If you are struggling with your child’s eating habits, mealtime battles, picky eating, or concerns about weight, this episode is for you.

In this episode of Family in Focus, I share 3 simple steps to transform your child’s relationship with food by addressing the emotional patterns and nervous system dynamics happening at home.

Because it is not just about the food. It is about the patterns.

Your child’s eating habits are shaped by stress, autonomy, family dynamics, and emotional regulation. When parents pause, get curious, and lead with connection, meaningful change becomes possible without shame, pressure, or power struggles.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Why focusing only on food often backfires
• The difference between habits and patterns
• How your nervous system impacts your child’s eating behavior
• Why regulation and connection come before behavior change
• How to build a healthier relationship with food at home

If you want to improve your child’s eating habits without control or shame, this episode gives you a practical starting point.

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If you are worried about childhood obesity, BMI percentiles, or your child’s eating habits, this episode is for you.

As a pediatrician, I see how often parents are told to focus on weight, growth charts, and body mass index, or BMI. But when we focus only on the number, we miss the deeper factors influencing your child’s health, emotional eating patterns, and relationship with food.

In this episode of Family in Focus, I explain why weight is often just the tip of the iceberg and what parents need to understand beneath the surface to support healthy and sustainable change.

So much of what we are taught to focus on is what we can see. The number on the scale. The BMI percentile. The growth chart. The food choices. When those numbers rise, it can feel urgent and scary.

But what if weight is not the root issue?

This episode explores the factors that influence child weight gain, eating habits, and overall health, including genetics, environment, hormones, social influences, and emotions.

I also share a story from my pediatric practice that changed the way I approach conversations about child weight and growth. It is a reminder that behind every number is a child navigating weight stigma, body image pressure, and emotional experiences we cannot see.

This episode is not about ignoring health. It is about understanding it more fully.

In this episode, we discuss:

Why focusing only on weight, BMI, and growth charts can cause harm

The iceberg metaphor and what influences child weight beyond food

How genetics, environment, and hormones impact eating habits

Emotional eating in kids and how feelings shape behavior

The impact of weight stigma and body image pressure on children and teens

Why connection based parenting creates healthier long term outcomes

At Family in Focus, I help parents improve their child’s eating habits and health without shame, food battles, or pressure. This episode is an invitation to slow down, get curious, and support your child’s health in a way that builds trust instead of fear.

New episodes air every Wednesday.

Join The Exhale, my newsletter for parents who want less stress around food, body image, and child weight concerns and more confidence in how they are supporting their kids.
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If you would like support putting this into practice in your home, learn more about how I work with families at:
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While I am a doctor, I am not your doctor. This podcast is for education, not medical advice.

If you are trying to help your child make changes and it feels like nothing is working, this episode is for you.

I hear it every day from parents. Food feels like a battle. Screens feel impossible to limit. Movement feels forced. And no matter how hard you try, it can start to feel like you are failing over and over again.

In this episode, I want to say this clearly. You are not failing.

What is failing is the approach that has been handed to you. The plans, prescriptions, and one size fits all advice that assumes change should happen through control and pressure. I know this because I used to practice that way too. As a pediatrician and a parent, I followed the plans exactly, both in my office and in my own home. And they did not work.

This episode is about the shift that changed everything for me.

Instead of starting with what needs to be fixed, we start with what is already working. Even when things feel hard, there is something going well. That one thing becomes stable ground. It becomes the place where trust grows and where real change can begin.

In this episode, I talk about:

-Why feeling stuck is such a common parenting experience

-How prescriptive approaches create frustration and shame

-Why starting with what is going well changes the entire conversation

-A simple practice you can use today with yourself and your child

At Family in Focus, I help parents lead change without harm. This episode is an invitation to stop proving you are not failing and start building from the strengths that are already there.

New episodes air every Wednesday.

Join The Exhale, my newsletter for parents who want less stress around food and body, and more confidence in how they are supporting their kids.
https://www.wendyschofermd.com/the-exhale

If you would like support putting this into practice in your home, you can learn more about how I work with families at https://www.wendyschofermd.com

To schedule a consult:

https://wendyschofermdscheduling.as.me/consult

Follow along and continue the conversation:

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-LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/wendy-schofer-md/

While I am a doctor, I am not your doctor. This podcast is for education, not medical advice.

Some days, parenting does not just feel hard. It feels confusing.

You are trying to do the right thing for your child, especially around food and health, but the messages are overwhelming. Eat this. Do not eat that. Worry about weight. Do not talk about weight. Move more. Stress less. Somewhere in all of that, it can start to feel like you are failing.

If that sounds familiar, you are not alone. You are in the right place.

Welcome to Family in Focus, where I help parents lead meaningful change without harm. I am Dr. Wendy Schofer, and this episode opens Season 2 by setting a different foundation for how we think about children’s health, food, and family life.

This season is not about quick fixes, control, or micromanaging your child. It is about creating change through connection, emotional awareness, and relationships, so progress does not come at the cost of trust or well-being.

In this episode, I talk about:

-Why so many parents feel stuck around food and health

-How shame and pressure quietly disrupt relationships

-Why emotions are not the problem but important signals

-How connection creates the conditions for lasting change

This episode is an invitation to slow down, exhale, and begin again.

When you are ready, Episode 2 is where we take the first step forward by starting with what is already going well.

Join The Exhale, my newsletter for parents who want less stress around food and body, and more confidence in how they are supporting their kids.
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Learn more about how I support families at:

https://www.wendyschofermd.com

Schedule a consult here:

https://wendyschofermdscheduling.as.me/consult

Follow along and continue the conversation:

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While I am a doctor, I am not your doctor. This podcast is for education, not medical advice.

Hey. I see you. I know the struggle.

Let me ask you something.

What would it mean if you didn’t feel so much pressure around your child’s eating, growth, or health?

What would it be like to stop sorting through advice that feels stressful or even harmful?

I’d like to invite you to Family in Focus, a space for parents who want to lead change without harm. We focus on connection over control, emotional health over numbers, and parent-led shifts that actually last, so families can build healthier relationships with food, body, and especially each other.

A new season begins Wednesday, February 11.
Much love. I’m so glad you’re here.

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Do you have a plan for your family's health? How's it working?

Want to throw it out? Or is it something that you hate the rules and structure of a plan?

In today's episode we talk about how to create a plan for your own family: why it's important, and what to account for. We also talk about why all those other plans haven't worked (and why there's nothing wrong with you or your family that a certain plan hasn't panned out the way you wanted).

Full show notes available here.

The upcoming LIVE Series, Family Weight Help 101 starts Monday, January 30, 2023 at 12pm ET. Sign up now to learn about the 4 pillars of establishing lifelong healthy weight habits for you and your family.

Calling all Healthcare Professionals: I'm so glad you're here, to benefit yourself, your family, and your patients. The CE experience for this Podcast is powered by CMEfy - click here to reflect and earn credits: https://earnc.me/v0IkDH

Join Family in Focus coaching now. Current offerings available here.

Weight Loss 101 for Your Whole Family: get started helping your whole family with the self-paced mini-course HERE.

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And when you're ready to start applying this in your own home, check out www.wendyschofermd.com for more information about how the Family in Focus program can help you and your family create lifelong healthy relationships with food and body, now and at every weight.

Disclaimer: While Wendy Schofer, MD discusses health and wellness, this is not medical advice and she is not your doctor. Optimal health is achieved in combination with your physician, who collaborates with you for your individual health. Talk to your doctor. And tell them about Family in Focus. Mwah!

Episode 13: One Breath - it's the start of everything:

Life

A new habit

Taking one purposeful breath has power to shift to the calm that is now. Listen to find out more.

My Go SLOW process for creating healthy habits for the whole family: get a copy at www.wendyschofermd.com

We will be breaking down the process in new editions over the coming weeks.

Also go to www.wendyschofermd.com/FIF-signup to join the next cohort of Family in Focus coaching for parents who are worried about their kids' weight. This is where we apply all of the Family in Focus principles and create a plan for YOUR family.

"My kids are always hungry!"

Sound familiar to you? So many parents note it with concern, and question, "What does this mean?"

This is the first episode in a series on hunger. We are starting with the why, the biology, and the NORMAL of hunger.

Join me next week for the next steps... how to deal with hunger and the emotions of eating.