Recently, I had the chance to sit down with my personal “Substack Oprah”—Aidan Wharton—the very gay and very brilliant author behind Gay Buffet, one of Substack’s leading hubs for gay wisdom, life, and culture.

Aidan, a modern-day homosexual Carrie Bradshaw, has been a huge inspiration to me since I first started on this platform. We’ve interacted almost daily (or at least weekly) for months now, and it was well overdue for us to finally sit down—coffee in hand, Zoom open—and have a real, heart-to-heart conversation.

In this episode, we talk about:

* how Aidan got started with his grounding publication

* why connection is so important

* the intention behind Gay Buffet

* the weirdness of being a social media persona with real-life friends

* reframing challenges into opportunities for gratitude

* his beautiful wedding

* his daily check-in ritual with his husband

* and, of course, the excitement around open relationships and gay sex

Watch or listen to our conversation—and make sure to subscribe to Aidan’s phenomenal Substack here!

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In this powerful conversation, I sit down with adult entertainer, retreat facilitator, and my dear friend Dillon Diaz to explore the intersections of sexuality, shame, and self-discovery.

Dillon opens up about his journey from introvert to performer, the liberation he found in adult work, and how courage, energy, and presence shape his life today.

We dive into:

* How retreats, tantra, and workshops mirror our own growth

* The liberation that comes with sexual authenticity and owning your story

* Navigating body image, aging, and shame in a sex-driven culture

* The balance between persona and self, performance and presence

* Why sexiness isn’t a look — it’s an energy

If you’ve ever struggled with shame, body image, or owning your sexual energy, this episode will hit home.

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