30 years ago we married the men we divorced.

Clearly that wasn't the plan, but we have been through a LOT, and we sure have learned a lot. Whether you're thinking about it, going through it or coming out of being divorced, we have lessons we've learned and want to share, so you have an easier time than we did. Plus, we have so much good going on, that it'll give you a bright light to see at the end of your tunnel!

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Are you often doing things where you're influenced by the judgments and decisions of other people? We know what that's like - especially when it comes to everything you're going through and navigating when you're getting divorced. Everyone seems to have an opinion on what you should do.

In this episode, T.H. and Jess talk about Mel Robbins' new book "The Let Them Theory," and ways to keep going on your own path, while letting everyone else stay in their own lane.

Giving up control in your divorce and from your ex is the only way to move forward. Of course, we talk about how incredibly hard that is! We always want to be loved more, cared for more and seen as the best parent - but that's the problem!

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We're starting 2025 by giving ourselves - and you! - what we're calling permission to pivot. Things change, life, kids, relationships, jobs, what makes us happy...and it's important to always listen to yourself and be true to what your guts is saying. What once worked may change, and that's ok! In this episode, T.H. talks to one of our OG exEXPERT faves, Susan Guthrie, about permission to pivot and how we're making some changes and focusing on things that bring us joy (and money!) in a different way. It's a reminder that you don't always have to stay in the same place, because life moves quickly and you have every right to take advantage of every opportunity. (Guest: Susan Guthrie, host "Turns Out" podcast, Family Law attorney & mediator).

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There is definitely a lot of change and transition when it comes to divorce, and it's never easy. but there are things you can do to make dealing with the transition days better for everyone, and in this episode we speak to an amazing guest who is a divorce coach, a mediator and a coparenting specialist! She goes through some amazing advice that we wish we had when we got divorced years ago! This one is for everyone who's divorced with kids! (Guest: Karen McNenny, Founder, The Good Divorce Coach)

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Saving yourself stress, time and money will make a big difference in your divorce process, and believe it or not, there are ways to simplify it all. In this episode, we hear all about the mission of the company Your Divorce made Simple, where they can guide you (and your ex) to a workable agreement in as little as six weeks! (Guest: Amy Colton, Founder Your Divorce made Simple and CFDA/Mediator/Wealth Advisor)

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There's a lot to consider when going through a divorce and the more prepared you are, the better. It's important to have a strategy so you can weigh all of your options with a clear head, and not get caught up in the emotional turmoil. In this episode, Amy Polacko explains how to build a divorce strategy so you can avoid mistakes and claim your independence to move forward. (Guest: Amy Polacko, Certified Coach and Divorce Specialist)

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How many women do you know that pay alimony to their husbands? Suffice it to say, it takes a strong, badass women to be in that situation, and this interview with Hello Mamas founder, Erika Hanafin, is beyond inspiring and uplifting. She is a successful entrepreneur who understands that building community and "girl-gang" support is life changing. Every woman needs to hear this episode!

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Getting through the holidays whether you're going through or have gone through divorce is something that is always evolving. The first year is very different than years down the road, but there are ways to ensure you aren't lonely (even if you're alone) and steps you can take to keep yourself happy and healthy through it all. In this episode, we talk about the things we did personally to stay on track and manage the last 15 years of holidays with and without our kids.

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