In this powerful debut episode of The “That’s Not Okay” podcast, host Alyssa dives deep into the painful—but necessary—process of naming and understanding toxic relationship dynamics. From emotional abuse and blame-shifting to spiritual manipulation and narcissism, Alyssa shares lessons from her own journey—offering hope to those trapped in painful cycles and calling in those ready to change. Whether you’ve been gaslit into silence or you’re beginning to notice patterns in your own behavior, this episode is your invitation to grow, heal, and reclaim your love life.

Topics include: what actually makes a relationship abusive (not just “conflict”), why defensiveness, blame, and punishment are major red flags, how spiritual abuse keeps people trapped in harmful relationships, the danger of dating someone’s potential, and a message of hope for people who want to change.

Resources mentioned in the episode include The Narc Mother-in-Law Podcast, which explores the impact of narcissistic in-laws on romantic relationships; Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft, a foundational book on understanding abuse; and Should I Stay or Should I Go? by Lundy Bancroft and JAC Patrissi, a practical guide to evaluating whether a relationship is worth saving.

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