Welcome back to Broke is Boring. And today we're gonna talk about how to raise kids who know what the real value of wealth means. As moms here, raising kids in, in these times. We really want to teach values to teach them that generosity is so important. And that freedom that they can get to because their adulthood is gonna look completely different from our adulthood. And I really want to lean into not glorifying that grind culture that we've become so familiar with, I don't want my kids to, when I ask them what's new with them, them to just say, oh, I'm busy. Like I don't wanna keep glorifying being busy. Okay. I have a story with this. So my 10-year-old just applied to a writing contest and she was really proud of it. But she wrote about a story about when we were in Barcelona this past year. For her 10th birthday and my husband and I try to teach our girls to live with an open hand, so instead of a closed fist. And what that means is when you have an open hand, you can give and receive. And when you have a closed fist, you can't lose any money that's in your hand, but you also can't receive any. So we have this open hand concept. We've really like drilled it in, you know, really taught it a lot throughout our parenthood. As we've been parents, so we're in Barcelona, we have this banana from the cruise ship, and it's been in our bag all day and we're on the beach and it is like kind of brown and, you know, smashed a little. But we got it that day. It's still good, but we're not gonna eat it. And we turn around and there's a guy digging through the trash behind us and we said, Hey, why don't we go give this banana to that guy? And. Our 10 year old's like, okay, I'll go do it. And so she did. So she went and gave the guy the banana and instead of us throwing this away, right, and he immediately said, Gracia, and then he started eating it. He walked away and just opened it up and started eating it. So my daughter wrote about that, and she just wrote that what she learned was that she had to be brave because she was in a foreign country. She was talking to a stranger. You know, my husband went with her, of course, but. And then the other lesson she learned is that you, you don't have to speak the same language to be kind. And then when we are reading it to you, your lesson was also that like it costs $0 to be kind. And she, so she added that to the, to the submission for the contest. And it was just like such a proud parenting moment that she, this was what she wanted to write about and reflect on for this contest. I love that. And it just shows who she is as a kid and her heart and you as parents on full display. I'm really proud of her. I'm proud of her too. Thanks. Thanks girl. So like, what does, what does wealth mean to you? Like, again, we always go just toward the financial wealth because that's what we were always taught. And then when I read that book, five types of Wealth that really hit home, like for me being. Together for lunch and dinner every single day. I know it's such a gift because probably 90% of American families are either not present for one or both of those meals, and I know a lot of families out there haven't had a sit down meal together in ages because they pack the evening schedule with. Sports and practice and work and all these things that for them to just sit down and ask how each other's day was, is something that just doesn't really happen. So for me, that's like a huge time wealth thing that I, I really love when I ask someone how they are and they immediately say they're busy. It's, it's a trigger for me because busy is a choice. And if you have a full calendar. You show it to me, I bet I can see the choices you've made to fill that calendar. To me, wealth is an empty calendar, an availability and an openness to receive new ideas. Like, oh, do you want to go to lunch? Sure, because I'm available. And being able to be fully present parents with the girls. When we are working on our phones, they'll be like, oh, why are you on your phone? And we're like because it's two in the afternoon on a Tuesday. This is how we work. And most people have parents who are at work and then the kids are in school. And also then you would go to an afterschool program and I wouldn't see you till this evening. And then we would probably take you to a, some sport. Sport, right? So like, your life is not, your life is different and you're welcome. And you're welcome. Another thing I, another thing I think is super important as Luca grows up is giving him that abundance without spoiling him. And he, as a 4-year-old, a normal 4-year-old is we're experiencing, you know, we're going into all these markets on our world crews, and he's just, I wanna buy that. I wanna buy that. I wanna buy that. And I just have to keep saying, no, no, no. Or I didn't bring money for that. And he. Probably thinks that we have no money at all. But I'm trying to, you know, not lean into buying him anything he ever ...
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