Have a Lack of Self-Worth? 3 Ways to Build Confidence

What if your lack of confidence isn't actually the problem?

Maybe you look at other women and wonder, How does she seem so confident? How does she speak up like that? How does she set boundaries without feeling guilty? How does she trust herself?

But what if confidence is something you can actually rebuild?

After criticism, rejection, gaslighting, manipulation, or years of second-guessing yourself, it can become really difficult to trust your own thoughts, feelings, decisions, and instincts.

And eventually you may start questioning everything… your decisions, your instincts, your appearance, your worth, and even who you are.

In this episode, we're talking about what it really looks like to rebuild your self-worth and confidence as a Christian woman.

I'll share some of my own struggles with needing validation, learning to trust myself again, keeping promises to myself, and even the slightly ridiculous thing I started doing in the mirror to change the way I talked to myself. 😂

We'll talk about the difference between self-worth and confidence, why your worth cannot be determined by someone else's approval, how small acts of discipline can rebuild self-trust, and what Scripture says about the way we see ourselves.

Because confidence doesn't mean you never doubt yourself.

It doesn't mean you're never afraid.

And it definitely doesn't mean you become the loudest woman in the room.

Confidence is learning who you are, who you belong to, and learning to trust yourself again.

And friend, if you've spent years wondering whether you're enough, whether you're doing things right, or whether you can actually trust yourself… this conversation is for you.

✨ FREE JOURNALING KIT!

I created a FREE journal to go along with this episode to help you slow down, reflect, and work through some of the questions we talk about in the episode.

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Or head to bethanyrose.net/herhealing and click the EXTRAS tab.

And if you're realizing that rebuilding self-trust and confidence is something you need more support with, check out Narcissistic Recovery Coaching: www.bethanyrose.net/herhealing/coaching

You don't have to become a completely different woman.

You get to learn how to live from the identity God has already given you. ❤️

Go, mama, go! 🙃

Get the kids up. Get them dressed. Make breakfast. Get them to school. Work. Pick them up. Practice. Dinner. Homework. Baths. Bed.

And then maybe you finally get to breathe… or fall asleep on the couch… or pour yourself another glass of whatever you just told yourself you weren't going to have as much of. 😂

But what if your constant “go, go, go” isn't always just because you're a busy mom?

What if sometimes busy becomes a socially acceptable way to avoid what you don't want to feel?

In this episode of Her Healing Season, we're talking about hyper-vigilance, survival mode, burnout, and the uncomfortable reality that sometimes slowing down can feel harder than staying busy.

After leaving my husband, I went straight into single-mom survival mode. I worked 7 days a week, had 3 different jobs, side hustles, kids, a social life, and a calendar that never seemed to stop.

I thought I was just being strong.

I thought I had a great work ethic.

But God eventually showed me something I didn't realize at the time:

I wasn't just working hard. I was running.

Running from grief. Running from fear. Running from uncertainty. Running from the pain of what had happened. And, in some ways, even running from the peace and rest God was trying to give me.

In this episode, we'll talk about:

• What hyper-vigilance can look like in everyday motherhood

• Why rest can feel uncomfortable after prolonged stress

• How “if I keep moving, I don't have to feel” can become a pattern

• Why busy can become a form of avoidance

• The connection between survival mode and the inability to slow down

• What the Bible says about rest, including Matthew 11:28–29, Psalm 46:10, Mark 6:31, and Psalm 23

• What “holy rest” can actually look like

• Learning to sit quietly with your thoughts instead of immediately filling the silence

• Why rest isn't laziness, weakness, or irresponsibility

• How God taught me that I could do what He called me to do without carrying what He never asked me to carry

Because here's the thing, mama:

You were never created to live your entire life in survival mode.

There is a season to work. A season to move. A season to fight.

But there is also a season to be still.

Maybe your healing season begins when you finally stop running.

If you're a mom rebuilding your life after leaving a narcissistic husband and you're ready to stop surviving and begin rebuilding and restoring, I'd love to help you.

Learn more about coaching: www.bethanyrose.net/herhealing/coaching

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Go to Jesus. Go get quiet. Go heal. Go rest. Go process. Go surrender.

You don't have to spend the rest of your life running.

🎉 WE HAVE BIG NEWS, FRIENDS! 🎉

I honestly still can’t believe I’m saying this…

Her Healing Season is officially ranked in the TOP 5% of podcasts globally! 😭🎙️

When I saw that ranking, I was shocked, humbled, and SO excited. What started as a little idea almost a year ago has turned into something I never could have imagined—and I truly believe God has been in every step of it.

In this episode, we’re celebrating! 💚

I’m looking back at almost a FULL YEAR of podcasting, the incredible guests who have shared their stories and wisdom, the conversations we’ve had, the things God has taught me along the way, and how this podcast has grown and changed.

And, of course, I’m talking about what I believe God is doing NEXT. 👀

There’s a little something special I want to do to celebrate this milestone with YOU… and you’re definitely going to want to listen all the way to the end. 🎁

Thank you for listening, sharing, encouraging me, and being part of this little corner of the internet. Whether you’ve been here since the beginning or you just found Her Healing Season, I am SO glad you’re here.

Here’s to healing, rebuilding, resting, growing, and seeing what God does next. 🤍

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And if you’re in a season of rebuilding after leaving a narcissistic relationship, know this: your healing season matters. 💚

When you're rebuilding your life after an emotionally difficult relationship, it can feel like EVERYTHING needs to change.

Your routines. Your confidence. Your peace. Your relationship with God. Even the way you take care of yourself.

But you don't need a perfect routine—you need a few healthy habits that become foundational.

In this episode of Her Healing Season, we're talking about 5 simple habits that can help you rebuild your life with intention instead of continuing to live in reaction mode.

These aren't about becoming the "perfect" woman or creating some unrealistic 5 AM routine. They're about building habits that actually work inside your real life.

We'll also talk about why these habits can be especially important when you're coming out of a difficult relationship and trying to rebuild your identity, peace, health, and relationship with God.

And don't miss the 7-day challenge at the end: choose your five non-negotiables—or start with three—and begin building your next season on a solid foundation.

If you're ready to rebuild and restore, you don't have to do it alone.

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Leaving a narcissistic relationship is hard. But sometimes, leaving is only the beginning.

If you're a Christian mom who has left a toxic or narcissistic husband, you may be facing more than just the logistics of starting over. You may be questioning yourself, struggling to trust your own decisions, feeling guilty about your family, or wondering how you're ever going to feel like you again.

In this episode of Her Healing Season, Bethany gets personal about her own experience of leaving her first husband with two young children and the difficult season of leaving, coming back, questioning herself, and learning to trust her decisions again.

She shares two things God taught her along the way:

GOOD BOUNDARIES — Learning to let your yes be yes and your no be no, refusing to be talked out of decisions you know are right, and protecting yourself from unhealthy patterns without becoming consumed by conflict.

GOODBYES — Learning that it's okay to let go of people, things, expectations, old identities, and even the future you thought you were going to have. Sometimes healing means releasing what God is asking you to release so you can move forward into what He has for you.

Together, we'll look at Scripture including Matthew 5:37, 1 Kings 18:21, Proverbs 22:24–25, John 15, 1 Corinthians 15:33, Philippians 3:13–14, and Matthew 10.

If you're struggling with healing after leaving a narcissistic husband, setting boundaries, rebuilding your peace, trusting yourself again, or letting go of the past, this episode is for you.

And if you're ready for some personal support as you begin rebuilding, learn more about Rebuild and Restore Coaching, Bethany's one-on-one coaching for Christian moms healing after a narcissistic relationship.

podcast@bethanyrose.net

You don't have to rebuild your whole life today. You just have to take the next faithful step.

What if some of the things you’ve always considered “just who I am” are actually patterns you’ve learned to rely on?

In this episode, I’m joined by Dina Smith, Licensed Mental Health Counselor, speaker, and Enneagram coach, for a conversation about the Enneagram, Christian faith, motherhood, relationships, and spiritual growth.

Dina explains what the nine Enneagram types are and how understanding our motivations can help us recognize patterns in the way we think, feel, behave, parent, and relate to others. But this conversation isn’t about putting yourself in a box—it’s about gaining self-awareness and discovering the places where you may need God’s grace the most.

We talk about mom guilt, perfectionism, people-pleasing, striving, conflict, parenting from our own personality instead of understanding our children, and what happens when we finally surrender the strategies we’ve used our whole lives.

Most importantly, we talk about the reminder every Christian mom needs: you are already loved. Spiritual growth isn’t about striving your way into becoming worthy of God’s love. It’s about becoming increasingly free to live in the love and grace you’ve already received through Christ.

If you’ve ever thought, “Why do I keep doing this?” or wondered why you struggle with the same patterns over and over again, this conversation is for you.

Connect with Dina: 🌐 Website: www.enneagramtherapywithdina.com 📘 Facebook: www.facebook.com/dina.enneagram.therapy 💼 LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/dinasmithenneagramconsulting/

Connect with Bethany: 🌐 Website & Podcast: https://bethanyrose.net/herhealing 💌 Join the email list: https://bit.ly/45etLo8 👩‍💻 Book a free coaching session: https://calendly.com/spiritual-growth/back-to-school-free-session

Come hang out with other Christian moms in the Spiritual Growth for Christian Moms Facebook community and keep growing in Christ with us!

Want to study the Bible for yourself but sometimes feel unsure where to begin?

The Step By Step Starter Kit from Steady On Ministries teaches a simple inductive Bible study method designed to help you slow down, understand what you’re reading, and grow more confident studying God’s Word for yourself.

The free Starter Kit includes:

• A two-part video masterclass taught by Bible teacher and Steady On Ministries founder Angie Baughman
• A downloadable workbook and study sheet you can use with any passage of Scripture
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In this episode of Her Healing Season, host Bethany Rose announces an important pivot for the show. Formerly Spiritual Growth for Christian Moms, the podcast is shifting its main focus to support Christian moms step into faith-led rest and recovery after leaving a narcissistic partner.

In this episode, Bethany covers:

• The New Focus: What is changing, what stays the same, and a heartfelt message to all existing and new listeners.
• My Story: Looking back at 2019/2020—navigating single motherhood with two under two after discovering her marriage was void, and sitting in the middle of conflicting emotions like freedom, sadness, and clarity.
• 3 Reasons for the Shift: How God is re-directing this mission, why you need support through the contradictory feelings of betrayal, and how nervous system regulation and full surrender lead to deep healing.
• Coaching Announcement: Details on how Bethany is now guiding women to rebuild their peace, restore their faith, and break free from emotional burnout through 1:1 coaching.

If you are feeling lost, relieved, anxious, or hopeful in your current season, know that you are not alone on this path.

Links & Resources:

• Sign up for 1:1 Coaching: bethanyrose.net/herhealing
• Questions or Feedback? Email: podcast@bethanyrose.net

Are your emotions making you feel like a bad Christian mom?

What if your emotions aren't sinful—and what if they're actually giving you important information?

In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. David Pendergrass, Biblicist, author, speaker, former senior pastor, and pastoral counselor with nearly 30 years of ministry experience.

We talk about anger, anxiety, overwhelm, emotional reactions, shame, conviction, and what emotional maturity actually looks like for a Christian. David shares practical ways to recognize and process our emotions without letting them control our responses—and explains why we need to stop shaming ourselves for having feelings.

This conversation is honest, practical, encouraging, and full of those “wait...I've never thought about it that way!” moments.

Find Dr. David Pendergrass: 🌐 Website: https://www.davidpendergrass.com/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.davidpendergrass

Connect with Bethany: 🌐 Website: https://bethanyrose.net/podcast 📧 Join my email list: https://bit.ly/45etLo8 💬 Facebook: Moms Helping Moms Grow in Christ 🎧 Podcast: Spiritual Growth for Christian Moms

Want to work with me? I offer 1:1 Christian spiritual growth coaching for moms who want to get unstuck, grow closer to Christ, and find more peace in the middle of motherhood.

Book your free Back-to-School coaching session here: https://calendly.com/spiritual-growth/back-to-school-free-session