This is a very special episode. It's the first female guest on the show! And she is my mom!!!

She talks about raising 3 boys through puberty, the recent death of a lover of hers (Leo), and her practice of deeply loving and accepting men by being abundantly boundaried and having appropriate expectations.

I share two songs "Didn't your momma" and "I'm never enough" a tribute to Leo.

I share both the deep gratitude and grief of having a mother raise me through puberty when really what I needed (looking back) was male mentorship and community.

In this episode we explore the hidden burdens that men carry beneath the surface of privilege. Luis Mojica (holisticlifenavigation.com) and I dive into the roots of male addiction—how the dysphoria and dysregulation of puberty can create longings that later show up in sex, food, substances, and digital habits.

We unpack the ways relationships can become entangled with these addictive patterns, the confusion between passion and dysregulation. Safety, presence, and integration—especially in what I call “second puberty”—emerge as the truest markers of growth, healing, and love.

The conversation also explores the oppressive expectations men inherit, the pressure to always have capacity, and the collective weight men carry in both body and psyche.

In this episode, Drew Hornbein (dddrew.com) and I open up about bisexuality, early sexual exploration, the ways men crave touch, and how intimacy between men often gets tangled with shame. We talk about cuddling in public, breaking down barriers of male closeness, and how even video games can become a space for trust and rites of passage.

Drew shares about his creation of Dark Moon Tarot, the grief of losing his best friend Ainslee, and the impact of growing up without male mentors. Together, we reflect on expression, suppression, and what it takes to reimagine male intimacy in a culture that leaves men lonely.

We share our vision for a men’s Reevaluation Counseling group — a rolodex of brothers willing to witness and be witnessed in raw, messy expression. A sacred space for men to co-regulate, discharge emotions, and reclaim the power of being fully seen. If you feel called, reach out to be part of this experiment in sacred masculine witnessing.