Not every story is meant to be told in the moment. In this episode of Divorced AF, Audrey Alice explores the question many divorced individuals hear: “Why didn’t you tell me?” Audrey unpacks the emotional complexities of divorce, friendship, and self-protection, from personal struggles to the reasons behind keeping quiet. If you’ve ever felt guilty for staying silent or struggled to support a friend through their divorce, this episode will shift your perspective and help you navigate these relationships with more compassion.

Audrey kicks off the episode with excitement, greeting listeners from around the world and reflecting on the incredible reach of Divorced AF. She shares how the shift to online platforms due to COVID-19 has reshaped business and personal connections, emphasizing the importance of adapting to new ways of working and supporting one another across time zones and borders.

Not every friendship requires full transparency. Audrey introduces the episode’s theme—"Why didn’t you tell me?"—and dives into the reasons people keep certain struggles private. Using a real-life client story, she highlights the pressure to justify life-changing decisions and explains why choosing to stay silent is sometimes an act of self-preservation.

Sharing her own experience of leaving her marital home, Audrey opens up about the hesitation to tell others. She recalls the uncertainty, the hope that things might improve, and the limited details she shared with her children and close friends. Through this reflection, she encourages listeners to give themselves grace when deciding what and when to share.

Divorce is a lonely journey, but support doesn’t have to come in the form of advice. Audrey offers guidance on how to truly be there for a friend—by listening, holding space, and resisting the urge to "fix" things. She shares a personal moment of receiving unsupportive feedback and explains how well-meaning but misplaced words can add to the isolation.

From guilt and shame to fear of judgment, Audrey breaks down the different reasons people hesitate to open up about marital struggles. She reminds listeners that a friend’s silence is never about them—it’s about the person’s need to process their own journey on their own terms. Instead of questioning why they weren’t told sooner, true friends should focus on offering understanding and unconditional support.

Being a friend through divorce isn’t about having the right words—it’s about being present without judgment. Audrey leaves listeners with an encouraging reminder: Sometimes, the greatest gift you can give someone is your presence, not your opinion. She invites listeners to reach out, share their thoughts, and continue supporting the Divorced AF community.

✨ The best way to hold space for someone is to show up without the need to fix, judge, or solve—just to be there. ✨

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