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Is there a man in your head you measure every new guy against?

You've got one. I know you do. Maybe he's the one who got away. Maybe he was terrible, but the chemistry was undeniable. Maybe he passed away. Either way, he's still living in your head rent-free.

In this episode, I talk about the three kinds of exes we compare new men to, and why none of them is a fair fight.

In this episode:

• The one who got away, and the highlight reel you keep replaying
• The one who was a disaster, and why that chemistry can trigger limerence
• The one who passed away, and why you're allowed to love him forever
• Why comparisons start before you even decide to make them
• How to put your past in the right place so someone new has room

The question worth sitting with: would the man in your head have survived as long as the one in person?

"Loving him and wanting someone new is not a competition. They can both be true at the same time."

Are you ready for love? Take my free quiz and find out.

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This is my very favorite thing to want to shake people over when they're dating again. Stop texting and meet them already.

So many women believe that if they text long enough, they'll finally feel comfortable meeting him. But you don't get to know somebody over text. You get to see the pretty picture he's trying to draw for you.

You've been messaging for six weeks and you feel like you know him?

You don't. You just don't.

In this episode, I talk about:

• Why texting feels safe but keeps you stuck
• How you end up "building" a man in your head, filling every gap with what you hope is there
• Why the chemistry may not survive meeting in person (and why the reverse is just as common)
• Why extended messaging is mostly avoidance wearing a better outfit
• My two-week rule, and what it means when you can't get to coffee in that time
• How to spot when "he" might actually be a scammer
• How meeting in person stops the limerence and the fantasizing

If you've never been in a room with him, are you really dating him?

Be brave. Decide to meet within the next two weeks, or let him go. Make it a public place, keep it to an hour, and tell people where you'll be and when you'll be back.

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Are you checking your phone 40 times a day? Re-reading his last message, trying to figure out what he really meant? Building a whole future out of three dates?

That's not love. It's limerence.

In this episode, I explain what limerence is, the signs to watch for, and why it can feel so much bigger than it really is.

In this episode:

• What limerence means and why it's so often mistaken for love
• The signs: intrusive thoughts, over-analyzing everything he says, and a mood that depends on whether he's in contact
• Fantasizing about a future with someone you barely know
• The physical symptoms, like your stomach dropping when the phone rings
• Why limerence runs hottest when the other person is inconsistent
• How uncertainty keeps the intensity burning
• Why a steady, available man can feel like the "lesser" choice
• What real love feels like by comparison

The intensity you're feeling is not proof that he's the one. It may only mean he's unpredictable.

Real love is steadier. It's calmer. You're not wondering, you're not analyzing, and you're not having to build a case.

So the next time it feels enormous, ask yourself: Is this intensity about him, or is it not knowing where I stand?

How ready are you to find real, lasting love? Take my free quiz. It takes less than two minutes.

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