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Have you noticed that as you get older, what used to turn you on just isn't working anymore? In this episode of Sex for Couples, certified sex therapist Heather Shannon welcomes Suzanne Noble, host of Sex Advice for Seniors, for a candid conversation about sex after 50. Together, they explore changing desire, menopause, erection concerns, and the belief that your sex life has an expiration date.

Suzanne shares her experiences with intimacy in later life, from navigating physical changes to building anticipation and getting creative with pleasure. We discuss why adapting your approach can help you feel more confident and less pressured, how to ask for what you need, and what getting older has taught Suzanne about her body and relationships. Expect practical ideas, honest stories, and plenty of humor.

In this episode, we get into:

• Myths about aging, sexual desire, and when people supposedly stop wanting sex

• Suzanne's experiences with vaginal estrogen and testosterone, and advocating for care

• Changing arousal patterns and why anticipation, touch, and scheduling can help

• Erection concerns, performance anxiety, and pleasure beyond penetration

• Adapting to mobility challenges with positioning, pillows, and creativity

• Body confidence, communication, and giving yourself permission to take your time

• Dating younger men and how Suzanne's relationship priorities have changed

Connect with Suzanne:

Website and podcast: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com

Social accounts and resources: https://linktr.ee/sexadviceforseniors

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Explore working together: https://HeatherShannon.co

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ABOUT THIS EPISODE

Feeling sexually frustrated or rejected in your relationship? In this solo episode of Sex for Couples, I’m breaking down three common mistakes I see men make when their female partners have less desire—and how those approaches can accidentally make connection harder. We explore why physical and emotional safety matter for female desire, how mental load and resentment can affect intimacy, and what it looks like to help your partner feel understood and supported.

Your sexual needs matter, too. I share how to express them without turning sex into a negotiation, obligation, or another item on your partner’s to-do list. We also explore how repeated rejection can create a scarcity mindset, why low libido often has several overlapping causes, and how to move toward more confidence, curiosity, flirting, and fun. The goal is a sexual connection you both genuinely want.

In this episode:

• Why emotional safety extends beyond physical boundaries to feeling heard, respected, and free from sexual pressure.
• How unequal mental load, decision fatigue, and a “project manager” dynamic can get in the way of desire.
• Practical ways to take initiative and share responsibility without making your partner assign every task.
• Why bargaining for sexual contact can create obligation and negative associations with sex.
• How to communicate your sexual needs and feelings while staying curious about your partner’s experience.
• What a sexual scarcity mindset looks like—and how to start rebuilding confidence when you’ve felt unwanted.
• How stress, health, hormones, relationship dynamics, and daily routines can overlap to affect libido.

Wondering what’s keeping you stuck? Take my free quiz, Why You’re Stuck In A Sex Rut: https://TheBetterBedroom.com

Want personalized support? Request a consultation for coaching with me at https://HeatherShannon.co

Stuck in a sex rut? Take my free quiz to discover what could be keeping you stuck—and where to start: https://TheBetterBedroom.com

What do you do when your partner comes out as asexual and you have a high sex drive? How do you get in the mood when life feels like an endless to-do list? In this listener Q&A episode of Sex for Couples, I’m answering your questions as an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. We explore mismatched desire, different ways to experience intimacy, and how to stay curious about your options when your sex life takes an unexpected turn.

I also discuss how hormonal changes throughout the menstrual cycle, pregnancy, breastfeeding, and perimenopause can influence libido—and why hormones aren’t the whole picture. Plus, I share my advice for building a satisfying relationship from the beginning, including talking openly about sex, maintaining your individuality, and bringing more playfulness into your connection. Whether you’re navigating a desire discrepancy or simply feeling too busy for intimacy, this episode offers starting points for less pressure and more connection.

In this episode, we cover:

• Navigating a relationship with an asexual partner, including conversations about boundaries, sexual needs, and shared intimacy.
• Why persistent, painful arousal deserves medical attention—and exploring the emotional needs that can accompany a desire for sex.
• Making room for intimacy when you’re overwhelmed, with mental foreplay, responsive desire, and small moments of connection.
• How menstrual cycles and life stages such as breastfeeding and perimenopause can affect sexual desire.
• Talking about sexual preferences and giving feedback in a positive, playful way—including trying a “kissing lab.”
• Keeping curiosity and attraction alive through individuality, novelty, emotional honesty, and a shared willingness to grow.

Want personalized support with your sex life or relationship? Reach out to explore coaching with me at https://HeatherShannon.co