Welcome back to the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast! In this episode, host David sits down with the inspiring Tim Tamashiro—bestselling author, keynote speaker, and part-time monk—to explore how men over 40 can truly heal and find purpose after divorce. If you’re feeling lost, stuck, or just plain tired of suffering, this conversation is for you. 🧘‍♂️💬

Why Do We Suffer So Much After Divorce?

Tim shares his own journey through a recent divorce after 28 years of marriage, revealing how suffering is a natural part of life—but it doesn’t have to define you. Drawing from ancient Buddhist wisdom, neuroscience, and his own “part-time monk” mindset, Tim explains the concept of the “second arrow”: while the first arrow (divorce) is unavoidable, the second arrow (repeated suffering) is optional. Learn how to stop picking the scab and start healing for real. 🩹

Rediscovering Purpose with Ikigai.

Many men define themselves by their roles as husbands and fathers. After divorce, it’s easy to feel lost. Tim introduces the Japanese concept of Ikigai—your reason for being—and shows how curiosity, wonder, and self-compassion can help you redefine your identity and find new meaning in life, even after 40. 🌱

Practical Tools for Healing

• Mindfulness & Meditation: Learn how to shift from your “default brain” (the old, reactive part) to your “design brain” (the mindful, intentional part).

• Humor as Medicine: David and Tim share how laughter—even at the absurdity of divorce—can be a powerful tool for healing and releasing anger.

• Letting Go of Control: Struggling with what happens at your ex’s house? Tim shares the Buddhist parable of the second arrow and offers actionable advice for releasing the need to control what you can’t.

• Therapy & Positive Psychology: Why seeking help isn’t weakness—it’s wisdom.

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The Unexpected Benefits of Divorce Tim and David discuss how divorce, while painful, can also be a chance to reinvent yourself, rediscover what makes you happy, and build a life that’s truly yours. From enjoying the little things (like a spoon left on the counter!) to embracing change, this episode is packed with hope and practical wisdom. 🌟

Join the Conversation! How have you found purpose or healing after divorce? What’s your “second arrow,” and how are you learning to let it go? Drop a comment below and share your story—your experience could help another man on his journey. 👇

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Remember: Suffer less, happy more. Let’s heal together! 💬🧘‍♂️

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Are you a man over 40 facing divorce and feeling overwhelmed by the process? You’re not alone—and you don’t have to go through it blindly. In this episode of the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast, host David sits down with Joe Dillon, a seasoned divorce mediator with a unique blend of financial expertise and deep personal insight. Joe’s mission? To help men like you navigate the emotional and financial minefields of divorce with clarity, confidence, and fairness. 💪

Joe brings 28 years of mediation experience and an MBA in finance to the table, making him a rare expert who understands both the numbers and the emotions behind every tough conversation. Most mediators are lawyers or mental health professionals, but Joe’s financial background means he can break down the real costs of divorce—child support, alimony, property division—and help you see the big picture, not just the dollar signs. 💵

In this candid conversation, you’ll discover:

• Why 75% of divorce is about the numbers—and how to make them work for you

• How to avoid the courtroom drama and keep control of your future

• The biggest mistakes men over 40 make during divorce (and how to avoid them)

• How to handle the emotional rollercoaster, even if you think you’re “fine”

• Why mediation leads to better outcomes for you and your kids

• The truth about “fair” settlements—and why it’s about lifestyle, not just money

• How to prepare for mediation, stay calm, and negotiate like a pro

• What to do if you’re stuck in anger or blame—and how to break the cycle

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Joe shares his personal story of growing up in a litigated divorce, the lessons he learned, and why he’s passionate about helping men avoid the same mistakes. You’ll also get practical strategies for budgeting, negotiating, and keeping your cool—even when emotions run high. 🧘‍♂️

If you’re ready to move forward, protect your finances, and build a better future for yourself and your kids, this episode is a must-listen. Don’t let anger or confusion dictate your next chapter—get the tools and insights you need to thrive after divorce.

👉 What’s your biggest fear or question about divorce mediation? Drop a comment below and let’s talk about it! If you found this episode helpful, hit LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, and SHARE with a friend who needs it.

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Welcome back to the 'Don't Pick the Scab Podcast'! In today's episode, David sits down with Barbara J. Hunt, a passionate advocate for mental and emotional well-being, to explore forgiveness as a hidden superpower vital for healing, especially for men over 40 navigating the challenges of divorce. 💪

Barbara shares her unique approach to unlocking the transformative power of forgiveness, breaking down the barriers that hold us back from inner peace and renewed relationships. 🗝️ She offers simple, effective tools to navigate life's toughest challenges, providing insights that can ignite a new path toward a healthier, more fulfilling life after divorce. 🙏

Discover why forgiveness isn't just a nice idea, but a crucial skill for your mental and emotional toolkit. Learn how to untangle the mind and heart, deal with emotional upsets, and why resentment can be so addictive. We dive into common misconceptions about forgiveness, and Barbara shares practical steps to get you started on your healing journey. ❤️‍🩹

Key Discussion Points:

• Understanding forgiveness as a 'master skill' applicable to all areas of life.

• Why men often struggle with emotional conversations and how to find healthier outlets. 🧠

• The importance of releasing ill will and reclaiming your personal power. 🦸‍♂️

• How holding onto resentment is like 'setting yourself on fire' 🔥 and what to do instead.

• Practical steps and a 7-step process to make forgiveness easier in your daily life. 🌟

Barbara also shares inspiring stories of how forgiveness has transformed lives, including her personal journey and experiences with clients. Whether you're dealing with the pain of a recent divorce or lingering resentments from the past, this episode offers invaluable insights and actionable strategies. 🚀

Ready to unlock your superpower of forgiveness? Watch now and start your journey toward emotional freedom! 🌟

➡️Connect with Barbara Hunt: forgivenessmadeeasy.co.uk

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