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Simply Irresistible returns July 14, and in this episode Diane pulls back the curtain on what the program really is and who it's for.

After dating from 16 to 58, Diane learned that no amount of advice or tactics worked until she cleared out what was actually keeping love away. She shares the story of the New Year's Eve she heard a voice tell her to get engaged in 2018 and to post a Craigslist ad, the ad that drew 300 responses overnight, and the man at the end of that list she married 365 days later. The difference wasn't the ad. It was the work she'd done to prepare her body to finally let love in and let it stay.

That's the heart of Simply Irresistible. The program starts with capacity and nervous system regulation, the reasons your body resists love even when you know exactly what you want, then moves into patterns, and finally the practical tactics that only land once the internal blocks are gone.

In this episode:

• Why tactics alone never worked, and what has to come first
• The real reason accomplished women keep meeting "the same guy in a different outfit"
• Who the program is for: accomplished women over 50, always-single, divorced, or widowed, who've done some of the work and are ready to go deeper
• Who it's not for, said with zero blame, including why "the problem is all men" is the most powerless place to stand
• Why this is intimate, small-group work, and why you're not alone in it
• An honest note: if you've experienced sexual assault, especially young, Diane recommends working with a trauma therapist first

Ready to talk about whether it's your next step? Book a Love Audit at dianebrandonmoody.com/love-audit

P.S. The last free Dating Safely & Scam-Free event of the year is Thursday, June 25 at 7 p.m. Central. Register at dianebrandonmoody.com/safety

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Online dating has the lowest barrier of any way to meet someone, which is exactly why it works AND exactly why it can try the patience of a saint. Everyone is in the pool, from the woman whose standards have quietly become a moat to the man who puts in one quarter and expects a jackpot. And yet, by the last numbers I saw, around 40% of couples now meet online. The channel delivers. In this episode I walk you through how to navigate it without burning out: starting with your nervous system instead of your profile, loosening the requirements that quietly shrink your pool, moving things off the screen before you lose a month to texting, and keeping your brain engaged while you let yourself feel the spark. I also cover the doors that have nothing to do with an app, including meeting people in person, getting set up through friends, and noticing the good men already moving through your everyday life.

Before you go, a reminder. My free Dating Safely & Scam-Free session is Thursday, June 25 at 7 p.m. Central, live on Zoom. This is the last time I am doing it on Zoom this year, so if you have been meaning to come, this is your moment. You will walk away knowing how to protect your heart, your money, and your physical safety while you date with confidence. Save your spot at www.dianebrandonmoody.com/safety.

And if you saw yourself in this episode, the woman with the mile-long list, or the one who has been quietly telling everyone, including herself, that she is perfectly fine on her own, there is a deeper conversation worth having. Those are protective patterns, and once you can see them, you can begin to expand past them. Book a Love Audit at www.dianebrandonmoody.com/love-audit and we will look at what has actually been in the way, and talk about Simply Irresistible, my program for accomplished women over 50, which begins in July.

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If you've been single for a while and you've got some money to spend, a matchmaker can start to look awfully tempting. Someone else does the work. Someone else vets the men. Someone else hands you a curated list of possibilities while you sit back and wait for love to be delivered. I understand the appeal. But before you send that Venmo, there's something you need to hear, and it might surprise you coming from a dating coach.

I have nothing against matchmakers. The good ones are skilled, ethical, and worth every penny for the right woman. But here's the truth I've watched play out over and over: if you haven't dealt with the reasons you're still single, you can spend $25,000 on the best matchmaker in the country and end up exactly where you started. Different men, same outcome. Because no matchmaker can change what happens in your body or mind when a good man finally gets close.

In this episode, I break down the real difference between matchmaking and coaching, why one finds you introductions and the other makes you ready to receive them, and how to know which one you actually need right now. By the end, you might realize the smartest money you can spend isn't on finding more men. It's on becoming the woman who can keep the right one.

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Join me on May 21st at 7 p.m. central for an hour long program called Dating Safely & Scam-Free. Sign up here: dianebrandonmoody.com/safety

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Diane Brandon Moody: I was Ruthied by two very nice and fun guys in 1982.

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Diane Brandon Moody: This is the story.

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Diane Brandon Moody: My college roommate and I were celebrating our birthdays. We both have the same first name, and we had the same birthday.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Who knew?

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Diane Brandon Moody: Anyway, we were living in Denton, Texas. We were going to UNT and lived in the dorms, or at least I did, and we went out for our birthday in Dallas. Now, there was a Binnegan's at the corner of

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Diane Brandon Moody: 1… I-35 and Walnut Hill Road.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And at the time, this particular Bennegan's was really more of a singles place. It had a great bar, a lot of fun, a lot of people that were our age, and we were enjoying going to that.

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Diane Brandon Moody: We did it before a few times. But anyway, this was our birthday, and so we were celebrating. I don't remember what she had to drink, but my drink was a white wine spritzer.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Don't sue me, it was the 80s, everybody drank wine spritzers.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So anyway, we were having our cocktail, and these two very nice, very good-looking, very funny guys came and joined us, and so we were sitting and chatting and laughing and having a good time flirting was happening.

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Diane Brandon Moody: All of us with each other, we were having a great time. And they said, hey, we're gonna go get y'all a drink, how about a kamikaze?

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Diane Brandon Moody: I had no idea what a kamikaze was, but I said, sure, let's do it. And so, he… happy birthday, and they came back with the kamikazes, and we drank them.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So, I was the life of the party. I was laughing, I was having a good time, kept talking, and all of a sudden, I started feeling really drunk. Now, one white wine spritzer, and

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Diane Brandon Moody: one kamikaze Within the span of 2 hours, there's about 2 hours there.

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Diane Brandon Moody: would not make somebody really drunk, but it did me, and I was a little confused by that, and then suddenly I started feeling, like, super drunk, like I could barely walk.

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Diane Brandon Moody: And I mean, I was life of the party one second, the next second, I was like, oh my god, I gotta… I gotta go to the bathroom. So I went to the bathroom.

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Diane Brandon Moody: Because, a little bit later, my roommate came in, and she was going, hey, are you okay?

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Diane Brandon Moody: And I said, I don't, I don't feel so good. And she said, you've been in here 25 minutes. And I said, no, I haven't, I just got here. And she goes, no, you've been in here 25 minutes. So apparently, I passed out, standing up, leaning against the wall in the ladies' room, facing the toilet.

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Diane Brandon Moody: So anyway, she said, maybe it's time for us to go home, and I was like, oh, I mean, I don't remember much about that time frame, but I remember just being kind of…

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If the CNN news about the online membership (made up of the biggest scumbags alive) scared you, I get it.

If you lost money to a scammer, you aren't alone. Americans lost $1.4 BILLION to romance scams ($10 billion if you count all the reported scams, not just romance) in 2024.

If you want to be with me LIVE during my updated class on Thursday, April 30th at 7:00 p.m. central time, I'll be going over all that and give you solid ways to avoid losing money or being terrified of every guy.

There ARE good guys in the world. I'm married to one. I want to make sure you find your own good guy.

I hope to see you there - sign up at https://www.dianebrandonmoody.com/safety

If you'd like to hear the full Freakonomics podcast episode on scams:

I'm not sharing the CNN story. It's too gross. But I'm very glad they did it. Cheers to a free press.

Please share this episode with your friends, your sisters, your mothers, your daughters and also share with the good men in your lives. They need to hear it.

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Season 4 of Love on the Spectrum just dropped on Netflix, and I watched the whole thing in one sitting. In this episode, I share five things every dater can learn from the autistic adults on this show, from their courage to their honesty to their refusal to play games. I also talk about the show's coach Jennifer Cook, who said something about her coaching philosophy that because it's exactly what I believe. Full disclosure: I have almost no personal experience with autism and I say so upfront. If you're in the autism community and I got something wrong, I want to hear from you at info@dianebrandonmoody.com.

Next week: I'm diving into the world of romance scams. I recently listened to a Freakonomics Radio episode that made my blood boil, and I have a lot to say about how scammers target women over 50 and what you can do to protect yourself. You won't want to miss it.

If this episode resonated with you, grab my free guide, The 7 Dating Patterns Smart Women Don't Realize They're Running, at https://www.dianebrandonmoody.com

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This week I saw Louis Theroux's new documentary on Netflix called "Inside the Manosphere."

It's creepy, and yet important for every man and woman to watch so they know what's going on in male-female dynamics, especially among younger men.

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