He thinks you're not into him… but you're just out of capacity.

This quickie ep is your neurospicy permission slip to stop blaming your sex drive when the real issue is your overloaded nervous system.

You're not avoidant. You're not broken. You're just DONE. Done making decisions, done being touched, done holding space for everyone but yourself.

In this spicy 3-min hit, Courtney unpacks:

• Why your mental load is cock-blocking your libido
• How micro-decisions are draining your body’s ability to feel sexy
• The actual way to explain what’s going on to your partner (without spiralling or snapping)

If the thought of sex feels like just one more thing on your to-do list—this is your ep.

💡 Send it to your partner. 🎯 Save it for the next “I’m not in the mood” moment. ⚡ And remember: when your brain gets a break, your body can say yes.

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Hey powerhouse—before you blame your libido, your relationship, or your husband’s awkward sex initiation timing, I need you to hear this:

You’re not cold. You’re not avoidant. You’re just f*cking fried.

In this spicy and soul-shaking episode, I’m calling out the real reason so many high-achieving, emotionally intelligent women are feeling disconnected in the bedroom—and it’s not because you’re broken.

It’s because you’re always on. Business mode. Mum mode. CEO of the never-ending to-do list. And now your body doesn’t even have the capacity to feel sexy, let alone surrender into it.

We’re cracking into:

• 🧠 The misdiagnosis of sexual “avoidance” and what’s actually happening in your nervous system
• 😵‍💫 Why he thinks you’re rejecting him (but your body is just screaming for rest)
• 💬 The exact real-life scripts your burnout uses to avoid intimacy—and why they’re making it worse
• 🍑 Simple, cheeky ways to reconnect with your body (no crystal wands or moon chants required)

Plus, I’m handing you the permission slip you didn’t know you needed to say no, drop the ball, and start choosing YOU.

This one’s for the woman who’s secretly asking herself, "What’s wrong with me?" And babe—nothing is. You just haven’t had space to breathe.

👇 Tune in now, screenshot it, and send it to the group chat where you usually drop memes. Let’s make the sex chat the real Sunday scroll.

🛎 Mentioned in this episode: – The truth about libido & presence – Why pleasure isn’t a reward for productivity – How to explain your “not tonight” without crushing connection

🎧 Subscribe, share, and DM me your biggest "holy shit, that’s me" moment.

You’re not alone. And you’re definitely not broken. Let’s talk about it.

In this raw, unfiltered solo episode, Courtney Nolan shares the real story behind her viral pivot—why she left the police force, how PTSD reshaped her marriage, and the exact moment she realised traditional advice wasn’t cutting it.

This one’s for the woman who’s doing all the right things… but still feels like no one gets it.

🔍 Inside this episode:

– The behind-the-scenes of her career leap from law enforcement to intimacy coaching

– The podcast search that left her more confused (and angry) than ever

– The real reason she built a business: to create what didn’t exist

– Why most support advice sounds good, but leaves women feeling more alone

– Her first exposure to somatic sexology—and why it shook her more than any crime scene

– The spicy, neurospicy truth about running a business while being “the village” for everyone else

– A powerful reframe for any woman navigating relationships, motherhood, or trauma support alone

💥 Whether you're a CEO, partner to someone with mental health challenges, or just looking to understand your own needs on a deeper level, this one will hit home.

👂Listen in, and if this episode speaks to you, share it, tag @courtney__nolan, and drop into her DMs with your fav line.

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Just a quickie ep - i didn't create this concept but i'm damn sure going to share it' because goddamn it's a goodie!This short and spicy 2-minute episode is your loving slap-in-the-face reminder:

You're not stuck. You're scared. And that’s normal—but it’s not the whole story.

Inside this quickie: — Why feeling unhappy and choosing the same thing = a silent loop — How to shift from autopilot to empowered in one thought — The permission slip you didn’t know you needed to choose differently

This is your bite-sized nudge to stop marinating in “fine” and start choosing something better.

Because babe, you’re not here to tolerate your life. You’re here to build it.

🛎 Ready to take the wheel again? Hit play now.

xCourts

You want closeness. You initiate the sex. You start the deep conversation. And then… you ghost. Or pull away. Or shut down. Or spiral and convince yourself he doesn’t really love you.

Sound familiar?

In this episode, Courtney dives into the complex, chaotic, oh-so-relatable world of disorganised attachment—also known as anxious-avoidant attachment.

It’s the style no one talks about… But nearly every high-achieving, overthinking woman secretly lives inside of.

What you'll learn in this episode:

• The real reason you flip-flop between wanting deep connection and needing space
• How anxious and avoidant traits can show up in the same nervous system
• What early emotional unpredictability teaches us about love, vulnerability, and safety
• How this shows up in marriage, conflict, and the bedroom (yep, even mid-thrust)
• Practical signs this attachment style is running the show—and how to start spotting it before it wrecks your connection

You’ll especially relate if:

• You open up one day… and feel emotionally hungover the next
• You initiate intimacy but panic as soon as it starts to feel real
• You say “I just need space,” then spiral when your partner actually gives it to you
• You secretly fear that closeness = loss of control

Key Message: You’re not too much. You’re not confusing. You’re not cold or clingy. You’re just someone who’s never been shown what safe, stable love actually feels like.

And babe—now that you see the pattern? You can start to change it.

So, you're the strong one. The capable one. The “I’m fine, don’t worry about me” one.

But here’s the truth no one told you: Avoidant attachment doesn’t mean you don’t want love. It means love feels like it might cost you your freedom.

In this juicy, note-folding, heart-spilling solo episode, Courtney unpacks what avoidant attachment actually looks like for high-achieving women who are thriving in business… but shutting down at home.

We dive into:

• The high-functioning habits masking your intimacy struggles (hello, overworking + emotional distance)
• Why “I’m fine” is your favourite lie
• The real reason your nervous system craves independence over intimacy
• How avoidant attachment shows up in the bedroom (and why it’s not about low libido)
• Courtney’s proven method for building connection without feeling engulfed
• Why Afterglow™ is the container for unlearning performance-based love without losing your edge

If you’ve ever ghosted mid-conflict (emotionally or literally), felt guilty for needing space, or hate being vulnerable unless it’s on your terms—this one is for you.

✨ Bonus Nugget: Healing avoidant attachment isn’t about changing who you are. It’s about learning to stay—present, soft, powerful—even when it gets uncomfortable.

Afterglow™ is where we do exactly that. → DM “AFTERGLOW” or apply directly [CLICK HERE]

Let’s be real—your partner’s short text reply shouldn’t make your heart drop. But if your brain spirals, your chest tightens, and you’re suddenly convinced he’s falling out of love with you, this episode is going to feel like a deep exhale.

Today’s chat is all about anxious attachment—why high-achieving, hyper-capable women like you can lead a boardroom but fall into panic when he forgets the 😘 emoji.

Inside this episode:

• What anxious attachment really is (no textbook snoozefest, promise)
• How your nervous system got wired for “earn your love” energy
• Why texts, tone, and timing can feel like life-or-death signals
• The secret sauce to going from panic to power (in under 3 minutes)
• Courtney’s spicy personal rituals to get out of overfunction mode
• A behind-the-scenes peek at Afterglow™ and how to become secure AF in love and intimacy

If you’ve ever asked:

💬 “Why do I know I’m loved, but I don’t feel it?”

💬 “Why does silence feel like punishment?”

💬 “Why can’t I stop refreshing his Insta story views?” …this episode is your permission slip to stop performing and start healing.

✨ Wanna go deeper? Join the AFTERGLOW™ waitlist or DM Courtney “AFTERGLOW” to apply. You’re not too much. You’re just finally feeling everything. → [CLICK HERE]

Feel like a total badass at work but fall apart over a one-word text from your partner? Yeah—this one’s for you.

In this episode, Courtney breaks down anxious attachment in a way that actually makes sense—no therapy jargon, just real talk for high-achieving women who are sick of spiralling in silence. Learn why you overthink, shut down, and keep chasing emotional safety in all the wrong places—and how to finally get off the anxiety rollercoaster.

This is your no-fluff, luxe AF guide to understanding the emotional wiring behind your bedroom blocks. And the best part? You don’t have to stay stuck.

You’ll learn:

• What anxious attachment really means (and how it shows up in texts, sex, and silence)
• Why high-performing women are wired for over-functioning and fear of abandonment
• Tools to calm your nervous system in the middle of a spiral (aka The Reset Loop™)
• How to feel safe, sexy, and seen—without needing him to text back instantly

If your love life feels like a game of emotional ping pong, it’s time to change the rules.

🔥 Mentioned in This Episode:

💌 AFTERGLOW™ — Courtney’s 4-week, high-touch group experience for women ready to break their anxious patterns and create confident, grounded intimacy. Only 4 spots. No fluff. Full transformation. ✨ Apply here → [CLICK] Or DM “AFTERGLOW” on Instagram to learn more.

📌 Connect with Courtney:

• Instagram: @courtney__nolan
• Website: www.courtneynolan.com
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