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Tracey Bee breaks down how to turn court rulings, whether wins, losses, or partial decisions, into strategic data points you can actually use to finally move your case forward.

She explains how to read between the lines of your judge’s orders, spot behavioral patterns, and use those clues to predict future outcomes and strategically plot your next move.

Learn how to identify what your judge rewards, what language exposes their bias or reveals their mindset, and how to use their unfavorable rulings as strategic leverage in future filings.

And if you’re in Northern NJ, listen for details about upcoming in-person events and strategy session giveaways during Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

Episode timestamps

• 0:00–2:00 Intro & purpose of analyzing rulings
• 2:00–5:00 Why you must get and review every written order
• 5:00–9:00 What rulings reveal about your judge’s mindset
• 9:00–12:00 Emotional reactions vs. strategic responses
• 12:00–15:00 Reading language clues in your rulings (“cooperate,” “high conflict,” “trial recommended”)
• 15:00–18:00 How the judge perceives you vs. the other party
• 18:00–21:00 When orders are vague and why transcripts matter
• 21:00–24:00 Using rulings to detect judicial patterns and preferences
• 24:00–27:00 How to turn court intel into preemptive moves
• 27:00–29:00 Survivors, DV awareness, and regaining power in family court
• 29:00–End Closing thoughts & Domestic Violence Awareness Month call-to-action
  
  

Top takeaways (actionable)

• Always get a copy of every ruling or order. It’s your data, not just paperwork.
• Treat rulings as intel, not verdicts. They reveal patterns, biases, and the judge’s “logic system.”
• Analyze the language. Phrases like “high conflict,” “both parties must cooperate,” or “best resolved at trial” reveal the judge’s positioning and fatigue level.
• If denied, don’t react—analyze. Every denial can inform your next filing, tone, and evidence approach.
• Transcripts > Orders. Transcripts show tone, reasoning, and attitude—critical for strategy and appeals.
• Use this insight to anticipate—not react to—the court. Strategy always beats emotion.
  
  

Quick Ruling Analysis Checklist

• Get a copy of every order—never rely on memory or your attorney.
• Highlight any descriptive language (e.g., “agitated,” “cooperative,” “communication issues”).
• Note how your judge handles continuances, co

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

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Tracey Bee breaks down civil vs. criminal restraining orders as it relates to Family Court issues.

Shr also goes into things lije why requests get denied, and how to build a stronger application if you’re self‑represented or working with counsel.

Learn what judges need to see, how to present testimony, what evidence matters, and options if an order is denied

And if you're in northern NJ liste for details for a FREE in person event where she'l be guving away free gifts, free strategy sessions and prizes.

Episode timestamps

- 0:00–2:00 Intro & Domestic Violence Awareness Month

- 2:00–9:00 Civil vs. criminal orders; why each matters

- 9:00–13:00 Preparing to file: know the judge & local process

- 13:00–20:00 What to prove: incident + fear; avoid misuse

- 20:00–27:00 Best evidence & how to testify effectively

- 27:00–32:44 Next steps, NJ event (Oct 25, Jersey City) & booking strategy sessions

- 32:26 Outro

Top takeaways (actionable)

- Prepare before you file: learn local rules, know the judge, and gather admissible evidence.

- Prioritize police reports, medical records, time‑stamped photos/videos, credible witnesses, and authenticated messages.

- Speak from emotion (clear, focused narrative) not with uncontrolled emotion; presentation influences judges.

- If denied, consider alternative filings (civil vs. criminal) and use denials strategically in custody/divorce matters.

- Contact DV advocates and observe court to identify judges who handle DV requests.

Quick evidence checklist

Police report(s), medical records (source of injury), time/date-stamped photos/videos, authenticated audio/screenshots, credible witnesses, CPS records (if kids involved).

Resources & CTA

- Book a strategy session at thedivorcesolutionist.com (store → strategy sessions).

- NJ listeners: In-person DV Awareness Walk — Oct 25, Lincoln Park, Jersey City (15‑minute on‑site strategy sessions).

- Visit www.thedivorcesolutionist.com for more resources.

Support the show

Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.

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Most litigants lose in Family Court for reasons they never even see coming. In this episode, I’m breaking down the hidden blind spots that can quietly sabotage your case—even when you think it’s airtight. Whether you’re representing yourself, stuck between attorneys, or even working with that so-called “bulldog” lawyer, these blind spots show up.

We’re going to talk about tunnel vision, overconfidence, misunderstanding procedure, misjudging your specific judge, underestimating opposing counsel, and even letting your emotions run the show. I’ll show you how these traps form, and more importantly, how you can close them before they destroy your case.

You’ll also hear why pages of receipts don’t equal a strategy, how two cases that look the same on paper can require totally different approaches, and why I always say Family Court is 80% strategy and only 20% law or procedure. I’ll give you practical fixes you can start using this week—how to research your state’s procedural rules, how to read your judge’s preferences, ways to anticipate your opponent’s next move, and how to keep your emotions in check so your strategy stays sharp.

• 00:00 — Welcome + why blind spots sink even “airtight” cases
• 01:00 — Out-leveled: when judges & opponents play chess while you play checkers
• 02:05 — Why receipts, texts, and docs ≠ strategy
• 03:05 — Tunnel vision & overconfidence with “bulldog” attorneys
• 05:10 — Emotional bias & framing the wrong problem
• 06:20 — Blind Spot #1: Procedural (deadlines, discovery, judge quirks)
• 08:45 — Rules vs. reality: exceptions and courtroom variability
• 09:55 — Blind Spot #2: Opponent/Opposing Counsel (anticipation is strategy)
• 11:40 — What good lawyers should do—and when to fire one
• 12:35 — Blind Spot #3: Emotional (regulation before cognition)
• 13:40 — Blind Spot #4: Strategy (why plans flip and whiplash)
• 15:55 — How to fix procedural gaps with research & AI (the right way)
• 18:05 — Closing the Judge Gap: observation, proxies, paid intel
• 19:55 — Closing the Opponent Gap: patterns, PI-mindset, social data
• 21:00 — Closing the Emotional Gap: therapy, support, mindfulness, routine
• 22:10 — Closing the Strategy Gap with my ADVOCATE Method
• 23:20 — Why 80% of family court is strategy (and how to use that)
• 24:00 — Call to action + how to connect with me

Support the show

Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.