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Delight Your Marriage

Delight Your Marriage

著者: Belah Rose | Author Podcaster & Marital Intimacy Enthusiast
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Husbands and wives were designed to be different. You want different things in marriage and intimacy on every level (emotional, spiritual, and physical). Whether you're a wife or a husband, whether you're suffering or pretty good... and you're looking for Bible-based insights and scriptural practical guidance on how to transform your marriage, you've found the right podcast! We have "transformation stories" that will inspire hope that putting into practice these principles, by God's grace, can truly change your intimacy completely. If you're looking to see how to transform your marriage sign up for a free Clarity Call, we can hear your story and work with you to determine if we are confident we can help you: https://www.delightyourmarriage.com/cc(c) Delight Your Marriage キリスト教 スピリチュアリティ 聖職・福音主義 衛生・健康的な生活
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  • 495-Years of Counseling Didn’t Help, But Now After 35 Years They’re Better Than Ever
    2025/08/08

    After nearly four decades of marriage, Kim and Russ had done the hard work. They had raised five children, invested in professional counseling, read marriage books, and sought spiritual guidance.

    And still, something was missing.

    The breakthrough moments they experienced through the years never seemed to last. They still longed for a deeper connection and the kind of love they had always dreamed of.

    The Pain of “Almost” Fixing It

    Kim felt emotionally unsafe for far too long. Arguments were frequent, and intimacy had become something to endure rather than enjoy. She said, “We spent tens of thousands of dollars on counseling… but nothing stuck.”

    They had learned communication tools, gone on retreats, and practiced new habits—but it felt like patchwork. They both feared they’d never experience the closeness they longed for.

    What Made This Marriage Transformation Different

    When a close friend experienced radical transformation in her marriage through our program, Kim and Russ took notice. Russ joined the men’s program first—not out of crisis, but out of conviction. He realized he hadn’t been loving Kim as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5), and he wanted to grow.

    As Russ surrendered his old ways, Kim noticed a clear shift. He was more present, more loving, and no longer reactive. Over time, her heart softened too.

    Though initially hesitant, Kim eventually joined the women’s program, encouraged by the changes she saw and her own desire to grow.

    "I wanted to catch up," she shared with us.

    The Breakthrough They Couldn’t Find Anywhere Else

    What set this experience apart wasn’t just the information—it was the biblical framework, practical tools, and deep community that made lasting transformation possible.

    Together, they:

    • Ended their cycle of arguing

    • Rebuilt emotional safety and trust

    • Restored intimacy in every sense—physical, emotional, and spiritual

    • Learned how to love and respect one another as God intended

    Russ shared with us, "I’ve been in church all my life, but I never really learned how to live out Scripture in my marriage. This taught me how.”

    A Marriage They Never Thought Was Possible

    Today, Kim and Russ say their marriage is “a 9 or 10.” Not because it’s perfect—but because they’ve been changed from the inside out.

    They speak with laughter and warmth. They tease each other. They still work through conflict—but without yelling, shutdowns, or spirals that last for days or weeks.

    Now? They hold hands again. They share their hearts freely. They support each other’s needs—spiritually, emotionally, physically.

    Russ opens the car door for Kim every time. And she waits for him to do it.

    Healing Beyond Just the Two of Them

    The impact of their transformation has rippled outward—into their relationships with their grown children, with friends, and even in their church.

    What used to feel tense or guarded has become relaxed. Warm. Full of grace.

    When asked to describe their marriage today, each responded with one word: 'Delight' (Russ) & 'Thankful' (Kim).

    That’s not where they began. But by God's grace—and a willingness to grow—they now live in daily gratitude.

    For the peace in their home. For the tenderness in their marriage. And for the God who redeems all things.

    Blessings,

    The Delight Your Marriage Team

    PS - Are you were Russ & Kim were before? 35+ years into marriage and feeling defeated and discouraged? You are not alone and your marriage story isn't over. Schedule a free Clarity Call to take the next step.

    PPS - We are launching a Church Training pilot program this Fall! All the incredible material of DYM, created for weekly church trainings. It's going to change lives and we are so excited to see it! If you'd like your church to participate, check out our Church Training page for more info.

    PPPS - Here is a quote from (another) recent graduate:
    "Often my wife would complain that I wasn't listening, didn't understand her well, and that she was walking on eggshells all the time (that feeling was mutual). Even though we were good friends and we had regular dates and romantic times together, she didn't see any depth to 'us'...I realized that more than our intimacy, God wanted to meet me and change my heart…Finally God had my attention and He started working in many different areas of my life, that had just been swept under the carpet for far too long…[I] learned to truly put myself on the cross, to draw close to my wife and seek to minister to her needs first."

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  • 494-Don't Waste the Great Gift of Influence (Re-Release)
    2025/08/01
    Don't Waste the Great Gift of Influence (Formerly titled: Don't Waste Your Impact) It’s easy to underestimate just how much weight your words, actions, and attitudes carry—especially in your marriage. But the truth is, your spouse is the person you impact most in this life. And that impact can either build up or break down. It can draw them closer to Jesus—or push them further away. Whether you're aware of it or not, you are influencing every day. The real question is: how are you using that influence? In today’s episode, we’re exploring what Scripture and research say about the power of marriage, how your smallest habits shape your legacy, and why taking your influence seriously could be one of the most important decisions you make—not just for your spouse, but for eternity. Why Your Marriage Holds the Greatest Influence in Your Life Research from the Holmes-Rahe Stress Scale confirms it: five of the top ten most stressful life events are marriage-related. Death of a spouse. Divorce. Separation. Reconciliation. Even getting married. All of these events shape us more than we realize—impacting not only our emotions but our physical health. That’s why your role in your marriage is far from trivial. It’s your greatest mission field. Beyond your spouse, your children are next in line for your influence. Their spiritual formation, character, and even understanding of Jesus may start with how they see you live. Influence Starts with the Smallest Seeds We often think influence must be grand—but it’s the consistent, daily seeds that grow lasting fruit. Whether it’s trying to put stubborn littles to bed while keeping a joyful attitude (“count it all joy when you face trials”), or sharing a genuine compliment with your spouse that communicates admiration or safety—these small acts build a legacy. The greatest impact comes through simple faithfulness: planting seeds of respect, encouragement, and love, again and again. Want to Be Effective? Influence with Soft Eyes and a Gentle Tone Influence is not control. It’s not demanding. And it’s certainly not harsh. If your heart is full of conviction, but your tone is sharp, your spouse may never hear your heart. Instead, they’ll hear rejection, judgment, and intensity. That shuts hearts down. Instead, remember this: Soft Eyes Gentle Tone Slow Pace No, it’s not an acronym yet—but it’s a powerful practice. If it matters to you, slow down. Look at them with kindness. Speak with a spirit of gentleness. Because your delivery may determine whether your words are received—or rejected. Faith Isn’t Meant to Stay Silent—So Stop Hiding It Somewhere along the way, many of us have absorbed the idea that faith is a purely private matter. But Scripture doesn’t support that. Paul talks openly about his prayers, his tears, his awe at God’s love. You don’t need to boast—but you do need to be real. Share how you follow Jesus. Let your spouse and your kids see that He’s not just a Sunday idea. He’s your daily King. Character First. Ministry Second. The Bible is clear: if you can’t manage your own household, how can you lead in the church? (1 Tim. 3, Titus 1) Your first ministry is your spouse. Your first testimony is how you treat them when no one is watching. Your first assignment is to steward the influence God has entrusted to you—in your tone, your time, and your tenderness. Don’t Waste the Great Gift of Influence If you’ve ever caused your spouse to spend days mulling over a harsh word, you've influenced—for harm. That matters. God has given you the ability to heal and build up—or wound and tear down. We won’t be perfect. But we must take our influence seriously. Let your words be seasoned with grace. Let your habits point to Jesus. Let your home be a place where His love is felt—because of you. Because when we stand before God, how we used our influence in marriage will matter. And your spouse’s eternity may just be a little brighter because of your faithfulness. Final Thoughts Friend, your influence is real. And it’s powerful. You don’t have to be perfect to make a lasting impact—you just need to be faithful with the moments in front of you. One seed of kindness. One soft-eyed response. One patient, Spirit-led pause. These small choices shape hearts, build trust, and reflect the love of Jesus. So take heart. God has entrusted you with influence, not by accident, but for a purpose. And as you lean into Him and love your spouse with intention, you are planting seeds that can grow into something beautiful—something eternal. Love, The Delight Your Marriage Team PS - Are you ready to take the next step in influencing your marriage for the better? Our Clarity Advisors are ready to talk with you! Schedule a free Clarity Call at delightym.com/cc. PPS - Wish your church had a program like this? It can! We are launching our Church Training program this Fall and are still accepting churches to ...
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    52 分
  • 493- Fall in Love With Your Spouse Again: Kay’s Story
    2025/07/23
    Fall in Love With Your Spouse Again: Kay’s Story Marriage is one of God’s most beautiful gifts—and one of His most powerful tools for growth and sanctification. But even after decades of love and commitment, many couples find themselves asking the quiet question: What happened to us? Maybe you're feeling distant from your spouse. Maybe you’re still under the same roof—but it feels like you're living parallel lives. Maybe you’ve stopped hoping things can change. That’s where Kay was after 33 years of marriage. But her story is a powerful reminder: It is possible to fall in love again—and to restore love in a marriage that feels broken. When You Feel Stuck in Your Marriage Kay and her husband had built a wonderful life: children, a family business, retirement, and shared dreams. But beneath it all, their connection was quietly dissolving. Kay shared with us, “We weren’t arguing every day, but there was tension. There was distance. He finally told me, ‘If this is what the next 20 years are going to look like—I don’t want it.’” Their marriage wasn’t hostile—but it was cold. No more playfulness. No more laughter. And for Kay, no clear idea of what to do next. Christian Marriage Healing Starts in the Heart One night, Kay came across our podcast. She listened to a wife share her story—and saw her own reflection in the words. That night, she played the episode for her husband. Both of them ended up in tears. That was the moment God began softening her heart. But what came next wasn’t a joint effort. It wasn’t couples therapy. It was one wife, taking one faithful step forward. Kay didn’t wait for her husband to change. She didn’t try to force him into a process. She simply said yes to the work God wanted to do in her. And that’s what began to heal everything. How to Save Your Marriage Alone—One Surrender at a Time There’s a common lie in marriage restoration: If my spouse won’t change, there’s no hope. But Kay’s story offers a different story: Sometimes the most powerful transformations happen when one spouse surrenders first. As she worked through the DYM program, she began seeing all the ways she had unintentionally pushed her husband away—through resentment, control, harshness, and silence. “I didn’t realize how disrespectful I had become. How little admiration I showed. I had no idea how my own attitude was closing his heart off from me.” Through prayer, scripture, and community, God began to soften her heart. And without pushing, demanding, or even explaining—it softened his too. “He started coming home earlier. Laughing again. Helping more. And I never once asked him to.” When you let God begin with you, healing has a way of rippling outward. Biblical Marriage Advice for Wives Who Feel Disconnected When you’ve been married a long time, it’s easy to assume the disconnection is just part of life. But biblical marriage advice doesn’t teach resignation—it teaches hope, humility, and the power of the Holy Spirit to change hearts. If you're feeling distant from your spouse, here are some biblical truths and tools Kay leaned into: Let go of resentment. Carrying old pain closes the heart. Forgiveness opens it again. Replace criticism with admiration. Notice what your spouse is doing right. Thank them. Respect them—even when it feels hard. Spend time with God. Let His Word renew your mind and fill the empty places. Healing starts vertically before it ever flows horizontally. Surrender the outcome. You can’t control your spouse—but you can invite God to transform you. “I realized this wasn’t just Christian wife marriage help—it was God restoring my identity and softening my heart.” How to Reconnect After Years of Marriage When you've shared decades together, the idea of starting over may feel impossible. But learning how to reconnect after years of marriage isn’t about erasing the past. It’s about allowing God to do something new with the years ahead. Kay didn’t try to recreate her early romance. She let God build something deeper, wiser, and more joyful than before. After 33 years, their hearts are tender again. Their home is peaceful. And their future is bright. When You Don’t Feel Loved in Your Marriage—There Is Still Hope For so many, the pain isn’t anger—it’s loneliness. The ache of not being seen. Not being pursued. Not feeling cherished. If that’s where you are—when you don’t feel loved in your marriage—you are not disqualified from healing. Kay didn’t feel loved when she started this journey. But as she learned to love God more deeply, and love her husband with grace and strength, she began to feel loved again too. Not because she was striving. But because she was surrendered. Christian Wife Marriage Help That Changes Everything Kay thought she was doing this program to fix her marriage. But God used it to fix something deeper: her heart. She discovered that Christian marriage healing ...
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