What if one of the hardest parts of parenting isn’t figuring out how to control our kids’ behavior, emotions, and choices… but learning to let go of that control?

In this episode, I’m talking with writer and mother Anya Jensen about her philosophy of detachment parenting.

Anya found herself struggling with the emotional demands of parenting teenagers and the growing tension in her relationship with her daughter. She eventually realized that some of her heartache came from trying to control things that were never actually hers to control.

We talk about what detachment parenting really means, why moms can feel responsible for their kids’ emotions, and how we can love our children deeply without taking on every emotion, problem, or disappointment they experience.

And while Anya’s work focuses heavily on teenagers, I think this idea applies to motherhood at every stage: We can support our kids without trying to control them.

In this episode, we talk about:

• What “detachment parenting” actually means
• Why moms feel responsible for their kids’ emotions
• The emotional exhaustion that can come with parenting teenagers
• Learning to accept the limits of our influence
• Parenting our kids without trying to give them the childhood we wish we had
• What detachment can look like in everyday parenting
• Loving our kids without losing ourselves

Connect with Anya:
Tiktok: @detachmentparenting
Substack: Notes by Anya
YouTube: Notes by Anya

The takeaway: Detachment doesn’t mean caring less. Sometimes it means learning to love our kids while letting them have their own feelings, make their own choices, and become their own people.

📺 Watch the episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLOpw5ui4uxJHx0tLFVtpnfSkpObfc4d-K

You can find Katie at:
website: burntpancakes.com
YouTube: @burnt.pancakes
Instagram: @burntpancakeswithkatie
Email: katie@burntpancakes.com

🚽 Did you know Katie is also a Certified Potty Trainer? 🚽

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Instagram: @itspottytime
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This is a Throwback episode from September 2024. I sit down with Brenda Ridgely, an author and podcast host, to discuss reclaiming individuality and fostering deep, meaningful friendships amidst the demands of motherhood and professional life.

Brenda shares her personal journey through midlife discontent and offers valuable insights on how to overcome the silent epidemic of losing one's sense of self. Together, we explore the importance of genuine connections beyond superficial social media interactions and the challenges of making and maintaining friendships while managing family and career responsibilities.

Brenda's practical advice on creating empowering friendship circles will help you rediscover your identity and combat loneliness.

In this conversation, we also delve into the concept of building your personal tribe as adults. Discover the significance of having a core group of close friends, the importance of local connections, and the necessity of stepping out of your comfort zone to meet new people.

Brenda provides practical tips for transforming casual friendships into deeper, more meaningful connections and emphasizes the value of one-on-one time. Whether you're an introvert or extrovert, busy mom, or career woman, this episode offers strategic advice for fostering connections, rediscovering past interests, and designing your ideal tribe to bring the right people into your life.

Listen in and find out how to build and nurture empowering female friendships that will support you through all stages of life.

You can find more about Brenda on her
Website https://www.brendaridgley.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brendaridgley/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC73PSKAWMaEvXS0SaH7NDaA

📺 Watch the episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLOpw5ui4uxJHx0tLFVtpnfSkpObfc4d-K

You can find Katie at:
website: burntpancakes.com
YouTube: @burnt.pancakes
Instagram: @burntpancakeswithkatie
Email: katie@burntpancakes.com

🚽 Did you know Katie is also a Certified Potty Trainer? 🚽

☎️ Schedule a 1:1 chat today: Schedule Here
💻 Digital Potty Training Course HERE
📖 Potty Training E-Book HERE
🆓 FREE potty training resources HERE
Instagram: @itspottytime
Tiktok: @itspottytime_

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At what point do you officially realize you’re getting old? Is it when a 7:00 movie suddenly feels way too late? When you start saying, “They don’t make music like they used to”? Or when you’re out on a walk and hear a bird and immediately tell your husband to pull out his bird identification app?

In this episode I share all the signs that my husband and I may have officially entered our “old” era.

From Jake's unexpected love of birds, history biographies, nonfiction, and researching vacuums our their collection of vitamins and inability to commit to a movie that ends after 9:30, getting older is starting to look a lot different than we expected.

Katie also shares the hilarious results of our Spotify ages.

But despite the bird apps, early bedtimes, vacuum research, vitamins, and throwback playlists, there’s something really great about this stage of life. Because even though we might be getting older, we can still feel young and maybe getting older just means becoming more comfortable enjoying exactly what we enjoy.

In this episode, we talk about:

• The moment Katie realized she and Jake might officially be old
• How Jake unexpectedly became a bird person
• Why a 7:00 movie now feels dangerously late
• Saying “They don’t make music like they used to” and realizing the music from high school is almost 30 years old
• Jake's surprising obsession with researching vacuums
• The growing collection of vitamins in their house
• Jake's Spotify age being in his 60s thanks to history, biographies, and nonfiction
• Why Katie’s Spotify age was around 16 because her boys hijacked her account
• Why getting older doesn’t necessarily mean feeling old
• Finding the humor and joy in this stage of marriage and life

Question for you: What was the moment you realized you were officially getting old? Was it getting excited about a new appliance? Going to bed early? Complaining about today’s music? Or having strong opinions about your thermostat?

📺 Watch the episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLOpw5ui4uxJHx0tLFVtpnfSkpObfc4d-K

You can find Katie at:
website: burntpancakes.com
YouTube: @burnt.pancakes
Instagram: @burntpancakeswithkatie
Email: katie@burntpancakes.com

🚽 Did you know Katie is also a Certified Potty Trainer? 🚽

☎️ Schedule a 1:1 chat today: Schedule Here
💻 Digital Potty Training Course HERE
📖 Potty Training E-Book HERE
🆓 FREE potty training resources HERE
Instagram: @itspottytime
Tiktok: @itspottytime_

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This is a throwback from August 2024

Join me this week on Burnt Pancakes as I return from a rejuvenating summer hiatus to share the emotional rollercoaster as my youngest, my baby, starts school. Hear my candid thoughts on the developmental differences and the internal debates I faced about early academics, and why, despite my reservations, we ultimately decided this was the best move for our family.

With all my kids now in school, I find myself entering an exhilarating new phase of motherhood. From the anxiety of that first drop-off to the unexpected freedom of having more time to focus on myself, I reflect on this transformative period. . Plus, I'll be sharing some heartwarming encouragement for moms with younger kids and inviting you to join me for virtual coffee dates to build a supportive community. Get ready for a sneak peek at some incredible interviews lined up for future episodes, and let's navigate this new chapter together!

📺 Watch the episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLOpw5ui4uxJHx0tLFVtpnfSkpObfc4d-K

You can find Katie at:
website: burntpancakes.com
YouTube: @burnt.pancakes
Instagram: @burntpancakeswithkatie
Email: katie@burntpancakes.com

🚽 Did you know Katie is also a Certified Potty Trainer? 🚽

☎️ Schedule a 1:1 chat today: Schedule Here
💻 Digital Potty Training Course HERE
📖 Potty Training E-Book HERE
🆓 FREE potty training resources HERE
Instagram: @itspottytime
Tiktok: @itspottytime_

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Summer is supposed to be magical, right?

Lazy mornings. Family adventures. Beach days. Pool days. Popsicles. Making memories with our kids.

So why do so many of us find ourselves counting down the days until school starts?

In this episode of Burnt Pancakes: Momversations, I'm getting real about the less glamorous side of being a summer mom. I had visions of creating this amazing, carefree summer with my boys, but the reality has been a little different. I'm tired. I'm overstimulated. I'm spending a fortune on snacks. My house is constantly messy, and I feel like I'm saying the same things over and over again.

"Close the door!"

"Flush the toilet!"

"No, you can't have a snack. We just had breakfast!"

"Get off the video game!"

"Go outside and play!"

"Stop bothering your brother!"

And then there's the complicated part of wanting my kids to have the freedom to just go outside and be kids, while also worrying about neighbors, accidents, arguments and whether they're bothering anyone.

I'll share a story about my boys riding bikes in the neighborhood, a situation where a neighborhood kid got hurt while playing with my kids, and the guilt and anxiety that followed—even though it was an accident.

I'm also talking about the pressure to keep kids academically engaged over the summer, my attempt at summer schoolwork that quickly became a battle, the never-ending snacks and grocery bills, screen-time struggles, preteen attitudes, sibling fighting, and the guilt I feel when I admit that sometimes...

I just want school to start.

Because maybe we can love our kids, cherish these years and appreciate summer while also admitting that we're exhausted.

In this episode, we talk about:

• The summer we imagine vs. the summer we actually experience
• The endless snacks and grocery bills
• The constant noise and overstimulation
• The never-ending summer mess
• Parenting preteens during summer break
• The things moms say on repeat all summer
• The constant battle over screens and video games
• Wanting our kids to go outside and play—but worrying about neighbors and accidents
• The guilt that comes when another child gets hurt while playing with our kids
• Why giving older kids freedom can still come with a huge mental load
• The pressure to make summer educational
• Why I gave up on summer schoolwork
• Feeling guilty for wishing school would start
• Why loving summer and being exhausted by summer can both be true
• Letting go of the pressure to create the "perfect" summer

📺 Watch the episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLOpw5ui4uxJHx0tLFVtpnfSkpObfc4d-K

You can find Katie at:
website: burntpancakes.com
YouTube: @burnt.pancakes
Instagram: @burntpancakeswithkatie
Email: katie@burntpancakes.com

🚽 Did you know Katie is also a Certified Potty Trainer? 🚽

☎️ Schedule a 1:1 chat today: Schedule Here
💻 Digital Potty Training Course HERE
📖 Potty Training E-Book HERE
🆓 FREE potty training resources HERE
Instagram: @itspottytime
Tiktok: @itspottytime_

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Your sweet little kid is suddenly spending all their time in their bedroom, doesn't want to participate in family activities, and somehow speaks a language you don't understand.

Welcome to raising a preteen! 😂

In this episode we're talking about the weird, funny, sometimes emotional transition from having a little kid to raising a preteen. It's a stage where our kids are becoming more independent, craving privacy, and sometimes acting like hanging out with their parents is the absolute worst thing they could possibly imagine.

And then there's the language...

Because what exactly does "bruh," "buns," "cheeks," "chud," and "twin" mean?!

And if your preteen tells you "W Mom," congratulations! You've officially earned a win. 🙌

We'll also talk about the phrase every preteen mom knows all too well:

"In a sec."

Need them to get dressed?
"In a sec."

Take out the trash?
"In a sec."

Get in the car?
"In a sec."

And somehow, "in a sec" can mean anything from 30 seconds to approximately three business days. 😂

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why your preteen suddenly doesn't want to hang out with you anymore
• The emotional side of watching your little kid become more independent
• Why they would rather be in their bedroom than participate in family activities
• How to stay connected when your child doesn't seem interested in connecting
• Why preteens seem to develop their own language overnight
• Decoding bruh, buns, cheeks, chud, and twin
• What "W Mom" means—and why getting one feels like a parenting trophy
• Why "in a sec" is apparently not an actual measurement of time
• How preteens can seem so grown up one minute and still so little the next
• Finding new ways to connect with your child as they grow
• Why this stage can be bittersweet but also really fun

The preteen years can be confusing. We're learning how to give our kids more independence while still reminding them that we're here when they need us.

And yes, we're also trying to figure out what the heck they're talking about.

Because apparently we're raising kids and learning a new language at the same time.

If you're in the preteen stage too, you're definitely not alone!

📺 Watch the episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLOpw5ui4uxJHx0tLFVtpnfSkpObfc4d-K

You can find Katie at:
website: burntpancakes.com
YouTube: @burnt.pancakes
Instagram: @burntpancakeswithkatie
Email: katie@burntpancakes.com

🚽 Did you know Katie is also a Certified Potty Trainer? 🚽

☎️ Schedule a 1:1 chat today: Schedule Here
💻 Digital Potty Training Course HERE
📖 Potty Training E-Book HERE
🆓 FREE potty training resources HERE
Instagram: @itspottytime
Tiktok: @itspottytime_

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