. The paradox of choice, the absence of hierarchy, the relentless smallness of daily civilian decisions after years of high-stakes clarity: all of it can be profoundly disorienting.The conversation turns to the construction industry, where veterans are heavily represented and where the cultural overlap with military values, toughness, mission, hierarchy, and loyalty, makes it both a natural fit and a particular risk environment. Alicia offers specific, practical guidance on how to engage veterans with authentic gratitude and curiosity: what questions open doors, what questions close them, and why a brief but meaningful acknowledgment of the oath itself, not just the service, can change how an invisible veteran experiences their own worth. for more information on this episode go to https://www.sallyspencerthomas.com/hope-illuminated-podcast/169
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    45 分
  • Depression as a Love Letter: Human Connection, Life Transitions & Scaling Peer Support with Nick Freud

    Depression as a Love Letter: Human Connection, Life Transitions & Scaling Peer Support with Nick Freud
    2026/09/08
    In this episode of Hope Illuminated, I'm joined by Nick Freud, entrepreneur, deep thinker, and founder of Fellow Humans, a platform being developed to match people navigating life transitions with peers who have already lived through the same experience. Nick arrives with an unusual combination of credentials: a last name that invites inevitable comparisons to Sigmund Freud, a background in education technology, a lived experience of burnout and depression, and a working theory that the mental health crisis cannot be solved by clinical expertise alone.Nick's story begins with co-founding an edtech startup at 24 with a best friend from college. The company was promising enough to attract early success, but the relentless pressure of entrepreneurship eventually caught up with him, and he found himself in a deep depressive episode that forced a reckoning. Rather than viewing that period as a failure, Nick came to reframe it as what he calls "a love letter from your body", a signal that the version of himself he'd been performing for the world was no longer aligned with who he actually was. That insight became the cornerstone of everything he's since built.We dig into the neuroscience of human connection, the role of serotonin and oxytocin in healing, and why the kind of connection that actually moves the needle requires real vulnerability, not just proximity. Nick shares a striking insight from his research: mental health conditions almost never arise in isolation but consistently emerge during or immediately after major life transitions, new job, divorce, becoming a parent, losing a parent, retirement, relocation. And he argues that the stigma around mental health is at its lowest precisely at those transition moments, making them the ideal intervention point.The conversation turns to Fellow Humans, Nick's vision of a platform that uses AI not as a replacement for human connection but as a sophisticated matchmaking and facilitation vehicle: connecting people in the midst of a transition with others who have already navigated the same terrain. We discuss the risks of unmoderated online communities, how Reddit's peer advice communities demonstrate both the power and the peril of this model, and why AI-facilitated matching, rather than algorithm-driven engagement, could be the key to making this work safely and meaningfully at scale. For mor information on this episode go to https://www.sallyspencerthomas.com/hope-illuminated-podcast/168
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    46 分
  • Suffering Is Disconnection: Co-Regulation, Real Conversations & Going Toward the Pain with Mitch Wallis

    Suffering Is Disconnection: Co-Regulation, Real Conversations & Going Toward the Pain with Mitch Wallis
    2026/08/25
    In this episode of Hope Illuminated, I'm joined by Mitch Wallis for one of the most intellectually rich and personally moving conversations I've had on this podcast. Mitch arrives with a rare combination: more than two decades of lived experience managing complex mental illnesses, a master's in clinical psychology from Columbia, and an extraordinary ability to translate neuroscience into language that any human being can act on immediately. His mantra, "go toward the pain," is both a personal practice and a public health philosophy, and this conversation is a masterclass in what that looks like in real life.We open with Mitch's central thesis: mental health is, at its core, nervous system regulation. Specifically, it is the capacity for both self-regulation and co-regulation. And co-regulation, the ability to help another person's nervous system settle through genuine, attuned presence, is the most underutilized and most scalable mental health tool we have. Mitch makes the case, backed by attachment theory and neuroscience, that nothing heals in isolation. Suffering, at its root, is disconnection from self and other.We move through the landscape of what supportive connection actually requires. Mitch unpacks the five most common mistakes even the most well-meaning supporters make: being a fixer, being a thief (hijacking someone's pain with your own story), being a blind optimist (silver-lining everything), championing the life worth living to someone in suicidal intensity, and avoiding the pain entirely. For each mistake, he offers a concrete reframe rooted in attunement, sequencing, and dosing.The conversation reaches its most personal and profound point when we turn to grief. Mitch gently reflects back to me what I share about my brother Carson, offering a reframe that stopped me in my tracks: we are not just grieving the person we lost. We are grieving the parts of ourselves that only they could unlock. That the magnetism, the levity, the playfulness Carson drew out of me, that is part of what I am still mourning. It is one of the most generous and precise moments of co-regulation I have experienced in a long time, and it is all captured here. For more information on this episode go to Suffering Is Disconnection: Co-Regulation, Real Conversations & Going Toward the Pain — Dr. Sally
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    1 時間 4 分