This week, Good Moms are joined by attorney, media personality, author, and the first Black Bachelorette, Rachel Lindsay. From growing up in Texas with a federal judge for a dad to navigating heartbreak, law school, and the search for "love" on reality TV, they get into love, loss, legacy and what she wishes more reality stars knew.

You can expect to hear:

(09:00) Growing up in a strict, achievement-focused Black family—and how being a judge’s daughter shaped her mindset

(11:30) Going to law school, pledging Delta, and the moments that made her question everything she thought she knew

(12:30) Her first heartbreak, losing her virginity at 20, and why she believes purity culture is dangerous

(17:50) Her “athlete era,” chasing fun, and realizing what she didn’t want in a relationship

(20:30) How she ended up on The Bachelor, and the gut feeling that told her she had to do it

(23:50) The truth about being the first Black Bachelorette, respectability politics, and how she was chosen to be “palatable” for white audiences

(25:00) Her master plan to stay quiet during filming and speak out after the season aired

(27:00)The power of being seen: why Black women deserve the fairy tale, too ( and why she felt called to bring that to screen)

(28:00) Her advice to future reality TV stars: be strategic and own your narrative

(30:00) Why she’s not rushing into dating post-divorce and how she felt as a woman paying alimony to her EX-HUSBAND to maintain HIS lifestyle.

(31:00) Why she refuses to watch Love Island, and how most dating shows still miss the mark on diversity

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Erica and Milah continue their sit down with bestselling author Elizabeth Oveson (AKA Karrine Steffans) as she unpacks the emotional and physical labor of being a truth-teller in a culture addicted to fantasy.

Now two decades removed from the release of Confessions of a Video Vixen, Elizabeth reflects on the hollowness of fame, the cost of being first, and why men should marry the "slut".

The ladies chat about:

• Making trauma informed choices and hyper-sexualition
• Men lying about sleeping with Karrine to boost their SEO (not her SEO PUS*Y lol)
• They explore the question: Do you have a problem, or do you just have a baby daddy lol
• A special whorie from Milah & Karrine

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This week, Erica and Milah are joined by bestselling author Elizabeth Oveson (AKA Karrine Steffans) to reflect on the 20-year anniversary of her groundbreaking memoir, Confessions of a Video Vixen.

Elizabeth was one of the first women in the public eye to live unapologetically in her truth refusing to censor her experiences, her sexuality, or her voice. Two decades later, she returns to Good Moms Bad Choices to chat about what it means to reclaim her body, her story, and her peace.

In Part 1 of this two-part ep covers:

• The reaction to Confessions 20 years ago, and how telling her story reshaped the industry and even cost her safety
• Why she’s not interested in protecting men and upholding the wrong icons, and why you should stop also!
• What it means to “self-rescue” and why self care goes beyond massages and skin care
• & A fun game of Trigger!

For early unedited access to Part 2 of this episode, sign up to Patreon now!

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Watch This episode & more on YouTube! Submit your advice questions, anonymous secrets or vent about motherhood anonymously!

Submit your questions

Catch up with us over at Patreon and get all our Full visual episodes, bonus content & early episode releases.

Join our private Facebook group!

Connect With Us:

@GoodMoms_BadChoices

@TheGoodVibeRetreat

@Good.GoodMedia

@WatchErica

@Milah_Mapp

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Option 1: July 31st- August 5th

Option 2: August 8th- August 13th

Use promo code ESCAPE at checkout for a deal you don’t want to miss.

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Kiiro Toys: Theres something here for everyone, trust us!

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💊Take your Vitamins! 💊

In the spirit of growing up, it's also time for you to grow up and start taking your vitamins! Check out www.Blackvitamins.co and find the best vitamins for Black Women, by Black women. Use Promo code GoodMoms20 at check out!

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.