Stacie and Eden delve into the complex world of identity and labels. Today, they peel back the layers of societal labels that often define us more by expectation than by essence. Stacie opens up about her discomfort with being pigeonholed by her profession and shares her aspiration to be recognized first as a woman of faith, while Eden discusses the often underestimated and judged role of a stay-at-home mom. They explore how labels can equally empower and constrain us, discussing the dynamics of personal identity in a capitalist society, the pressure of checking boxes during life changes like divorce, and the need to find moments of stillness to discover who we are beneath these labels. Together, they reflect on the transformative potential of redefining ourselves on our own terms and invite listeners to join in by crafting personal greetings that affirm their destinies. Stay tuned - this is an episode you won't want to miss!

What is Discussed:

Introduction (00:00:00) Stacie and Eden introduce the podcast and its purpose.

Personal Experiences with Labels (00:01:19) Stacie shares her discomfort with being defined solely by her occupation.

Challenges of Identifying as a Stay-at-Home Mom (00:04:02) Eden discusses the judgment and internal conflict associated with identifying as a stay-at-home mom.

Struggles with Labels in Personal Life (00:06:41) Stacie shares her struggle with labels during a period of separation and divorce.

Empowerment through Self-Definition (00:09:55) Stacie and Eden discuss the idea of empowering self-definition and reframing the use of labels.

Reframing Labels for Empowerment (00:10:47) Eden shares her perspective on using labels in an empowering way and giving herself permission to define her identity.

Embracing "Enoughness" (00:12:39) Stacie and Eden discuss the concept of "enoughness" and reframing self-evaluation based on labels.

Using Labels for Empowerment and Connection (00:13:56) Eden discusses the impact of labels on self-perception and connection with others.

Challenging the Norm of "What Do You Do?" (00:15:14) Stacie and Eden express their desire to challenge the societal norm of defining individuals by their occupations.

Ending Networking Events without Occupation Questions (00:16:40) Stacie and Eden advocate for starting a movement to shift the focus away from asking about occupations at networking events.

The Makeup Artist's Approach (00:17:07) The importance of not leading with job titles and how it can impact interactions positively.

Discovering One's Identity (00:17:32) Anecdote of a speaker's experience at an event, emphasizing the significance of defining one's identity beyond job titles.

Defining One's Superpower (00:18:33) The concept of identifying one's superpower and its impact on self-definition and interactions.

Transformative Relationship with Labels (00:20:24) Embracing positive relationships with labels and identities and disassociating from them when necessary.

Shifting Into a Positive Outlook (00:21:25) Changing perspectives from self-evaluation to focusing on wins and positives.

Empowerment Through an Oríkì (00:24:16) Introduction to the concept of an oríkì for self-praise and empowerment. (Luvvie Jones, Professional Toublemaker)

Gratitude and Stillness (00:27:26) The power of gratitude and the significance of stillness in shedding labels and finding clarity.

Being and Becoming (00:31:47) The importance of understanding one's core identity and aligning it with aspirations and actions.

Transformational

Stacie and Eden explore the profound question: "Are you driven or dragged by the things in your life?" They share their personal experiences and the transformative journey of identifying elements that either weigh them down or propel them forward. Stacie discusses the liberating feeling of adding more “driven” aspects to her life, defining her success by the joy these elements bring. Eden reflects on giving herself permission to release the “drags” and focus on her passions, like coaching and this podcast. Together, they encourage listeners to embrace support, let go of guilt, and pursue a life aligned with their true passions, ultimately leading from a place of doubt to a destiny filled with fulfillment and success.

What is Discussed:

Driven or Dragged (00:00:24) Discussion on the concept of feeling driven or dragged by different aspects of life.

Defining Drags and Driven (00:02:27) Stacie explains the feelings associated with being dragged or driven in various activities.

Analyzing Drags and Drivens (00:04:43) Exploring the impact of feeling dragged or driven on overall well-being and the possibility of balancing them.

Self-Assessment of Drags (00:06:22) Eden shares personal reflections on focusing more on the driven and realizing the need to assess and release drags.

Seeking Help and Releasing Drags (00:08:35) The importance of seeking help and releasing tasks that feel like drags, leading to a discussion on reframing procrastination.

Releasing Drags for Creativity (00:14:40) Eden’s experience of releasing drags to free up time and energy for more creative pursuits.

Permission to Define Roles (00:16:53) Encouragement to define roles and responsibilities based on personal desires rather than societal expectations.

Adding More Who's (00:16:58) Discussion about adding more people into life and the impact of resources on adding support. (Reference: “Who Not How” by Dan Sullivan & Dr. Benjamin Hardy)

Unlocking Resources (00:17:23) Exploring the resources in life and the importance of opening up to receive help and support.

Permission to Seek Help (00:18:52) The significance of seeking help and support in various aspects of life, such as parenting and personal growth.

Finding Purpose (00:19:42) The impact of seeking help and support on personal growth and finding purpose in life.

Defining Success (00:26:40) Defining success as minimizing tasks that are not enjoyable and focusing on things that bring joy and purpose.

Reframing Life (00:27:17) Reflecting on the balance of tasks that drive and drag, and the importance of redefining success and incorporating joy into life.

Doubt to Destiny Developmental Path (00:32:47) Personal journey of self-discovery and finding purpose beyond traditional roles of wife and mother.

The Discovery Process (00:33:32) Exploring new interests and passions, leading to self-discovery and redefining life goals.

The Discernment process (00:34:31) Evaluating personal desires and aspirations, leading to a shift in career and entrepreneurial pursuits.

Daring to Dream (00:35:23) Acknowledging inner aspirations and overcoming self-doubt to pursue life coaching and personal development.

The Journey as the Destination (00:38:22) Embracing the process of doing and realizing that the journey itself is the destination, leading to present-moment appreciation.

Reflecting on the Doubt to Destiny Development Path (00:42:02) Recognizing pivotal moments and choices that led to personal and professional growth,...

Stacie and Eden dive into the transformative journey of setting healthy boundaries. They candidly share experiences of the profound impact of clear communication in both their personal and professional lives. Stacie discusses boundary-setting at work, which led to a more balanced professional life, while Eden reflects on her marriage, highlighting the importance of individual therapy and the benefits of community support. Their conversation underscores the value of self-awareness, trust, and the courage to say "no" for authentic relationships. Listeners are inspired to embrace boundary-setting as an act of self-care and a pathway to deeper connections.

What is Discussed:

Introduction (00:00:00)Stacie and Eden introduce the podcast and themselves, setting the stage for the discussion on boundaries.

Defining Boundaries (00:01:11)Stacie and Eden discuss the definition of boundaries and the importance of having them in relationships.

Challenges with Boundaries (00:02:52)The conversation shifts to the challenges of setting boundaries, particularly related to people-pleasing and fear of offending others.

Impact of Boundaries (00:05:10)The impact of setting boundaries on oneself and others, and the potential responses when communicating boundaries to others.

Setting Boundaries with Love (00:07:24)Quotes are shared about the importance of setting boundaries and the courage required to love oneself while risking disappointing others.

Communication of Boundaries (00:10:36)The importance of effectively communicating boundaries and the consequences of not addressing issues in a timely manner.

Practicing Boundaries (00:13:20)Discussion on practicing and articulating boundaries, including seeking external perspectives and finding the courage to express oneself.

Setting Boundaries in Relationships (00:15:57)Stacie emphasizes the importance of not withdrawing from relationships but rather setting healthy and communicated boundaries for a beneficial relationship.

Finding Your Voice (00:16:15)Discussing the need to communicate boundaries and express oneself in relationships.

Understanding Different Responses (00:18:23)Exploring how trauma responses can impact communication and the importance of understanding each other's communication styles.

Practicing Boundaries (00:21:30)Discussing the importance of practicing setting boundaries and seeking feedback for effective communication.

Exercising Boundaries (00:23:48)Analogizing the process of setting boundaries to exercising and strengthening one's ability to articulate needs.

Setting Healthy Boundaries (00:27:34)Emphasizing the importance of healthy boundaries in relationships and the potential positive impact on personal growth.

Recognizing Support Systems (00:30:25)Reflecting on the role of supportive individuals and divine encounters in recognizing the worth of maintaining healthy boundaries.

The importance of receiving divine occurrences (00:32:50)Discussing the significance of being present to receive divine occurrences and having the courage to speak up.

Self-awareness and recognizing internalization (00:34:27)Understanding the importance of self-awareness, recognizing internalized emotions, and the impact on communication.

The significance of self-awareness in relationships (00:36:36)Emphasizing the importance of self-awareness in relationships, knowing oneself, and the value of slowing down and dating oneself.

Boundaries in marriage and the need for self-reflection (00:37:31)Exploring the complexities of boundaries in marriage, self-reflection, and the...

Stacie and Eden dive into the complexities of marriage, sharing personal experiences and insights. Stacie empathizes with women facing early marital challenges and encourages open dialogue. Eden, celebrating two years of marriage, discusses societal pressures and the reality of her non-traditional journey. They emphasize the importance of commitment, communication, and understanding each other's traumas. Stacie shares her faith-driven approach to overcoming marital struggles, while Eden reflects on navigating triggers and conflict. Their candid conversation inspires listeners to reframe expectations and celebrate the ongoing commitment in marriage.

What is Discussed:

The mystery of marriage (00:00:24) Stacie and Eden introduce the topic of marriage as a mysterious and complex experience.

Challenges at the beginning (00:01:57) Stacie discusses the challenges and unexpected experiences that some people face at the beginning of their marriages.

Unmet expectations and reframing (00:05:46) Eden shares her realization about unmet expectations and reframing her ideas about marriage, including the pressure of societal norms.

Challenging societal programming (00:14:51) Stacie and Eden discuss the need to challenge societal programming and expectations related to marriage, including the pressure for extravagant weddings and expensive engagement rings.

Marriage Realities (00:15:58) Discussion about atypical marriage experiences and the mismatch between social media imagery and reality.

Celebrating Commitment (00:17:48) Emphasizing the importance of commitment over grand weddings, and the possibility of celebrating commitment repeatedly over time.

Navigating Turbulence (00:20:46) Navigating through bumpy experiences, managing expectations, and processing trauma in relationships.

Trusting Through Imperfection (00:26:28) Understanding the need to trust in imperfect experiences and the journey of deepening faith through tumultuous times.

Triggering Each Other (00:30:19) Recognizing and learning to manage triggering each other's trauma responses in a relationship.

The tumultuous beginning of the relationship (00:32:20) Discussion about the condensed time and intense experiences at the start of their relationship.

The challenges of moving in together (00:33:11) Challenges and pressures of moving in together, including interracial marriage and societal pressures.

Rapid change and its impact (00:36:57) Eden's now husband's quick change, how it affected their relationship, and their subsequent challenges.

The moment of realization and feeling seen (00:39:16) Discussion about when they knew they wanted to marry each other and the feeling of being truly seen and understood.

Building a strong foundation before marriage (00:43:24) The foundational work done in their relationship before marriage and the challenges they faced, leading to a strong foundation.

Reflection on the challenges and beauty of relationships (00:45:26) Reflection on the challenges and beauty of relationships, and the importance of working through difficulties.

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That’s a wrap on Season One! From personal milestones to insightful conversations, each episode has brought us closer to our mission. Thank you for being a part of this incredible journey. Your support means the world to us, and we can’t wait to continue growing together. This summer, we're taking a break to recharge and come back with even more exciting content. Remember, rest isn't just a luxury; it's a necessity for personal and professional growth. Enjoy your summer, and we’ll see you soon for Season Two!

Stacie & Eden continue the conversation on the complexities and transformative potential of marriage. Stacie shares her personal journey, emphasizing the importance of managing expectations and finding fulfillment beyond the marital relationship. Both hosts discuss the significance of personal growth, open communication, and the balancing act of dependency within marriage. They highlight the concept of "iron sharpens iron," illustrating how partners can challenge and refine each other. Throughout, they underscore the need for a supportive community and a strong relationship with God to navigate marital challenges and growth.

What is Discussed:

The complexities of marriage (00:00:59) Discussion about the challenges and transformations experienced in marriage.

The pain and struggles in the beginning of marriage (00:01:56) Exploring the difficulties and pain experienced by some wives in the early stages of marriage.

Managing expectations in marriage (00:04:05)The speaker shares her experience of letting go of expectations and finding a new perspective on marriage.

Marriage as a path to holiness (00:10:28)Exploring the concept of marriage as a journey towards holiness rather than just happiness.

Challenges and growth in marriage (00:12:23)Discussion about the challenges and growth experienced in the early stages of marriage.

Adjusting to differences in marriage (00:14:19)The speakers talk about adjusting to each other's differences and the growth it brings.

Challenging Each Other (00:16:22)Discussion on the positive impact of being challenged in a marriage, personal growth, and emotional support.

Iron Sharpens Iron (00:17:23)Comparison of marriage to the concept of iron sharpening iron, highlighting the role of a partner in personal growth and transformation.

Dependency and Balance (00:22:45)Exploration of the concept of dependency in marriage, finding a balance between independence and interdependence.

Enduring Together (00:27:54)Reflection on enduring through challenging seasons in marriage and the importance of community support and endurance.

The Mystery of Marriage (00:31:48)Discussion on the evolving nature of marriage, personal growth, and the role of faith and intimacy in navigating challenges.

Find Community (00:32:50)Stacie discusses the importance of finding a supportive community, using the analogy of a midwife or sherpa for guidance.

Longevity in Marriage (00:33:55) Stacie expresses her desire to learn from long-married couples and emphasizes the importance of enduring through challenges in marriage.

Seeking Community (00:35:04)Stacie encourages seeking community support in challenging times, highlighting the value of online resources and not giving up when facing difficulties.

Endurance and Wisdom (00:36:06) Stacie emphasizes the value of endurance and seeking wisdom in difficult times, cautioning against making hasty decisions in relationships.

Challenges of Marriage (00:37:10)Stacie discusses the mysterious and challenging aspects of marriage, emphasizing the need to seek guidance and stay close to God.

Navigating Challenges (00:38:04) Stacie and Eden reflect on their own marriage challenges.

Beauty in Marriage (00:40:42) Stacie and Eden discuss the beauty and pain in marriage, highlighting the growth and beauty that can come from enduring the challenges.

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Part two! The conversation continues with Eden interviewing Stacie about her extraordinary marriage journey, which includes marrying her husband twice. Stacie shares the emotional turmoil of her separation and divorce, her deepening faith, and the transformative power of prayer. She recounts a pivotal moment of surrender to God's will, leading to personal growth and resilience. The conversation highlights themes of faith, personal transformation, and the importance of embracing life’s challenges. Stacie's story serves as an inspiring testament to the strength found in surrender and the journey toward healing.

What is Discussed:

Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00)Eden welcomes listeners back for Part 2 of Stacie's Marriage Story picking up where they left off last week.

Unraveling of the Marriage (00:01:08)Stacie shares the chaos and emotional turmoil surrounding her marriage and subsequent move back to her parents' house.

The Beginning of the Breaking (00:02:26)Stacie reflects on the shocking realization of her life's unraveling despite her efforts for perfection.

Living in Purgatory (00:03:10)Stacie describes her confusing state of being married yet living a single life during the separation.

Surrendering to God's Will (00:04:24)Stacie discusses her journey of surrendering control and embracing God's plan for her life.

A Pivotal Moment in Church (00:05:43)During a church service, Stacie receives a powerful message about letting go of control over her situation.

The Revelation of God's Plan (00:09:31)Stacie shares a divine message she received, emphasizing the importance of God's timing in her marriage.

Divorce and Its Aftermath (00:11:16)Stacie discusses her decision to get divorced and the unexpected feelings of depression that followed.

A Trip to the Caribbean (00:12:16)Seeking clarity, Stacie takes a solo trip to the Caribbean, determined to find guidance from God.

Daily Prayers for Her Ex-Husband (00:13:24)Stacie reveals her challenge to pray daily for her ex-husband, leading to profound realizations about grace and worthiness.

The Power of Prayer (00:16:16)Stacie discusses her transformation into a prayer warrior and the importance of prayer in her journey.

Divine Timing (00:17:15)Stacie shares her realization about God's timing regarding her interactions with her husband.

Dinner Invitation (00:18:02)Stacie reflects on her decision to go to dinner with her husband and the encouragement she received.

Confronting Fear (00:18:52)She talks about overcoming her fears of revealing her prayers and waiting for God's restoration.

Struggles with Mental Health (00:19:47)Stacie opens up about her past battles with depression and suicidal thoughts.

Marriage Restoration Journey (00:20:53)Discussion about the process of being remarried, including guidance from their pastor.

Challenges in Marriage (00:22:04)Stacie reflects on the unexpected difficulties faced after their remarriage.

Passion for Marriage (00:24:20)Stacie expresses her belief in the importance of strong marriages for society.

Navigating Divorce (00:25:30)She shares her perspective on divorce as a necessary option when needed.

Rising Again (00:28:36)Stacie discusses the meaning of her name and how it reflects her journey of resilience.

Impact of Personal Experience (00:30:19)Eden acknowledges the beauty that emerged from Stacie's struggles and her passion for helping others.

Future Conversations (00:32:45)Eden hints at the possibility of a...

Stacie and Eden dive deep into a topic that hits close to home for many of us: the sneaky feeling of not quite measuring up, also known as imposter syndrome. You know, that nagging doubt that tells you you're not good enough or that you're going to be 'found out' as a fraud? Yeah, that one. They share their own raw and relatable experiences of wrestling with these feelings of self-doubt. They're not afraid to get real about how it's affected them and the toll it can take, especially on women and young girls who are trying to find their place in the world. Stacie recounts a pivotal moment of insight from Sheryl Sandberg's "Lean In," leading her to visualize imposter syndrome as a manageable passenger in life's journey. Eden offers a scientific perspective, encouraging listeners to reframe imposter syndrome as a natural response. Together, they lay out some solid, actionable strategies to help us all kick self-doubt to the curb. They talk about the power of picturing yourself succeeding and how stepping out of your comfort zone is like exercise for your confidence muscles.

And the best part? They're inviting all of us to come along for the ride. They're not just talking the talk; they're walking the walk, and they want us to stride right alongside them. So, if you're ready to turn that doubt into something that propels you forward, to push you towards your true destiny, then you won't want to miss this episode. Tune in, get inspired, and let's all move from doubt to destiny together.

What Is Discussed:

Defining Imposter Syndrome (00:01:15) Stacie and Eden discuss their understanding and personal experiences of imposter syndrome.

Statistics and Worthiness (00:06:21) Discussion of statistics related to imposter syndrome and its connection to worthiness.

Transformative Thoughts (00:09:07) Stacie shares her transformative thoughts on dealing with imposter syndrome, including insights from Sheryl Sandberg's book "Lean In".

Reframing and Understanding (00:15:31) Eden discusses reframing imposter syndrome and understanding the science behind the mind's reactions.

Reframing Imposter Syndrome (00:16:22) Discussion on the concept of imposter syndrome and reframing it as a survival mechanism and embracing discomfort.

Embracing Discomfort (00:17:27) Recognizing discomfort as a positive feeling indicating growth and the importance of leaning into fear.

Dreaming Big (00:20:22) Encouragement to dream big and embrace imposter syndrome as a sign of pushing oneself beyond comfort.

Positive Reframing (00:27:30) Exploring the idea of reframing imposter syndrome in a positive light and seeking a new, positive term for it.

Development Path (00:28:48) Using the seven D words to map out a journey from doubt to destiny, illustrated through personal examples.

Entrepreneurial Doubt (00:30:42) A personal experience of doubt and emotional struggle when starting a new business venture.

Unspoken Dream (00:32:12) The internal struggle and doubt surrounding an unspoken dream, and the fear of expressing it to others.

The discernment process (00:32:21) Discussion about recognizing inner knowing and discernment in making life decisions.

Dreaming and visualizing destiny (00:33:37) Exploring the process of dreaming and visualizing the desired destiny, including creating mind maps and visual plans.

Taking action and pursuing goals (00:34:41) Transitioning from dreaming to taking action, including exploring coaching programs and pursuing certifications.

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