Are you a man over 40 struggling to rebuild after divorce? Have you ever felt stuck in “Nice Guy” patterns—always seeking approval, but feeling unseen and unfulfilled? You’re not alone. Dive into this episode of the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast with me, David, and special guest McKenzie—a men’s coach who’s changed the lives of thousands of men worldwide.

🔓 In This Episode:

• McKenzie’s raw journey: From a chaotic childhood to hitting rock bottom, and how joining a men’s group in Chicago transformed his life and purpose.

• What is Nice Guy Syndrome? Learn why so many men fall into people-pleasing patterns, especially after separation or divorce, and how toxic shame keeps you stuck.

• Why it gets worse after divorce: Discover the hidden traps men face when re-entering the dating world or trying to co-parent, and why external validation doesn’t lead to healing.

• The Power of Men’s Groups: Hear why support communities are critical for real recovery, and how having just one emotional outlet (your ex or partner) can set you up for more pain.

• Communication & Curiosity: Practical tools to break out of old beliefs (“I’m bad at feelings,” “I can’t communicate”) and build genuine connection—with yourself and others.

• The Three Ps: How Power, Purpose, and Possibility can replace shame and self-doubt, leading to real transformation, not just symptom management.

• Rebuilding Friendships: Why most men lose touch with friends after marriage, and actionable steps to cultivate meaningful relationships, even if you feel isolated.

💡 Key Takeaways:

• Self-care and emotional availability are essential, not selfish.

• Healing isn’t about avoiding your “bad habits”—it’s about replacing them with something more valuable.

• Community is vital: diversify your support network beyond just your partner.

• Real masculinity isn’t toxic—outdated patterns are. It’s time to embrace the traits that push you (and humanity) forward.

McKenzie also shares how his background in marketing helped him create simple, transformative systems for men to heal and thrive—no matter their past.

👇 Ready to take the next step? Whether you’re newly divorced or years out, this conversation will help you see that real recovery is possible. If you want proven tools and authentic support, check outt www.groupsformen.com for a free week of coaching and connection.

⭐ Let’s make this a conversation:

Have you struggled with Nice Guy Syndrome or finding support after divorce? What’s been your biggest challenge? Drop a comment below—your story could help another man know he’s not alone.

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Welcome to the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast with David! 🎙️ Are you a man over 40 struggling with intense loneliness after divorce? You’re not alone. In today’s episode, we dive deep into the question so many ask: When does the loneliness go away after divorce for men over 40? 💬

Divorce after 40 is a seismic life change. It’s not just the end of a marriage—it’s a complete upheaval of your daily sense of connection, identity, and purpose. Many men in midlife find themselves suddenly navigating a new, unfamiliar world solo. It’s common to long for the companionship you lost, and the grief can feel overwhelming. But healing is possible, and it’s never too late to find your way back to hope and connection!

Why Is Post-Divorce Loneliness So Intense Over 40?

Loneliness is more than just being alone—it’s a deep longing for lost connection, often mixed with sadness or anxiety. For men over 40, this feeling is magnified by years of shared routines, empty nest syndrome, or shifting social circles. If you’re experiencing this, know that it’s a normal part of the grief process. Healing doesn’t happen on a set schedule. Some men feel better in months, others need more time. Your journey is unique—don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

Busting the Myths

There’s a harmful myth that you “should” be over your divorce by a certain time. The truth? Emotional healing isn’t linear. It’s okay to struggle, and it’s okay to talk about it. Breaking the stigma around loneliness helps everyone heal, especially men who often feel pressured to “tough it out” alone.

Common Triggers for Men Over 40

• Empty nest syndrome (kids moving out)

• Loss of social identity as a couple

• Shifting friendships and family dynamics

Understanding these triggers can help you give yourself grace and compassion as you heal.

Practical Steps to Heal and Reconnect

• Build new routines: Try morning walks, journaling, or mindfulness 🧘‍♂️

• Seek support: Therapy or support groups can be life-changing

• Reconnect with hobbies: Rediscover old passions or learn something new 🎨

• Volunteer or join groups: Meet new people and rediscover your sense of belonging

• Embrace healthy solitude: Time alone can be empowering and transformative

When to Seek Help

If loneliness starts to feel overwhelming or turns into depression, reach out for professional help. Remember, support is available, and you don’t have to face this alone.

There Is Hope! 🌟

The loneliness you feel now does not last forever. Many men over 40 find joy, connection, and even love again after divorce. Take small steps, be patient with yourself, and trust that a brighter chapter is ahead.

Have you experienced loneliness after divorce? What helped you get through it? Share your story or advice in the comments below!👇 Let’s support each other on this journey.

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Are you a man over 40 struggling to rebuild your confidence after a divorce? You're not alone. In this episode of the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast, host David shares a proven roadmap for men looking to reclaim their identity, self-worth, and sense of purpose after a marriage ends.

Divorce is life-altering, especially for men who’ve invested decades in a relationship. The aftermath can leave you questioning who you are and if happiness is possible again. David, a divorce recovery advocate, has guided countless men through this challenging transition—and now, he’s here to help you.

🌟 What you’ll learn in this episode:

• Why confidence often takes a hit after divorce, and why it’s normal

• How to process emotions like anger, sadness, and grief in healthy ways

• Steps to rediscover your identity and reclaim old passions

• The power of self-care, exercise, and setting healthy boundaries

• Why building a support network is crucial—and where to find one

• How to challenge negative self-talk and set new, exciting goals

Remember, recovery isn’t overnight, but each step forward builds a stronger, more resilient you.

💬 What’s been your biggest challenge in rebuilding confidence after divorce? Drop a comment below and join the conversation! Don’t forget to subscribe for more real talk and support for men over 40 navigating divorce recovery.

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