In Episode 209 of our “Things That REALLY Matter” series on Beyond Chronic Burnout, Carole Jean Whittington and Becca Lory Hector dive deep into the often-overlooked world of subtle trauma—especially how it uniquely impacts autistic women.

Together, they explore how lifelong patterns like people-pleasing, hyper-vigilance, emotional suppression, and the fear of being “too much” are often rooted in trauma we were never taught to recognize. From personal stories to practical tools, this episode is a must-watch if you’re navigating burnout, masking, or the struggle to prioritize your own needs.

💬 “People-pleasing at the expense of your own well-being is a giant trap. It masquerades as politeness or kindness.” — Becca Lory Hector

💬 “I reclaim calm. It is mine. It belongs to me.” — Carole Jean Whittington

🔎 Topics Covered:

• Subtle trauma in autistic women
  

• The impact of masking and emotional suppression
  

• Communication, boundaries, and burnout recovery
  

• Self-worth without performance
  

• How to reclaim calm and rest without guilt
  

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In this powerful episode of Things That REALLY Matter, Carole Jean Whittington and Becca Lory Hector dive deep into one of the most toxic messages autistic women have been fed: that we must hustle to be worthy of rest.

From masking-induced guilt to inherited scarcity mindsets, this episode explores how internalized capitalism, neurodivergent nervous systems, and societal pressure collide—leaving us burnt out and disconnected from our natural rhythms.

✨ Carole Jean shares her personal story of panic responses to rest

✨ Becca opens up about growing up in survival mode and redefining value

✨ Together they unpack the myth of “earning rest” and offer pathways to healing

You’ll hear how living in alignment with seasonal and moon cycles can help autistic women move away from hustle culture and back into the comfort of their own bodies. Plus, they offer micro-challenges and self-awareness practices you can try today.

Whether you're an autistic woman unmasking your values or a helping professional guiding others through burnout, this conversation will ground you in what really matters.

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In this cozy and personal solo episode, Carole Jean Whittington shares her real-life journey of rest, healing, and unexpected adventures—including a nasty bee sting, a crooked pool, and an invitation to direct the very first CASY Summer Camp through Cultural Autism Studies at Yale.

Tune in as Carole Jean offers a beautiful reflection on what it means to truly listen to your body, honor your limits, and embrace a new kind of rest—one layered with play, creativity, and self-discovery.

🌹 Plus, she pulls a card from her Rose Deck (The Fertile Void) and explores how this sacred season of becoming is guiding her—and maybe guiding you, too.

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