"Your gifts might open doors in ministry, but your emotional health and family life will determine how long you can stay in the room."

In this episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton dive into the crucial (and often overlooked) connection between emotional health, family life, and sustainable ministry. Ministry isn’t just about being gifted—it’s about being grounded. Whether you're a pastor, leader, or someone pursuing a call to serve, this conversation offers a timely reminder: who you are behind closed doors matters more than what you can do on stage.

💛 Part 1: Emotional Health in Ministry

• Understanding the integration of body, soul, and spirit
• Why self-awareness is a superpower in leadership
• The impact of unresolved grief, resentment, and burnout
• How emotional intelligence often outlasts platform skills
• Why ministry tends to trigger unhealed wounds like rejection, people-pleasing, or perfectionism
• A personal example of how inner healing transformed leadership

🏠 Part 2: Family Health in Ministry

• Why the home is the first and most important ministry
• How ministry should overflow from family health—not compete with it
• Red flags: when someone feels powerful in ministry but powerless at home
• Encouragement to realign priorities and strengthen what matters most

Whether you're just stepping into ministry or you've been leading for years, this episode offers practical wisdom and vulnerable insight into what it really takes to lead with longevity and wholeness.

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"Most people want to reconnect with their spouse—but they don’t know how to hit the mark when emotions are high. They either get defensive, spiral into shame, or shut down. Today, I want to help you learn how to truly connect when it matters most—especially when there’s pain involved."

In this episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton break down what happens when emotional disconnection builds over time and how to move toward reconnection with empathy, responsibility, and compassion.

This episode explores:

• Why disconnection happens: How unmet needs and unresolved pain quietly widen the emotional gap between partners.
• The shame spiral: Why shame convinces people they are the problem, and how shifting to personal ownership can restore emotional safety.
• Empathy, sympathy, and compassion: A practical breakdown of each—and why compassion is the key to repair.
• A step-by-step guide to reconnection:
  • Get curious, not defensive
  • Listen without fixing
  • Validate and empathize
  • Take ownership
  • Offer a sincere apology

Final encouragements:

• For those who’ve been hurt: Give space for ownership—don’t force it, but don’t shrink back either.
• For those who missed it: Perfection isn’t required, but presence is.

This episode offers practical steps and real-life insight for any couple looking to reconnect—especially when it matters most.

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In this vulnerable and practical Q&A episode, Jason and Lauren tackle some of your most heartfelt questions—from dating dynamics and stepparenting to conflict in marriage and unmet emotional needs.

With their trademark honesty and experience, they unpack the real stuff of relationships: fear, longing, love, and how to keep showing up even when it’s hard.

In this episode, the Vallottons respond to questions like:

• “How do I take dating slow while discerning if I can handle marrying someone with kids?”
  
  
• “Why do I shut down in conflict, and how do I stay present when fear hits?”
  
  
• “I’m walking through divorce and financial fallout—what now?”
  
  
• “Any tips for surviving the newborn season… with our marriage still intact?”
  
  
• “What do I do with my unmet desire for intimacy, pursuit, and emotional connection in marriage?”

From practical tools to spiritual insight, this episode is full of compassionate, grounded advice for anyone trying to navigate love in a complicated world.

Whether you’re in the trenches of parenting, learning to love through pain, or just trying to figure out what’s next—this one’s for you.

Patreon
If you've enjoyed this podcast, would you consider financially supporting the show? Every donation, big and small, helps the Vallottons continue to prioritize making this content for you. Click this link to support! Thank you!

For information on the Marriage Intensive and other resources, go to jasonandlaurenvallotton.com !

Connect with Lauren:
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Connect with Jason:
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BraveCo Instagram
www.braveco.org