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From Betrayal To Breakthrough

From Betrayal To Breakthrough

著者： Dr. Debi Silber
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 The betrayal of a family member, partner, friend, etc. can create physical, mental and emotional challenges. If left unhealed, it impacts us personally and professionally. The From Betrayal to Breakthrough podcast shares insights from the best therapists, coaches, healers, thought leaders and everyday people, combined with the findings of a recent Ph.D. study on betrayal to help you move forward and heal...once and for all.Debi Silber ©2025 個人的成功 心理学 心理学・心の健康 自己啓発 衛生・健康的な生活
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  • 447: Why All Trauma Is Betrayal: The Hidden Truth Behind the ACE Study

    447: Why All Trauma Is Betrayal: The Hidden Truth Behind the ACE Study
    2025/11/10
    In this powerful episode, we welcome Dr. Alman, co-creator of the groundbreaking ACE (Adverse Childhood Experiences) study, to discuss trauma, betrayal, and the path to healing. Dr. Alman shares insights from decades of work with Kaiser Permanente and explains why all trauma contains elements of betrayal. Key Topics Discussed The Origins of the ACE Study How the study began through Kaiser Permanente's weight loss program Dr. Alman's work with patients trying to lose 50-200+ pounds The surprising discovery that successful weight loss patients were gaining weight back Collaboration with Dr. Felitti and Dr. Robert Anda to develop the 10 core questions Understanding Trauma and Betrayal Core principle: All trauma is betrayal - it involves people we trusted who didn't have our backs Trauma comes from family members, partners, friends, grandparents, or anyone we depended on The weight-protection mechanism: How people use weight to protect themselves from harm The 10 Core ACE Questions (and Beyond) The original 10 questions identify the most common childhood traumas Sexual abuse: Found in close to 60% of women in the weight loss program Neglect: Particularly common among men whose fathers were absent or overworked The list is not exhaustive - many other traumas exist The 11th and 12th Questions-important inclusions to access additional information The Inner Critic Problem The perfectionist inner judge that becomes a "lifetime member" of your psyche How childhood conditioning creates an inner critic that fights with our emotions The futility of trying to eliminate the inner critic Why therapy alone often isn't enough to resolve this internal conflict Coping Mechanisms and Addiction The dosage principle: Like aspirin, coping mechanisms are about dosage - some is helpful, too much is harmful Common coping strategies: food, work, exercise, drugs, alcohol High achievers and entrepreneurs often use success as a distraction The driven CEO who feels "empty and betrayed on the inside" How seemingly "healthy" distractions like work and exercise can mask deeper issues The Path to Healing The Three-Step Process: Awareness - Answer the 12 ACE questions Bridge-building - Awareness alone isn't enough; you must build bridges, not walls Root cause healing - Access your inner wisdom beneath the trauma Key Principles: Your emotions are bridges, not obstacles Your inner critic can be worked with, not eliminated Everyone has inner wisdom - "the gold underneath all that lead" Healing requires going deeper than emotions, judgment, and childhood conditioning The goal is to utilize your trauma and betrayal as tools for growth Featured Resource Enlight App - Developed by Dr. Alman and Dr. Felitti to help people connect with their inner wisdom daily, utilizing emotions, judgments, and childhood experiences as tools for healing rather than obstacles to overcome. Key Takeaways The ACE study has reached 100 countries and millions of people worldwide 20% of people use 80% of healthcare services, often due to unresolved trauma Trauma manifests in physical symptoms: stomach aches, back pain, weight issues, autoimmune illnesses, migraines, depression, and anxiety Everyone's trauma experience is unique, even when ACE scores are similar Healing isn't about getting rid of parts of yourself - it's about integration and working with all aspects of who you are You can't "get rid" of your inner critic any more than you can remove the rings from a tree The path forward involves accepting, reassuring, and connecting with all parts of yourself Notable Quotes "All trauma is betrayal, because it's people we trusted, people we hoped would have our back, would take care of us." "Awareness is great. It's a bridge, but it's not enough." "The inner critic has a lifetime membership - you might as well learn how to work with it." "Everybody has inner wisdom. It's probably real deep, deeper than you've ever gone, deeper than your emotions, deeper than your judge, deeper than your perfectionist." "Two aspirin will help you, 100 will kill you. Same thing with coping mechanisms - it's all about dosage." Connect with Dr. Alman Download the Enlight
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    42 分
  • 446: Addiction and Betrayal: Breaking the Cycle of Enabling, Denial, and Despair

    446: Addiction and Betrayal: Breaking the Cycle of Enabling, Denial, and Despair
    2025/11/03
    In this deeply insightful episode, Dr. Debi Silber sits down with addiction expert Amber Hollingsworth to explore the complex intersection between betrayal and addiction—and the impact it has on partners, families, and loved ones. Amber, who grew up in a family affected by addiction and went on to dedicate her career to helping families heal, shares raw and eye-opening truths about how addiction patterns form, why partners often become "the villain" in the addicted person's story, and how to strategically navigate the balance between compassion and boundaries without losing yourself in the process. Together, Debi and Amber unpack how betrayal shows up through addiction—whether it's substances, behaviors, or emotional disconnection—and what it takes to stop enabling, break the cycle, and create the conditions for real recovery. 🧩 Key Topics Covered: Amber's personal story of growing up in an addicted family and how it shaped her life's work. The hidden connection between betrayal trauma and addiction—and why family members often carry the deepest wounds. Why partners of addicts often become "the villain" in the story and how to reverse that dynamic. The psychology of enabling—and how to stop protecting your loved one from the consequences they need to face. The painful balance between love and accountability: how to let them fall without losing yourself. What it really means to "hit bottom" (and why you don't have to wait for it). How empathy, not anger, activates the brain's learning center and creates the possibility of change. How to stay grounded, maintain your boundaries, and heal your own betrayal trauma—even while someone you love is still struggling. The difference between fast-track addictions (like cocaine) and slow-burn addictions (like alcohol or marijuana), and how each impacts relationships differently. How "trickle truths" and hidden addictions re-traumatize betrayed partners over time. Why self-care and detachment aren't selfish—they're essential for clarity, health, and long-term healing. 🧠 Key Insights: "When you grow up around addiction, rebellion sometimes looks like choosing to live differently." "You're not powerless. You can't control your loved one, but you can influence the system they're in." "When you stop being the villain in their story, the world becomes the mirror that shows them the truth." "Empathy activates learning. Anger activates defense." "Every time you protect someone from their consequences, you're protecting them from their transformation." 💬 Memorable Quotes: "Self-pity and resentment are how addiction lives. Until that dynamic changes, recovery can't begin." — Amber Hollingsworth "We can't build anything stable on a cracked foundation of deception. Every 'trickle truth' is another trauma." — Dr. Debi Silber "You don't have to wait until someone hits bottom. They can put the shovel down at any time." — Amber Hollingsworth 🔧 Practical Takeaways: Stop enabling — Let natural consequences teach what words cannot. Stay in your lane — You're responsible for your peace, not their choices. Lead with empathy — It's the only tone that keeps the door open for change. Don't hide behind "helping" — Over-functioning feeds denial. Focus on your stage of healing — Take care of yourself before you decide what's next. 🌿 About Amber Hollingsworth: Amber Hollingsworth is a master addiction counselor, family recovery specialist, and founder of the YouTube channel Put the Shovel Down, where she educates families on how to break the patterns of enabling and codependency that keep addiction alive. Drawing from her own lived experience in an addicted family and decades of clinical practice, Amber brings clarity, compassion, and concrete strategies for real change. 👉 Watch Amber's videos: Put the Shovel Down on YouTube 🎧 Listen to This Episode If… You've been betrayed by someone struggling with addiction. You're trying to help a loved one but feel stuck, angry, or powerless. You're tired of living in cycles of hope and disappointment. You want to understand how to support someone in recovery without losing yourself. Resources & links The PBT Institute — programs, coaches, community: https://thepbtinstitute.com/ Corporate/HR offerings & talks: https://thepbtinstitute.com/corporate Work with Dr. Debi and her amazing PBT Coaches: https://thepbtinstitute.com/transform/
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    35 分
  • 445: When Unhealed Betrayal Follows You to Work

    445: When Unhealed Betrayal Follows You to Work
    2025/10/27
    In this solo episode, Dr. Debi shares 11 anonymized, real-world scenarios showing how unhealed betrayal quietly derails performance, leadership, health, and culture at work. From weight changes and gut issues to micromanagement, perfectionism, disengagement, and self-betrayal, you'll see how a personal rupture (even years old) can surface on the job—and what to do about it. You'll also hear research-backed prevalence stats (weight, gut, sleep) and a clear invitation to move from Stages 2–3 (shock and survival) into Stages 4–5 (healing and growth). Who this episode is for Professionals, leaders, and founders who feel "off" at work and can't trace why HR/people leaders noticing unexplained dips in performance, morale, or collaboration Anyone who suspects an earlier betrayal might still be shaping today's choices, health, and capacity Key concepts & signals Betrayal shows up at work physically (weight, gut, sleep), mentally (focus, overthinking), emotionally (hypervigilance, distrust). Nervous system hijack: After broken trust, people often swing to micromanagement, second-guessing, isolation, or over-preparation. Stages matter: Creativity, confidence, and connection typically reliably return as you move into Stages 4–5 of the 5-Stage model. Research snapshots (from Debi's community data): Weight/eating struggles: ~47% Gut issues (IBS/Crohn's/constipation/diarrhea): ~45% Sleep problems: ~68% Case snapshots (anonymized) Sarah — Weight & confidence spiral Discovery of husband + best friend affair → stress eating → +40 lbs, pre-diabetes, energy crash. Missed two promotions; client-facing confidence plummeted. Marcus — Gut & career derailment Brother's $50k "investment" betrayal (borrowed from 401k) → nausea → IBS, 30 missed days in 6 months, $12k out-of-pocket care → transfer to lower-paying support role. Jennifer — From empowering to micromanaging Daughter's addiction/deceit eroded trust → hypervigilance, excessive approvals, morale drop → $30k demotion. David — Cultural catalyst to clock-watcher Father covertly rewrote will for estranged sister → emotional numbness → stopped mentoring/initiatives → ~25% drop in departmental satisfaction. Lisa — Anxiety, over-prep, stalled growth Fiancé + maid of honor affair weeks before wedding → panic in meetings, medical leave, therapy costs → over-preparation and hesitation → lost Senior Manager promotion. Tom — Creativity collapse Close friend's emotional affair with his partner during family caregiving → withdrew creative risk-taking → lost edge in pitches → 3 major accounts (~$2M) missed. Rachel — Sleepless CEO Sister's manipulation of elderly mother & finances → insomnia, ruminations → poorer board-level decisions, investor strain, performance dip; sleep meds added side-effects. Kevin — Isolation after double betrayal Wife left for best friend → withdrew from people, closed-door leadership → cross-functional effectiveness down ~40%; silos and delays multiplied. Maria — Paralysis by over-analysis Business + romantic partner embezzled to fund secret life → hyper-checking, documentation glut → missed time-sensitive opportunities; costly lost trading advantage. Robert — Purpose lost, pipeline thins Adult son (aided by brother) sued him for "emotional damages" → quit mentoring/junior development → leadership pipeline weakened; burnout → early retirement. Andrea (self-betrayal) — Successful but misaligned Pressured away from teaching into law → chronic fatigue, migraines, disengagement, ~30% billable drop, ~$800k lost potential revenue → leave of absence. The cost wasn't only professional—it was existential. How to spot it (self-check) "I don't recognize how I lead or work anymore." (micromanaging, over-prepping, perfectionism) "My body is louder than my calendar." (gut flares, migraines, insomnia before big decisions) "I'm here but not really here." (numbness, disengagement, loss of initiative/mentoring) "I don't trust my read on people." (multiple confirmations for simple tasks, second-guessing) "I'm productive—but always late." (hyper-vigilant thoroughness that kills timeliness) "I'm successful—and empty." (self-betrayal: achievement without meaning) Try this: 6 reflection prompts Which case felt uncomfortably familiar—and why? Where does betrayal show up most for you: body, mind, or relationships at work? What do you over-do (control, analyze, isolate) to feel safer—and what does it cost? Which responsibility did you stop (mentoring, initiating, pitching) after the rupture? What would "Stage 4–5 me" do differently this week? If self-betrayal is the theme, what small act of alignment could you take in 72 hours?...
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    21 分
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