Are you a man over 40 struggling to rebuild after divorce? Have you ever felt stuck in “Nice Guy” patterns—always seeking approval, but feeling unseen and unfulfilled? You’re not alone. Dive into this episode of the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast with me, David, and special guest McKenzie—a men’s coach who’s changed the lives of thousands of men worldwide.

🔓 In This Episode:

• McKenzie’s raw journey: From a chaotic childhood to hitting rock bottom, and how joining a men’s group in Chicago transformed his life and purpose.

• What is Nice Guy Syndrome? Learn why so many men fall into people-pleasing patterns, especially after separation or divorce, and how toxic shame keeps you stuck.

• Why it gets worse after divorce: Discover the hidden traps men face when re-entering the dating world or trying to co-parent, and why external validation doesn’t lead to healing.

• The Power of Men’s Groups: Hear why support communities are critical for real recovery, and how having just one emotional outlet (your ex or partner) can set you up for more pain.

• Communication & Curiosity: Practical tools to break out of old beliefs (“I’m bad at feelings,” “I can’t communicate”) and build genuine connection—with yourself and others.

• The Three Ps: How Power, Purpose, and Possibility can replace shame and self-doubt, leading to real transformation, not just symptom management.

• Rebuilding Friendships: Why most men lose touch with friends after marriage, and actionable steps to cultivate meaningful relationships, even if you feel isolated.

💡 Key Takeaways:

• Self-care and emotional availability are essential, not selfish.

• Healing isn’t about avoiding your “bad habits”—it’s about replacing them with something more valuable.

• Community is vital: diversify your support network beyond just your partner.

• Real masculinity isn’t toxic—outdated patterns are. It’s time to embrace the traits that push you (and humanity) forward.

McKenzie also shares how his background in marketing helped him create simple, transformative systems for men to heal and thrive—no matter their past.

👇 Ready to take the next step? Whether you’re newly divorced or years out, this conversation will help you see that real recovery is possible. If you want proven tools and authentic support, check outt www.groupsformen.com for a free week of coaching and connection.

⭐ Let’s make this a conversation:

Have you struggled with Nice Guy Syndrome or finding support after divorce? What’s been your biggest challenge? Drop a comment below—your story could help another man know he’s not alone.

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Welcome to the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast with David! 🎙️ Are you a man over 40 struggling with intense loneliness after divorce? You’re not alone. In today’s episode, we dive deep into the question so many ask: When does the loneliness go away after divorce for men over 40? 💬

Divorce after 40 is a seismic life change. It’s not just the end of a marriage—it’s a complete upheaval of your daily sense of connection, identity, and purpose. Many men in midlife find themselves suddenly navigating a new, unfamiliar world solo. It’s common to long for the companionship you lost, and the grief can feel overwhelming. But healing is possible, and it’s never too late to find your way back to hope and connection!

Why Is Post-Divorce Loneliness So Intense Over 40?

Loneliness is more than just being alone—it’s a deep longing for lost connection, often mixed with sadness or anxiety. For men over 40, this feeling is magnified by years of shared routines, empty nest syndrome, or shifting social circles. If you’re experiencing this, know that it’s a normal part of the grief process. Healing doesn’t happen on a set schedule. Some men feel better in months, others need more time. Your journey is unique—don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

Busting the Myths

There’s a harmful myth that you “should” be over your divorce by a certain time. The truth? Emotional healing isn’t linear. It’s okay to struggle, and it’s okay to talk about it. Breaking the stigma around loneliness helps everyone heal, especially men who often feel pressured to “tough it out” alone.

Common Triggers for Men Over 40

• Empty nest syndrome (kids moving out)

• Loss of social identity as a couple

• Shifting friendships and family dynamics

Understanding these triggers can help you give yourself grace and compassion as you heal.

Practical Steps to Heal and Reconnect

• Build new routines: Try morning walks, journaling, or mindfulness 🧘‍♂️

• Seek support: Therapy or support groups can be life-changing

• Reconnect with hobbies: Rediscover old passions or learn something new 🎨

• Volunteer or join groups: Meet new people and rediscover your sense of belonging

• Embrace healthy solitude: Time alone can be empowering and transformative

When to Seek Help

If loneliness starts to feel overwhelming or turns into depression, reach out for professional help. Remember, support is available, and you don’t have to face this alone.

There Is Hope! 🌟

The loneliness you feel now does not last forever. Many men over 40 find joy, connection, and even love again after divorce. Take small steps, be patient with yourself, and trust that a brighter chapter is ahead.

Have you experienced loneliness after divorce? What helped you get through it? Share your story or advice in the comments below!👇 Let’s support each other on this journey.

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Are you a man over 40 struggling to rebuild your confidence after a divorce? You're not alone. In this episode of the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast, host David shares a proven roadmap for men looking to reclaim their identity, self-worth, and sense of purpose after a marriage ends.

Divorce is life-altering, especially for men who’ve invested decades in a relationship. The aftermath can leave you questioning who you are and if happiness is possible again. David, a divorce recovery advocate, has guided countless men through this challenging transition—and now, he’s here to help you.

🌟 What you’ll learn in this episode:

• Why confidence often takes a hit after divorce, and why it’s normal

• How to process emotions like anger, sadness, and grief in healthy ways

• Steps to rediscover your identity and reclaim old passions

• The power of self-care, exercise, and setting healthy boundaries

• Why building a support network is crucial—and where to find one

• How to challenge negative self-talk and set new, exciting goals

Remember, recovery isn’t overnight, but each step forward builds a stronger, more resilient you.

💬 What’s been your biggest challenge in rebuilding confidence after divorce? Drop a comment below and join the conversation! Don’t forget to subscribe for more real talk and support for men over 40 navigating divorce recovery.

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Are you a man over 40 still wrestling with anger after divorce? You’re not alone. Welcome to the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast—I’m David, your divorce recovery advocate, and today we’re tackling a question so many ask: When does the anger finally go away?

Divorce isn’t just the end of a relationship—it’s the loss of shared dreams, routines, and sometimes even your sense of self. For those of us over 40, this anger can feel even heavier, but it’s also a normal part of the healing process. 😤💔

Anger doesn’t always look like shouting—it can be irritability, resentment, or withdrawing from people you care about. The truth? There’s no set timeline for letting go, but you can take action today. Strategies like journaling, talking to a therapist, practicing mindfulness, setting boundaries, and regular exercise can help. 📝🧘‍♂️🏃‍♂️

Remember: Healthy anger can motivate change, but staying stuck can harm your health and relationships. Forgiveness isn’t for your ex—it’s for you. As the anger fades, you’ll rediscover who you are and open up to new opportunities.

💬 Have you struggled with anger after divorce? What helped you move forward? Share your story in the comments below—I’d love to feature your experience in a future episode!

If this helped you, please like, subscribe, and share with someone who needs it. Next week, we’ll talk about rebuilding your confidence after divorce. See you then! ✌️

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Are you a man over 40 struggling to move on after divorce? You’re not alone. Welcome to the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast! I’m David Webb, your divorce recovery advocate in Colorado Springs, and today we tackle the #1 question: When does the hurt go away?

Divorce at this stage isn’t just about losing a partner—it’s about losing routines, identity, and the future you imagined. Society tells us to “man up,” but pain doesn’t care about stereotypes. The truth? Healing is not on a timeline. It’s full of ups, downs, and unexpected triggers—birthdays, holidays, even songs can bring the pain right back.

Setbacks aren’t failures—they’re signs you’re still healing, and that’s okay! Therapy, support groups, reconnecting with friends, and even creative outlets like journaling or music can help. Physical wellness (exercise, sleep, nutrition) is key too. Remember: isolation only amplifies pain, so reach out and find your tribe.

Divorce can feel like an ending, but it’s the start of a new chapter. Who do you want to become? Set small goals, try new things, and celebrate every win. The pain might not disappear completely, but it gets quieter, and you can find purpose—and even love—again.

💬 How have you dealt with setbacks or triggers during your recovery? Share your story in the comments below—let’s support each other!

Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and join our podcast community for more support. You are not alone. Peace. ✌️

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🎙️ Welcome to the Don't Pick the Scab Podcast! Hosted by David, this episode is a must-watch and/or listen for men over 40 navigating the challenging road of divorce, healing, and rediscovering life, love, and purpose.

Today, I’m joined by the inspiring Erica Wiederlight—actress, speaker, and sought-after dating & sexual empowerment coach. Erica’s unique approach blends her performance background with deep insights into human connection, intimacy, and transformation. She’s helped countless people rebuild confidence, embrace authenticity, and unlock true joy after major life shifts like divorce.

What You’ll Discover in This Episode:

• How to Get Out of Your Head & Reconnect With Your Body: Erica explains why “embodiment” is essential for men after divorce, and offers practical steps to tune into your body’s wisdom, from recognizing red flags on dates to feeling truly alive again.

• Why Men Over 40 Struggle With Self-Love—And How to Change That: We bust myths about self-care (“it’s not just bubble baths!”) and dive into what self-respect and self-love really mean for men. Erica shares actionable ways to start treating yourself with the dignity you deserve.

• Breaking the Cycle of Dating Your Ex... Again: Understand the hidden reasons men repeat old relationship patterns and learn simple tools to identify, interrupt, and heal those cycles—so you can attract healthier connections next time.

• How to Set Boundaries Without Guilt: If you’re worried about being “too much” or “not enough,” Erica’s advice on boundaries will help you show up honestly in new relationships, honor your needs, and avoid losing yourself in the process.

• Realistic Expectations for Intimacy & Sex Over 40: Forget Hollywood and porn myths—Erica breaks down how to find what truly lights you up, communicate desires, and create more fulfilling connections (no matter your age or experience).

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About Erica:

Find more of Erica’s wisdom and free resources at WeTheLight.org. She offers a complimentary intro session—no strings attached—for men ready to break free from old patterns and step into a new chapter.

💬 What’s ONE area of post-divorce life you’re struggling with most—dating, self-love, boundaries, or something else? Drop your answer in the comments below!

👇 Let’s build a supportive community—your story could help another man out there!

Don’t forget to SUBSCRIBE, like, and share if this episode resonated with you. More honest, practical advice for men over 40 is coming next week!

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Are you a man over 40 who just signed those divorce papers? Wondering what comes next? You’re not alone. Welcome to the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast with me, David, where we dive deep into real-life divorce recovery for men in midlife. 🎧

Divorce is tough—mentally, emotionally, and physically. But your best days are still ahead! This episode covers the 5 crucial steps every man over 40 should take right after divorce to start healing and reclaiming life with confidence. Whether your split was recent or you’re still struggling, these strategies will help you move forward.

1. Prioritize Your Mental Health 🧠

It’s normal to feel lost or overwhelmed. Seeking professional support isn’t weakness—it’s strength. Therapy, counseling, or even just talking things out can make a world of difference. If you’re struggling with depression or anxiety, don’t hesitate to reach out for help or consider medication if recommended. Healing your mind is the first step to rebuilding your life.

2. Rebuild Your Support System 🤝

Divorce can mean losing not just a partner, but also friends, family, or your community. Don’t go it alone. Reach out to old friends, family, or join online groups for divorced men. Connection is the antidote to isolation. Remember, even strangers can become your biggest supporters.

3. Embrace Forgiveness (Including Yourself) 💔➡️💙

Holding onto anger keeps you stuck in the past. Forgiveness is about freeing yourself from bitterness, not excusing anyone’s actions. Let go for your own growth and peace—this was a game-changer for me and many guests on the show.

4. Rediscover Passions & Purpose 🌟

Now’s the time to ask: What excites you? Try old hobbies, explore new interests, or set fresh career goals. Taking small steps—reading, joining a group, volunteering—can reignite your drive and give you a renewed sense of purpose.

5. Practice Radical Self-Care 🛀

Mind, body, and spirit all need attention. Think exercise, healthy meals, good sleep, and allowing yourself to process emotions. Avoid unhealthy habits—if you’re struggling with addiction, reach out for help. Little joys, like a walk in nature or listening to your favorite song, build resilience day by day.

Remember, recovery is a journey. You’re not weak—you’re human, and you deserve happiness and fulfillment after divorce.

🔥 Ready to take your first step?

Drop a comment below: Which of these 5 steps do you need most right now? Or share your own tip for moving forward—let’s build a supportive community together! 💬👇

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Welcome to the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast, the safe space where men over 40 find support, wisdom, and a path forward after divorce. I’m your host, David, and in this episode, I sit down with entrepreneur, philosopher, and resilience expert Sid Mohasseb to explore how men can turn adversity into opportunity and truly reinvent themselves after a major life transition like divorce. 👊

Why This Episode Matters for Men 40+

Divorce after 40 is tough. You’re not just dealing with heartbreak—you’re facing uncertainty, identity shifts, and the challenge of building a new future when routines and comfort zones are shattered. But here’s the truth: every ending is a new beginning, and you have infinite opportunities ahead, no matter your age. Sid Mohasseb’s story—from immigrating alone at 16, to building and selling companies, to teaching at top universities—proves that resilience isn’t just about bouncing back, but about growing forward.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• How to Reframe Failure as Fuel for Growth:
  Sid explains that failure is only a mistake if you don’t learn from it. Discover how to extract lessons from your divorce and use them to make better decisions moving forward.

• The Power of Awareness & Mindset Shifts:
  Why living in “the comfort zone” is actually the “dead zone”—and how to actively choose change, embrace your emotions, and engineer real hope.

• Authenticity & Reinvention:
  Learn what it means to be authentic post-divorce, how to face your fears head-on, and why being true to yourself is the first step in building a purposeful life.

• Community & Connection:
  Sid breaks down why community isn’t just support—it’s one of the foundational pillars of a successful new life after divorce. Find out how to build your tribe and why helping others compounds your own recovery.

• Flexibility vs. Pivoting:
  Is it time to abandon everything, or simply adapt? Sid clarifies the difference and reveals how flexibility (not resistance) is your best friend in recovery.

Key Takeaways for Men Over 40 Recovering from Divorce:

1. Infinite Possibilities: No matter your age, you have limitless new moments and opportunities ahead.

2. You Define “Better”: You’re born to create better—and only you can define what “better” looks like.

3. Change is Your Ally: Change isn’t your enemy—it’s your most loyal friend, always offering new options for growth and happiness.

Ready to Take Action? 👇

Don’t just listen—join the conversation!

➡️ Share your biggest challenge after divorce in the comments below.

➡️ What’s ONE mindset shift you’re working on right now?

Your story could inspire another man!

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