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Delight in Parenting with Dajana Yoakley

Delight in Parenting with Dajana Yoakley

著者： Empowering parents with peaceful & playful strategies to bring the delight back into parenting. 'Delight in Parenting with Dajana Yoakley' is your guide to a thriving family life.
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 Welcome to Delight in Parenting Podcast. Let's into the essence of peaceful, playful and emotionally intelligent parenting, where I share the insights, expert advice & research, and support necessary to transform your parenting approach from struggling to delighting. Say goodbye to conflict and embrace cooperation, creating a more joyful home environment. Join me as we embark on a path to deeper connection and more peace & play within our families. I'm excited to connect and share this journey with you through each episode!

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  • 71. The meltdown → defiance cycle (and what’s actually going on and how to handle it)

    71. The meltdown → defiance cycle (and what’s actually going on and how to handle it)
    2026/04/16
    What if the meltdown isn’t the problem?What if the defiance… the pushback… the shutting down…is actually your child’s nervous system asking for help?Because for so many parents, it feels like this:→ It starts small→ It escalates fast→ Suddenly you’re in a full meltdown or power struggle→ And nothing you try seems to workYou explain.You stay calm.You set a consequence.…and somehow, it just gets worse.In my latest podcast episode, I sat down with Ce Eshelman, a trauma-informed therapist, and she put words to something so many parents feel—but can’t quite explain.She calls these moments “bewildering behaviors.”Those reactions that feel confusing… intense… disproportionate.The ones where you walk away thinking:“Why did that get so big?”“Why didn’t anything work?”“What am I missing?”And the answer isn’t what most of us were taught.Here are 3 shifts from our conversation:1. It’s not defiance—it’s dysregulationWhen your child melts down, their brain is overwhelmed.They’re not choosing how to respond in that moment.They’re reacting.Which is why logic, consequences, and explanations don’t land.2. Behavior is a signal, not the problemThat meltdown? That pushback?It’s communication.Something inside your child feels too big, too fast, or too overwhelming to manage alone.3. Understanding isn’t enough in the momentEven when you get all of this…it’s still incredibly hard to know what to actually DO when it’s happening in real life.Because your nervous system gets activated too.And suddenly you’re reacting… instead of responding.🎙️ Click here to listen to the full podcast episode and hear how Ce breaks this down in a way that makes these moments finally make sense.To learn more about Ce Eshelman:https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/aboutWant more support?If you’re listening to this and thinking, “This is exactly what’s happening in my home… but I still don’t know what to do or say in the moment,” you’re not alone.I’m hosting a free workshop where I’ll walk you through exactly this—how to stay calm when your child is escalating, what to do and say in those meltdown moments, and how to shift the pattern so it stops turning into defiance and power struggles.👉 Big Feelings Challenging Behavior WorkshopYou don’t have to keep guessing your way through these moments. You’re not alone in this! Join us to get the support you need.Connect with Dajana Yoakley Delight in ParentingStep #1: Get the 3 Steps to Reset Your Nervous System FREE Guide.Step #2: Connect With The FREE Facebook Community.Step #3: Follow me on Social Media:https://www.instagram.com/delightinparenting/https://www.facebook.com/delightinparentingcoaching/www.youtube.com/@DelightinParentinghttps://www.linkedin.com/in/delightinparenting/ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit delightinparenting.substack.com/subscribe
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  • 70. Why Your Child Can’t Calm Down (And What They Actually Need Instead)

    70. Why Your Child Can’t Calm Down (And What They Actually Need Instead)
    2026/04/02

    Emilie Delworth, founder of The Peaceful Mother and a child development specialist with nearly two decades of experience working with infants, toddlers, and preschoolers, shares practical, science-backed tools for understanding why your child struggles to calm down — and what they actually need from you in those hard moments.

    Understanding Why Your Child Can’t Calm Down

    Emilie explains that most of us were raised to suppress our feelings — “stop crying,” “you’re fine,” “just get over it.” That messaging taught us to disconnect from our bodies, and many of us are now parenting from that same disconnected place without realizing it. The result? When our children fall apart, we fall apart right along with them.

    She also reframes what it means to raise a sensitive child. If your child feels things deeply and struggles to pull themselves back together, that is not a problem to fix. “To be sensitive means they’re more able to really read what’s going on for them,” Emilie says. A child who learns to process feelings — rather than suppress them — becomes more resilient, not less.

    What Your Child Actually Needs

    Emilie recommends these strategies:

    * Stay regulated yourself. Your calm nervous system is contagious. You don’t have to be perfect — just present. “As long as you, the parent, are staying regulated, your child’s nervous system is going to mirror that.”

    * Hold space without fixing. Sitting nearby, rocking them, keeping them safe — this is co-regulation, and it’s more powerful than it looks.

    * Practice the tools daily. Body-based techniques like rubbing hands together for heat, gentle vagus nerve massage under the ear, and slow tongue circles shift the nervous system out of fight-or-flight. Two to five minutes a day builds the habit before you need it in a hard moment.

    * Model it out loud. Try saying, “I’m frustrated too — I’m going to take some slow breaths. Want to join me?” Let them come to you.

    * Let the feeling move through. Emotions are meant to come in and flow out. Rushing to stop the crying short-circuits the process. Feel it, receive it, release it.

    Emilie reassures parents: “You’re kissing your kids’ boo-boos, rocking them when they’re upset, holding space when they’re sad — all of those things are really, really powerful.”

    Your child doesn’t need you to fix the meltdown. They need you to stay with them through it — and you’re already more capable of that than you know.

    Want to hear more from Emilie, including every practical tool and how to use them with even your most resistant child? Listen to the full podcast episode.

    To learn more about Emilie Berkman:

    https://www.thepeacefulmother.com

    Connect with Dajana Yoakley Delight in Parenting

    Step #1: Get the 3 Steps to Reset Your Nervous System FREE Guide.

    Step #2: Book a FREE 20 minute parent coaching consult with Dajana.Step #3: Connect With The FREE Facebook Community.Step #4: Follow me on Social Media:https://www.instagram.com/delightinparenting/https://www.facebook.com/delightinparentingcoaching/www.youtube.com/@DelightinParentinghttps://www.linkedin.com/in/delightinparenting/



    This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit delightinparenting.substack.com/subscribe
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  • 69. Teaching Siblings to Solve Their Own Conflicts

    69. Teaching Siblings to Solve Their Own Conflicts
    2026/03/12
    Sibling fights can feel endless.One minute your kids are laughing together. The next minute someone is screaming, someone is crying, and you’re being pulled in as the referee—again.Most parents assume sibling conflict is just something they have to survive until their kids grow up.But what if those daily sibling disagreements are actually one of the most powerful training grounds for your child’s social and emotional development?In this episode, I sat down with Dr. Laurie Kramer, a clinical psychologist, professor of Applied Psychology at Northeastern University, and one of the leading researchers studying sibling relationships.Dr. Kramer has spent decades studying what actually helps siblings get along—and more importantly, what helps them learn the skills to resolve conflict on their own.Her research shows that sibling fights aren’t the real problem.The real question is whether children are learning the skills underneath the conflict—things like emotional regulation, perspective-taking, and collaborative problem solving.In our conversation, Laurie shares the core competencies children can learn early in life that dramatically improve sibling relationships and reduce the need for constant parental intervention.Why Sibling Conflict Isn’t the Enemy• Siblings as a Social Training GroundWhy sibling relationships give children a safe place to practice the skills they’ll need for friendships, school, and adult relationships.• The Missing Skill Behind Most Sibling FightsWhy many conflicts start with something simple—like two kids having different ideas about how to play—and how learning to negotiate that moment can prevent escalation.• The Power of “Stop”One of the first skills Laurie teaches children: learning to pause before reacting so they can think through what’s happening instead of immediately fighting back.• Perspective-Taking and Emotional VocabularyHow expanding a child’s understanding of emotions—beyond just “mad” or “sad”—can transform the way they approach disagreements.• Helping Kids Solve Problems TogetherWhy teaching collaborative problem solving allows siblings to walk away from conflict feeling that their needs were heard instead of feeling like someone “won.”The Goal Isn’t to Eliminate ConflictDr. Kramer reminds us that siblings will always have disagreements.But when children learn emotional regulation, empathy, and problem-solving skills, those conflicts become opportunities for growth rather than daily battles parents have to manage.And the more children develop these competencies, the less parents have to step in.Instead of constantly refereeing fights, parents can begin to step back and watch their children handle disagreements with more maturity and confidence.If sibling conflict is a daily challenge in your home—and you want your children to learn how to work through those moments in healthier ways—this conversation will give you a whole new way to think about what’s happening between them.Listen to the full episode to learn how sibling conflict can become one of the most powerful ways children develop emotional intelligence and lifelong relationship skills.And if you're listening to this thinking, yes… this is exactly what happens in my house, you don’t have to figure it out alone. Inside the Delight in Parenting Membership, we talk through real parenting situations like this every week and work through what to do differently next time. The doors are open right now, but they close Friday at midnight. If you'd like to learn more, you can visit delightinparenting.com/membership.To Learn More About Laurie Kramer’s Work:* Read Sibling Resources here. * The More Fun with Sisters and Brothers ProgramConnect with Dajana Yoakley Delight in ParentingStep #1: Get the 3 Steps to Reset Your Nervous System FREE Guide.Step #2: Book a FREE 20 minute parent coaching consult with Dajana.Step #3: Connect With The FREE Facebook Community.Step #4: Follow me on Social Media:https://www.instagram.com/delightinparenting/https://www.facebook.com/delightinparentingcoaching/www.youtube.com/@DelightinParentinghttps://www.linkedin.com/in/delightinparenting/ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit delightinparenting.substack.com/subscribe
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    33 分
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