Episode 127

Sex after 40 can change so fast it feels like someone swapped your body overnight and nobody thought to mention it. We’re talking candidly about libido loss in perimenopause and menopause, sparked by a friend who asked us the question so many women whisper to themselves: “Is something wrong with me?” She loves her husband, she’s happy in her relationship, and yet she doesn’t want sex anymore, plus everything feels dry, sore, and exhausting. That single admission opened the floodgates for what we’ve heard again and again from women in their 40s, 50s and 60s.

We dig into the real-world reasons desire can disappear, from changing hormones (including the often-ignored role of testosterone) to sleep disruption, stress, and the relentless mental load that makes intimacy feel like one more task. We also unpack the emotional fallout on both sides: men reading “no sex” as rejection, women fearing they’re broken, and couples getting stuck in a cycle where even a cuddle feels like it comes with pressure. Along the way we talk about the unglamorous bits that matter: vaginal dryness, discomfort, continence worries, changing confidence, and why “just do it” advice can make things worse.

Most of all, we make space for nuance. Some women want solutions like lubricants, pessaries, HRT, or medical support, and some feel genuinely fine never having sex again. We ask what’s “normal”, what’s “okay”, and how to communicate needs without blame, duty, or shame. If this topic has been sitting between you and your partner, or if you’ve felt alone in it, come and talk with us in the community.

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Episode 127: "I Could Never Do That"... Or Could You? With Ursula Goode

A poster that says “Adult Gymnastics Classes Starting” sounds harmless until it hits the part of you that whispers, I could never do that. Our guest, Ursula Good, felt that exact jolt at 35, with three small children and a life that was already full. She took the leap anyway and discovered something many of us are really searching for: an hour a week that gives back energy, confidence, and headspace, not another item on the to-do list.

Ursula is a dentist, a sea swimmer, a runner, a competitive adult gymnast, and a mum of four, but what makes this chat land is how human it is. We talk about movement as play, how self-consciousness creeps in after puberty and again after pregnancy and through midlife, and why “wear what feels good” is not a throwaway line but a genuine barrier remover. We dig into the mental side of gymnastics, the bravery of trying new skills, and how sport forces presence in a world wired for constant multitasking.

We also go deeper on setbacks. Ursula shares what it’s like to keep going through shoulder surgery, then face a sudden knee ligament injury and the long rehab that follows. We explore resilience mindset, identity beyond performance, and how hormones, menstrual cycle changes, and menopause can affect energy, balance, coordination, and injury risk. Plus, because she’s a dentist, we connect oral health to whole-body wellness, including gum disease, inflammation, and heart health, with simple habits you can actually stick to.

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Episode 126

Three questions can change the tone of a whole week: What’s your biggest recent win? What’s your biggest recent challenge? What do you need help with? We steal the prompt from a morning listen and put it to the test in real time, with honest answers that feel like a proper catch-up rather than a performance.

We start with wins that actually move the needle, from building a “Wellbeing Wednesday” ritual with Pilates, nature and community, to choosing to stay alcohol free and noticing how often birthdays and celebrations still push drinking as the default. We talk about why self-care can feel weirdly “too luxurious”, and how connection in person hits differently to a screen, even when online classes are convenient.

Then we go into the harder stuff: menopause and perimenopause hot flushes that feel like a public announcement, the mental load of managing symptoms, and the way visibility creates stress at work and in social spaces. We also share the ongoing challenge of post-concussion after-effects that can make the world feel like it’s tilting, plus the frustration of being a “fixer” when there isn’t a neat solution. Finally, we get practical about asking for help, from home organisation and cleaning to business tech and the pain of hiring support that doesn’t deliver.

If you try the three questions with your partner, family or friends, tell us what shifts. Subscribe, share with someone who needs a nudge towards better wellbeing, and leave us a review so more women can find Far Too Fabulous.

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