If your marriage feels chaotic, disconnected, or directionless… you’re not alone. In this episode, Jason and Lauren tackle what it looks like when couples are stuck in survival mode—no calendar, no plan, and no unity—and how to get back on the same team.

Jay’s been walking with several couples who feel overwhelmed and out of sync, and in this candid conversation, the Vallottons offer a lifeline of practical tools and fresh perspective to help you move from chaos to clarity.

In this episode, they unpack:

• Why chaos is a symptom, not the root issue
• How to create an ecosystem for your marriage that you’re leading—not one that’s leading you
• The power of living from a shared calendar and shared priorities
• Why independent goals can still flow from a shared vision
• What it takes to build peace, productivity, and purpose in your everyday rhythms

Key questions to ask together:

• What season are we in right now?
• What are our top three shared goals?
• Are we moving toward those goals—together?

🎯 Practical Challenge: Try this for one week

1. Set a Sunday night “calendar + priority” meeting
2. Write down your top 3 shared goals
3. Name one pain point and commit to addressing it with compassion

Don’t let the chaos run the show. Step into leadership together—one week, one goal, one shared step at a time.

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What does it actually mean to lead your home like a man of God—and why does emotional connection matter just as much as spiritual authority?

In this episode of Dates, Mates & Babies, Jason Vallotton sits down with the legendary Dr. Henry Cloud, bestselling author of Boundaries, to unpack the kind of leadership that builds trust, safety, and lasting love. From marriage and fatherhood to communication and connection, this conversation is packed with wisdom for men and women alike.

Dr. Cloud shares a powerful framework for building a strong home: start with connection, then add boundaries, protection, and healthy communication. Whether you're a man wondering how to lead with both strength and compassion—or a woman longing for safety and partnership—this episode will give you language, hope, and tools to create the kind of marriage that thrives.

Topics We Cover:

• The real role of a husband as a leader
• Why emotional intelligence is key in marriage
• How to create psychological safety in your home
• What to do if connection was never modeled for you growing up
• A practical pathway to becoming a strong, present, emotionally safe man

Whether you're single, dating, married, or parenting together—this episode will help you reimagine leadership in a way that builds legacy.

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In this powerful episode of Dates, Mates, and Babies, Jason and Lauren Vallotton welcome two courageous women: Kirsten Lapp, Executive Director of Northstate Care Clinic, and Lauren Hodgson, a mother of four who walked through an unexpected pregnancy and found hope in the face of overwhelming pressure. This is the second part to a conversation that began in episode 122.

When Lauren discovered she was pregnant with her fourth child, it came as a complete shock. That shock deepened when she learned her baby had Down syndrome. Surrounded by doctors quoting grim statistics and suggesting termination, Lauren found herself in a vulnerable and isolating place—until she connected with Northstate Care Clinic. There, she encountered something radically different: compassion, clarity, and care. All offered freely, without pressure.

Now, 18 months later, Lauren’s daughter Millie is a joyful, thriving little girl. In this deeply honest conversation, the hosts explore the realities women face during a crisis pregnancy, the unique challenges of raising a child with special needs, and the profound impact of having a supportive community.

This episode covers:

• What defines a crisis pregnancy and the pressure many women experience from the medical system and culture
• The emotional and spiritual strength required to say yes to life when fear and uncertainty are loud
• The vital role of Northstate Care Clinic in providing non-judgmental, life-affirming support and resources
• The need for continued after-birth resources, including housing, especially for women without stable home environments
• A unique opportunity for listeners to help Northstate raise $300,000 to close escrow on a permanent home by July 14th

Jason and Lauren share that they are contributing to this campaign and invite their listeners to join them in funding a place of real hope for women in Northern California.

To learn more or to give, visit:
🌐 northstatecareclinic.org
🌱 friendsofnscc.org

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