In this spicy AMA episode, I’m answering your unfiltered questions—nothing off limits. We’re talking:

• Toys for men (and why your nightstand should have more than just her vibrator)

• What I actually believe theologically (hint: it’s not what the church aunties think)

• What purity culture really is—and why it causes harm

• Selfishness with oral sex (yep, I said it)

• What to do when your joints pop out mid ✨activity✨ (hypermobility is real, y’all)

Whether you’re here to be educated, entertained, or just nosy, I’ve got you. Coaching spots are open—if you want help untangling any of these things in your own marriage, book now!

As always, here are links to things mentioned in the episode!

My Patreon

Lovense Edge 2 Prostate Massager

Beisar Prostate Massager & C Ring

Vibrating C Ring - Lovense Diamo

Sex Therapy 101 with Dr. Cami Hurst: Untangling Duty Sex with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers

Facebook Thread about Purity Culture

She Deserves Better by Sheila Wray Gregoire

Recovering From Purity Culture by Dr. Camden Morgante

The Marriage You Want

The Great Sex Rescue

Come As You Are

Biblical Christian Egalitarians Facebook Group

Marg Mowczko’s Facebook Page

Song of Solomon 4:11 Bookmark

Song of Solomon 4:16 Bookmark

Book Coaching with Me!

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Today’s episode is tender and powerful - and comes with massive trigger warnings. I’m joined by Shelby Greene—writer, mother of five, and survivor of domestic violence.

Her debut book As Ashes Fall blends spoken word poetry with raw personal reflection, offering a gripping and honest look at the journey through abuse and toward healing.

We talk candidly about:

✨How abuse distorts your perception of reality

✨How being a "good Christian" keeps women trapped in abuse

✨How God can restore all that the locusts have stolen

✨And so much more

Shelby is the founder of The Red Collective, a growing survivor-centered community where she’s developing healing journals, digital tools, and future works to honor the journey of rising after ruin.

This is a conversation about pain, but also about power. About naming the harm, reclaiming your story, and refusing to be silenced.

⚠️ Trigger warning: This episode contains discussion of domestic violence, spiritual abuse, and marital rape.

If you are experiencing abuse of any kind, or wonder if you are experiencing abuse, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline or text BEGIN to 88788.

You can connect with Shelby on her Instagram

The Red Collective Instagram

And don't forget to get your copy of As Ashes Fall.

(aff link)

You can also join her Facebook Group for survivors: The Red Collective.

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Does touch in your marriage feel like a landmine? You never know what is going to blow up in your face?

In this episode, I sit down with massage therapist and Holy-Spirit-anointed healer Maude Carter to talk about the importance of non-sexual, expectation-free touch in marriage. We explore how our bodies carry trauma, how purity culture distorted even innocent forms of affection, and why “touched out” isn’t just a mom thing—it’s a nervous system thing.

This one is for the woman who feels like every shoulder rub turns into an obligation. For the man who wants to connect without always initiating sex. For the couple ready to reclaim physical connection that heals instead of takes.

Maude shares her decades of experience in therapeutic massage and how it intersects with faith, motherhood, marriage, and trauma-informed care. Spoiler: not all intimacy ends in sex—and that’s exactly the point.

🔥 We talk about:

• Why non-sexual touch is crucial for intimacy and co-regulation

• What “touched out” actually means

• Creating safety in your body (and your relationship)

• And how Holy Spirit + human touch = real healing

✨ BONUS for Patreon Members ✨
Want to learn how to rub them the right way?
We recorded an exclusive video teaching simple, beginner-friendly massage techniques couples can use at home—no fancy tools, no weird oils, just your hands and intention.

👉 Join my Patreon for access!

You can follow Maude on her TikTok, as she gets it set up!

If you are in Northeast Ohio, you can book a massage with Maude!

And y'all know I'm going to give you links to things we discussed!

Come As You Are By Emily Nagoski

Sanctified Sexism: Effects of Purity Culture Tropes on White Christian Women’s Marital and Sexual Satisfaction and Experience of Sexual Pain

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