You can’t swipe your way into secure love if your nervous system is stuck in survival mode.

This week, I’m getting real about what happened when I was forced to slow down — and what it revealed about my own patterns around productivity, self-worth, and why "resting" in life or taking a break from dating can feel so damn triggering… especially if you’re someone who’s always doing the most.

We’re talking about:

• The sneaky ways hustle culture shows up in your dating life
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• What happens when your nervous system doesn’t know how to flow (hello, overthinking every text)
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• Why taking a break from dating might actually speed up your timeline
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• The subconscious fears that surface when you finally pause
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• And the most magnetic energy you can bring into your love life right now

If you’ve been feeling burnt out, anxious, or like love is taking too long to arrive — this episode is for you.

RATE & REVIEW!! If this episode resonated, leave a review or share it with someone who needs to hear this reminder today. And if you’re taking a dating break, DM me on Instagram @shondahowardlove — I wanna hear about it 💗

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What if your greatest heartbreak could become your most powerful transformation?

In this raw conversation, I sit down with my dear friend Meagan Norris – former lawyer turned life and divorce coach who revolutionized her entire life after her divorce. She shares how she left a marriage that looked perfect on paper but felt deeply wrong in her body, and transformed that pain into purpose.

But this isn't just a divorce story. It's a masterclass in the exact emotional alchemy required to find extraordinary love at any age.

Meagan reveals how the same skills that helped her create a peaceful divorce against all odds – managing emotions, validating herself, and focusing relentlessly on her vision – are precisely what create magnetic attraction in dating. Her journey illuminates why so many women struggle to find authentic partnership when they're unconsciously outsourcing their worth to potential partners.

Whether you're healing from heartbreak, stuck in situationships, or simply ready to call in a deeper love, Megan's wisdom offers the roadmap to becoming the woman who naturally attracts what she desires – by becoming complete in herself first.

In This Episode You'll Discover:

• The subtle red flags your body recognizes before your mind catches up
• How to stop "leaking energy" through validation-seeking behaviors that repel healthy partners
• The counterintuitive practice of using your anxiety as "sacred fuel" instead of a problem to solve
• Why becoming a match for extraordinary love requires radical self-leadership
• The exact process for trusting your timeline instead of forcing relationships out of fear
• How to distinguish between genuine change and temporary appeasement in partners
• The transformational mantra: "I hate this, and that's okay" – and why it's more powerful than toxic positivity
• Why Megan is intentionally not dating yet – and the wisdom in deliberate seasons of being single

About Meagan Norris: Meagan is a single mom to three children who transformed her life through radical self-responsibility. After leaving her law career in 2010, she discovered life coaching in 2019, which gave her the tools to navigate her divorce with unprecedented speed and grace. Now, she helps women rewrite their divorce stories through her signature programs: The Divorce Accelerator and Beyond Divorce membership.

Connect with Megan: Follow Meagan and learn more about working with her on Instagram: @MeganNorrisCoaching

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In today’s episode, I’m sharing a juicy story from my single days—when I unintentionally created a dating challenge that completely changed how I showed up in love. Spoiler: I didn’t meet my husband during the challenge, but it was one of the biggest shifts that helped me become magnetic and emotionally grounded in dating.

You'll learn:

• Why anxious energy is repelling the exact type of man you want
• The surprisingly simple tweak that made dating way more fun (and way less stressful)
• How a silly little spreadsheet helped me stop obsessing over “is he the one?”
• What magnetic energy actually looks like—and how to access it without faking confidence
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This episode is for you if:

✨ You’re tired of dating feeling like a chore

✨ You keep overthinking every text, glance, or comment from the guy

✨ You want to feel confident, grounded, and have fun while dating

Let’s connect:

DM me on Instagram @shondahowardlove or email me at shonda@shondahoward.com and tell me your biggest dating energy block—I’d love to help.

Want expert guidance on your love life? Book a free call to explore working with me right here!

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