Episode 15: Emotional Complexity: When Two Things Are True

In this episode of All the Feels, Lauren explores what it means to live in emotional complexity, especially during times when the world feels heavy, heartbreaking, or overwhelming and your personal life still contains moments of beauty, safety, and joy.

If you’ve ever felt guilty for feeling okay when others are suffering…confused by experiencing gratitude alongside grief…or unsure how to hold multiple emotional truths at once without shutting down…

This conversation is for you.

Lauren gently unpacks why opposing emotions are not a problem to solve, but a human capacity to develop — and how learning to hold emotional complexity can reduce shame, prevent burnout, and help you stay connected to yourself and others.

• Why joy is not a betrayal during times of grief or global distress
  

• How guilt, fairness stories, and nervous system dysregulation complicate our emotional lives
  

• What it means to hold both sorrow and gratitude without collapsing into shame
  

• The difference between emotional complexity and emotional confusion
  

• How unmet emotions go underground and why they “come out sideways”
  

• Practical ways to allow multiple emotions without flooding or bypassing
  

• Why emotional nuance is a sign of aliveness, not weakness
  

This episode is an invitation to stop simplifying your inner world and start honoring the full spectrum of what it means to be human.

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Take the next step in your self-care journey

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It’s the perfect companion to the work we explore here on All the Feels.

👉 Get your free copy of The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook HERE

Connect with Lauren

• Instagram: @the_emotionscoach

• Website: laurencarlislebrown.com

• Freebie: The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook

• Emotions Crash Course: JOIN HERE

Episode 14: Emotional Unconsciousness: The Hidden Cost of Not Feeling

In this episode of All the Feels, Lauren gently names something many of us experience without realizing it: emotional unconsciousness.

This isn’t about being broken, dramatic, or “bad at feelings.” It’s about what happens when we were never taught how to be with our emotions safely — and how that lack of awareness quietly shapes our lives, relationships, and inner world.

Lauren explores how emotional unconsciousness often shows up as people-pleasing, overthinking, numbing, shame spirals, and disconnection — not because something is wrong with you, but because your system learned ways to protect you. She also shares why awareness can feel hard to access, how unconscious patterns form early, and why compassion is the doorway to change.

Most importantly, this episode offers a grounded, doable path forward. Emotional consciousness isn’t about feeling everything all the time — it’s about building capacity, one small moment of awareness at a time.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What emotional unconsciousness actually looks like in daily life
  

• Why unconscious emotional patterns are protective — not failures
  

• The real cost of staying disconnected from your feelings
  

• Five gentle ways to increase emotional awareness without overwhelm
  

• How curiosity, safety, and support create lasting emotional change

This conversation is an invitation — not to fix yourself, but to begin turning toward yourself with more understanding, compassion, and trust.

Want to Go Deeper? ⁠Join The Emotions Crash Course

If this episode resonated and you’re ready to build real emotional skill, The Emotions Crash Course offers practical tools to help you understand your emotions, stop treating them like problems, and create real relief in your day-to-day life.

✨ Learn more about The Emotions Crash Course HERE

Take the next step in your self-care journey

Download The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook: Lauren’s free guide to help you slow down, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with what truly nourishes you.

It’s the perfect companion to the work we explore here on All the Feels.

👉 Get your free copy of The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook HERE

Connect with Lauren

• Instagram: @the_emotionscoach

• Website: laurencarlislebrown.com

• Freebie: The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook

• Emotions Crash Course: JOIN HERE

Episode 13: Emotional Granularity

Emotional Granularity: The Many Shades of Our Emotions

In this episode of All the Feels, Lauren explores emotional granularity, the ability to notice, distinguish, and name your emotional experiences with greater clarity, nuance, and compassion.

Most people don’t struggle because they feel too much. They struggle because they were never taught how to understand what they’re feeling. Emotional granularity offers a gentle, practical way to build that understanding, not by fixing emotions, but by expanding the language you have available to describe what’s already happening in your body.

In this episode, you’ll explore:

• The difference between emotions (body sensations) and feelings (the meaning we assign to them)
  

• How emotional concepts shape the way we experience and interpret feelings
  

• Why more emotional language creates more choice, clarity, and self-trust
  

• How emotional granularity exists on a spectrum — and why wherever you are makes sense
  

• Why this work is invitational, not something you need to “get right”
  

Through accessible examples and thoughtful metaphors, Lauren invites you to see your emotional world not as something to control, but as a rich landscape to explore, one shade at a time.

Want to Go Deeper? ⁠Join The Emotions Crash Course⁠

If this episode resonated and you’re ready to build real emotional skill, The Emotions Crash Course offers practical tools to help you understand your emotions, stop treating them like problems, and create real relief in your day-to-day life.

✨ Learn more about The Emotions Crash Course HERE

Resources Mentioned

• How Emotions Are Made by Lisa Feldman Barrett

• Untamed by Glennon Doyle

• Feelings & Needs Reference Guide (Nonviolent Communication)

• Emotions Wheel

Take the next step in your self-care journey

Download The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook — Lauren’s free guide to help you slow down, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with what truly nourishes you.

It’s the perfect companion to the work we explore here on All the Feels.

👉 Get your free copy of The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook HERE

Connect with Lauren

• Instagram: @the_emotionscoach

• Website: laurencarlislebrown.com

• Freebie: The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook

• Emotions Crash Course: JOIN HERE

Episode 12: How to Trust Your Inner Nudges: Learning Your Body’s Yes and No

Welcome back to All the Feels, sweet friends.In this episode, Lauren explores how to tune out cultural noise, especially around the New Year, and reconnect with your own inner timing, rhythm, and wisdom. Instead of making decisions from pressure, trends, or “shoulds,” this conversation invites you to learn how to listen to your body and emotions as reliable guides.This episode is about developing the skill of discernment: knowing when something is a true yes, a true no, or simply a not-right-now.

✨ In this episode, you’ll explore:

• Why calendar dates and cultural trends don’t override your biology or emotional state
  
• How urgency and pressure can pull you out of alignment
  
• The difference between external influence and internal wisdom
  
• How emotions function as an inner compass
  
• What a subtle yes vs. a subtle no feels like in the body
  
• Why pausing is often the most powerful choice you can make

🧭 A Key Takeaway

You don’t need louder guidance, better discipline, or the “right” plan.You need attunement.When you slow down enough to include your body and emotions in the conversation, you stop building your life from pressure and start building it from truth.

🌿 Try This This WeekT

he next time you’re making a small, low-pressure decision, pause and ask:Does this feel like a yes in my body right now—or a no?Notice sensations like lightness, openness, or gentle buzzing versus heaviness, tightening, or closing. This is how you begin learning your body’s language.

Want to Go Deeper? ⁠⁠Join The Emotions Crash Course⁠⁠

If this episode resonated and you’re ready to build real emotional skill, The Emotions Crash Course offers practical tools to help you understand your emotions, stop treating them like problems, and create real relief in your day-to-day life.

✨ ⁠Learn more about The Emotions Crash Course HERE

Take the next step in your self-care journey

Download The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook

Lauren’s free guide to help you slow down, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with what truly nourishes you.

It’s the perfect companion to the work we explore here on All the Feels.

👉 Get your free copy of The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook HERE

Connect with Lauren:

Instagram: @the_emotionscoach
Website: laurencarlislebrown.com
Freebie: The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook

Emotions Crash Course: ⁠JOIN HERE

🎧 Episode 11: Co-Regulation — How Calm Calms and Stress Stresses

Welcome back to All the Feels with Lauren Carlisle Brown. 💛
If you’re listening in real time, this is the first week of January 2026, and Lauren is kicking off the new year by shifting the podcast into a powerful next chapter.

The first 10 episodes were designed to lay the foundation: the philosophy, the tools, and the how of feeling—not just why feelings matter, but how to work with them in real life.
Now we’re moving from self-focused emotional skill-building into something deeply relational: co-regulation.

Co-regulation is the (often invisible) process of one person’s nervous system influencing another’s—through breath, tone, posture, eye contact, presence, touch, and even silence. It’s why someone’s steadiness can soften your body… and someone’s stress can spike your nervous system instantly.

This episode explores both sides of that dynamic:

• Co-regulation: calm calms
• Co-dysregulation: stress stresses

And most importantly, Lauren teaches how co-regulation is not just “sweet” or “supportive”—it’s biological, deeply wired into your system, and also a skill you can practice.

✨ In this episode, you’ll learn

• Why Lauren doesn’t love the term “emotional regulation” (and what she teaches instead)
• What co-regulation is and how it works beneath the surface
• The difference between co-regulation and co-dysregulation
• How your nervous system constantly asks: “Am I safe here?”
• The cues your body reads—breath, tone, posture, proximity, eye contact, touch, silence
• Why calm people can help you soften (and why dysregulated people can tighten your whole system)
• How trauma and unpredictable environments can lead to hypervigilance
• How to begin noticing who helps your system soften vs. who you brace around
• How to become a co-regulating presence without absorbing someone else’s overwhelm

🧠 Co-Regulation, Explained Simply

Co-regulation is what happens when one nervous system helps another nervous system settle.It’s the “exhale” you feel around someone steady.

It’s the way your child calms when you stay grounded.It’s why a hug, a handhold, or a quiet presence can undo you in the best way.It’s also why tension spreads fast—because your body is always reading the room and adjusting.

🌿 Reflection Practice for the Week:

As you move through this week, notice:

• Who helps your breath slow down?
• Who helps your shoulders drop?
• Who do you feel safe enough to “melt” around?
• Who do you chronically brace around?
• When are you the grounding presence in the room?

This isn’t about judgment. It’s about honoring your body’s wisdom.

Take the next step in your self-care journey:

Download The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook — Lauren’s free guide to help you slow down, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with what truly nourishes you.

It’s the perfect companion to the work we explore here on All the Feels.

👉 Get your free copy of The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook HERE

Connect with Lauren

• Instagram: @the_emotionscoach
  

• Website: laurencarlislebrown.com

  • Freebie: The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook

Episode 10: Inside the Feeling Room: Processing Emotions in Real Time

Welcome back to All the Feels. 💛

Today, Lauren Carlisle Brown invites you into “the feeling room” — a rare, unedited look at what emotional processing actually sounds like in real time.

In this deeply vulnerable episode, Lauren shares a real recording of herself working through self-doubt, fear, and comparison on the very first day she sat down to record this podcast. You’ll hear how she uses breath, compassion, and truth-telling to move from overwhelm to calm — and how creating safety in the body allows emotions to shift and release instead of staying stuck.

This isn’t a conversation about feelings. It’s a demonstration of how to be with them, how to meet what’s hard with softness, curiosity, and care.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What emotional processing actually sounds like in real life
  

• How to talk to your emotions instead of about them
  

• Simple ways to regulate your nervous system when emotions feel intense
  

• Why compassion and curiosity create emotional safety
  

• How to move through self-doubt without letting it take over
  

Reflection for You

As you listen, notice what comes up in your own body. Which emotions feel familiar? Which ones do you resist?

Remember — you can do this work too. You can learn to hold space for your emotions in a way that heals.

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Take the next step in your self-care journey:

Download The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook — Lauren’s free guide to help you slow down, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with what truly nourishes you.

It’s the perfect companion to the work we explore here on All the Feels.

👉 Get your free copy of The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook HERE

Connect with Lauren

• Instagram: @the_emotionscoach
  

• Website: laurencarlislebrown.com
  

• Freebie: The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook